New Insights for Mental Wellness

12/30/2025

Being parentified will have you feeling resentful of having to solve your own problems in adulthood

12/22/2025

Attachement styles 1st date edition:

Anxious: "I've met my soulmate!" Tells everyone

Avoidant: "Eh, they will probably leave soon enough, might as well have a good time." Tells no one

Fearful Avoidant: "They probably hated me" Blocks and ghosts and complains to friends, tries to figure out what is so wrong with them

Secure: "They were cool, I'd like to hang out again" Tells their date and makes plans to hang out again.

Let that sink in

12/17/2025

Staying in a relationship when you don't want to be with someone eventually leads to resentment and separation anyway, and if the truth comes out that you were only staying so they didn't get hurt by you: you will create a sense of betrayl, which then causes the person to question everything they thought they knew about you and the relationship. 𝗜𝘁 𝗺𝗮𝗸𝗲𝘀 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗺 𝗾𝘂𝗲𝘀𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗺𝘀𝗲𝗹𝘃𝗲𝘀 𝗮𝗻𝗱 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗶𝗿 𝗼𝘄𝗻 𝗶𝗻𝘁𝘂𝗶𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻 𝗶𝗻 𝘁𝗵𝗲𝗶𝗿 𝗻𝗲𝘅𝘁 𝗿𝗲𝗹𝗮𝘁𝗶𝗼𝗻𝘀𝗵𝗶𝗽.

That dosn't actaully seem so charitable huh?
Let that sink in

12/16/2025

Staying in a relationship to prevent hurt, views the other person as an emotional chairty case who can't handle rejection

Let thank sink in

12/16/2025

Staying in a relationship just because you don't want to hurt someone's feelings co-depenance: "I'm only ok if you are ok, so I can't leave you, because then you won't be ok."

12/15/2025

3 Reasons that Rejection is a gift:

Clear direct rejection, never feels good in the moment, but it prevents wasting your time, energy, effort, hopes and dreams for both parties

Rejection completly closes doors, and doens't leave behind breadcrubs of confusion, hope, empathy, worry, or rumination.

Clear, direct rejection is respectful, as allows both parties to move on free from any guilt of confusion, miscommunication, or questioned loyalty.

12/14/2025

Consider this before you try to save your next partner:

Who you chose as a partner is a"

Mental Health Decision
Financial Health Decision
Physical Health Decision
Career Health Decision
Social Health Decision
Spritual Health Decision

12/12/2025

Adults can't be abandoned
Children and disabled adults can be abandoned
But not you: you can't be abandoned.
You: can be left, divorced, broken up with, fired, etc. And none of this feels good.... BUT you CAN"T be ABANDONED

You can't be abandoned: BECAUSE you can SAVE YOURSELF

By default: This also means that you can't abandon other adults

You dont have to be afraid to let go or leave that crappy, toxic, abusive relationship with your partner, "friend", co-worker, or boss.

12/11/2025

The #2 best gift you could ever give yourself is permission to not understand.

Giving yourself permission to not understand why someone does what they do, allows you to disconnect from confusion, gaslighting, decept, and the emotional turmoil of needing to be understood.

12/10/2025

The best you gift you could ever give to yourself is permission to not be understood:

"Its ok if you don't get it: it's still true"

12/09/2025