09/29/2025
Is Sleeping With Your Partner Causing Your Insomnia?
Nobody tells you that sharing a bed can sometimes mean sharing… insomnia.
Here’s what really happens when couples try to sleep together:
- You’re a night owl, they’re an early bird—cue the bedtime negotiations
- Someone’s afraid to toss and turn and “wake the other up”
- You end up going to bed at a time that’s not right for your body just to sync up
- They’re snoring, you’re awake
It’s no wonder so many people struggle with sleep when they share a bed!
If this sounds familiar, here’s some real talk:
👉 There’s nothing wrong with sleeping separately (aka a “sleep divorce”) if it helps you both get quality rest
👉 Strategies from CBT-i (Cognitive Behavioral Therapy for Insomnia) can help—like focusing on your own sleep drive, managing anxiety about waking your partner, and creating a sleep schedule that works for you
👉 Communication is key! Talk about what works and what doesn’t
You’re not alone if you need a little space at night. Sometimes the best relationship advice is: everyone gets their own blanket.
Would you ever consider a sleep divorce? Or have you found a trick that lets you both sleep soundly?
