Time 4 Change, LLC

07/21/2025

A recent study has revealed that s***m cells can carry traces of stress experienced by the father, potentially influencing offspring health and development. Researchers found that environmental stressors, such as psychological stress or trauma, can induce epigenetic changes in s***m—modifications that affect gene expression without altering the DNA sequence.

These changes, primarily in DNA methylation patterns and small non-coding RNAs, act as molecular "memories" of the father’s stress. When s***m fertilizes an egg, these epigenetic markers may be transmitted to the embryo, potentially shaping traits like stress resilience, behavior, or susceptibility to mental health disorders in the offspring.

The study highlights how stress affects the hypothalamic-pituitary-adrenal (HPA) axis, which regulates cortisol production, leaving molecular signatures in s***m. Experiments in animal models, and limited human studies, suggest these alterations can influence the offspring’s stress response systems, potentially leading to anxiety-like behaviors or metabolic issues.

However, the exact mechanisms of transmission and their long-term impact remain under investigation. This research underscores the importance of paternal health before conception and raises questions about how lifestyle and environmental factors shape future generations. It also emphasizes the need for further studies to explore interventions that could mitigate these effects.

07/12/2025

When a child grows up in a home where the emotional tone depends on how well they can keep their parent calm, happy, or stable, they don’t learn to recognize their own emotions. They learn to scan the room. They learn to read micro-expressions. They learn when to stay quiet, when to cheer someone up, and when to avoid certain topics. Not because they want to but because they have to. Their nervous system adapts to keep the peace. That is parentification.

This type of parentification doesn’t always look like taking care of siblings or paying bills. Sometimes it looks like being the emotional support system for a parent who never learned to manage their own distress. It looks like a child becoming a therapist, mediator, or emotional container. It’s often invisible from the outside. The family might seem close or even affectionate, but underneath that closeness is a child who learned that their feelings take up too much space. A child who learned that being “good” means keeping everything inside so no one else gets upset.

So what happens when that child becomes an adult?

They might struggle to answer the question “How do you feel?” because they were never taught to check in with themselves. They were too busy managing everyone else. Their body might hold tension they don’t even notice. They might default to caretaking in relationships. They might feel guilty for having needs, or selfish for expressing them. They might overanalyze how other people feel, while feeling completely disconnected from their own experience.

This is not just emotional neglect. It’s a distortion of roles that wires a child to suppress their internal world for the sake of someone else’s. And that wiring doesn’t magically undo itself in adulthood.

But it can be rewired. Slowly. Through safe relationships. Through somatic work. Through learning how to sit with emotion without rushing to fix it. Through reminding yourself, again and again, that your job is no longer to manage someone else’s pain, it’s to get to know your own.

06/28/2025

No offense to children!

This isn’t judgment. It’s a mirror. Most adults weren’t supported in growing up all the way, so when children act like children, it pokes at the unseen and unmet places inside. Instead of co-regulating, many adults react. Instead of guiding, they control. Instead of modeling maturity, they mirror the chaos. This childish behavior might be justified with thoughts like—Well, if they had just listened the first time or My dad would have xyz, so my kids are lucky. Adults do this to deflect and distract. To keep themselves at a distance from themselves. Ultimately, it hurts your child and also your relationship. This is the kind of end of life regret many people face. We can’t run from ourselves forever.

These cycles don’t have to continue. You can start new cycles. Children don’t need perfect parents. They need present ones. Grown-ups who are growing too.

Let’s stop expecting emotional regulation from kids while excusing dysregulation in adults. Let’s raise children who don’t have to unlearn their childhood. It’s not about being permissive, it’s about being intentional because when teens feel respected and are engaged in meaningful, purposeful and connected ways—they rise.

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06/20/2025

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06/07/2025

Let that sink in

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05/30/2025

There’s a law of emotional conservation.

Just like in physics—nothing truly disappears.
Emotions don’t vanish. They store.
They wait.
They resurface.

If there’s a truth to be accepted—it waits.
If there’s a lesson to be learned—it lingers.
If there’s grief, shame, anger, or heartbreak that hasn’t been processed—it stays in the system until it’s ready to move.

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You can live a great life with repressed emotions.
Many people do.
But eventually…
They catch up.

That’s why so many people get sick after a “good” season.
Or why physical healing stirs emotional storms.
When the body starts to detox—the soul does too.

It’s common with colon cleanses, parasite flushes, liver flushes.
The physical shift creates an energetic opening—
And the emotions you thought were gone come rushing back.

You feel things you haven’t felt since your first heartbreak.
Since the breakup. The betrayal. The shame.
You remember things you didn’t even know your body remembered.

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This isn’t dysfunction.
This is intelligence.
This is your body’s way of bringing everything to the surface—
So it can be seen. Felt. Released.

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If you’re doing deep healing work and old emotions rise up—
Don’t panic.
Don’t suppress.
Don’t pathologize it.
Honor the release. Learn the lesson. Let it move.

Because what the mind forgets…
The body keeps.
And what the heart avoids…
The soul repeats.

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05/28/2025

Watch your words.

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05/12/2025

This is how the United States government honors its Treaty and Trust responsibilities to Tribal nations?

Ohkay Owingeh Pueblo and Santa Clara Pueblo both have their libraries on the chopping block because of unevaluated and indiscriminate cuts to the limited funding they get that is codified in statute?

Like I’ve said from the beginning of this “DOGE” experiment, I’m all for and have always been for the reduction of waste, fraud, and abuse in our federal budgets and spending, but we need to be measured and evaluate what and how we are cutting because it is VERY obvious that cuts are being made strictly along dollar amount lines, not identifying whether something is actually waste, fraud, and/or abuse.

The United States government signed Treaties and codified trust responsibilities into federal law with and for Tribes, Nations, Pueblos, and Bands of Indigenous People in this country and they should uphold those.

This is not it!

Federally recognized tribes say the Trump administration cut the grant money they use to sustain the local libraries that serve as anchors in their most rural communities.