
08/03/2025
"Body is Friend."
This is a phrase my teacher said quite a bit during our Trauma-Informed Therapeutic Touch course. Often times, I think many of us forget this simple truth.
The Body loves us so much that it takes care of life-giving processes without us even having to ask, it makes decisions for us in critical moments of survival, and it makes this physical experience of being a human so darn special. Outside of situations of trauma, it allows us to go for a walk and have an important conversation with a friend, to hold a newborn grandchild in our arms, to sing and dance and play and do all of our favorite things. Inside of trauma, Body protects us and does whatever it can to make sure we live to see another day. Body will do amazing things to make sure you stay alive.
So why are some of us so mean to Body?
Myself included, a lot of us have a history of wanting our bodies to be different. When we hold the body to specific standards, we're upset that Body is not small, that Body is too weak, that Body is not perfectly symmetrical, that Body can't do what other Bodies do, that Body didn't protect you in the way you wanted Body to.
But I'll come back to it again: Body is Friend. Each one is intentionally unique and does the absolute best it can, just as you've always done the best you can. Its only goals are to love and to house you, and we can retrain ourselves to share that love in return. When we build a loving and functional relationship with Body, we come back home to ourselves. We're able to trust our intuition more; feel life and express ourselves more deeply; appreciate the unique skills, lessons, and gifts that our Body allows us to have; and focus on how we GET to show up in the world, rather than how much space we take up while doing it.
Learning to appreciate and have a loving relationship with our Body takes time, effort, radical honesty, and more patience than you think you might have. If you need help in this journey, we are here for you.
Much Love,
~K