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Dr. Cat Meyer, LMFT

Sex and couples therapy viewed from a holistic approach for change. It's my mission to help change To learn more about her work, go to: CatMeyer.com

Dr. Cat Meyer, PsyD, LMFT is a licensed psychotherapist sex therapist, relationship coach, partner yoga for intimacy instructor, meditation guide, and reiki practitioner dedicated to evolving the relationship we have surrounding sexuality. Dr. Cat recognizes the strong link between body, mind, and spirit and uses this knowledge in her private practice, transformational retreats, and speaking events.

09/27/2025

Your judgement is too revealing. 😌
BYEEE 👋

Also. Why does Jennifer Aniston look like me here? 🤔

09/17/2025

And when we can be so present with each day, each lover, and each moment—
Whatever it brings—
We reap the wisdom, enjoyment, gifts as it is and we are.

Sometimes they come to an end.
Correction: OFTEN and always they come to an end.
Even when we believe they will not.

Which is why how we are in present relationship with it, them, us is most important.

Are we in chase or searching?
Or are we just here?

09/15/2025

We all want to feel safe in love.
Yet safety is both what we offer to the relationship just as much as it is each of us doing the inner work to see where safety is.

“Intrinsic safety” is the internal state of security and resilience we feel inside of ourselves that allows us to navigate the world without constant fear. This can be impacted as a result of past hurt, trauma, abandonment, pain.

Both are needed.
Both can be worked on and created.
This way we both take responsibility in the relationship’s progression.

09/10/2025

I see it happen often.
We find the partner we can take care of, save, heal
Or
We find the partner who will take life’s responsibilities off our hands so we can be in pure play, no stress, safety (let me be clear: safety without doing any of the work ourselves for intrinsic safety).

And over time, we see the Eros attraction fade…why?
What happened?
Are they being difficult?
Are we not doing enough? Loving enough?
What changed?

Nothing changed.
And that’s the issue.
We fall into these roles making them proxy parent/child
Because that role ensures we are “safe”
“If I am the caretaker that I learned from youth, it will make it so you need me + don’t leave me”
Or
“If I never learn to take care of myself, I become dependent on you for my needs, safety, money, resources, then I never need to feel the stress of life or be alone”

It’s an unconscious collaboration.
Over time we might feel resentment or repulsion.
Not realizing what we agreed to and what we would need to pay in the process

Is it possible to resolve?
Totally.
But it takes deep work on the self and the coupledom.
Facing off with the reality of how we each colluded.
Accountability.

Often, we don’t want to see that or give up what we are benefiting from it.

But relationships are the most powerful dojo for growing if we are willing to lean into it.

08/22/2025

What it’s really like for a homegirl at Burningman:

I hope I see you out there in the dust.
I will be in full feral mode. 🐅
while keepin it chill this year in teaching and only doing one panel on psyche.d.eli-cs at camp Mystic on Thursday at 5:30

08/19/2025

Well, well, well. If it isn’t the glorious consequences of finally not doing the thing I always did to protect my heart and ego when it came to relationships and watch their same demise because of my wounds and fears of being hurt again.
Isn’t that nice. 😌

Hang in there, boo boo.
And keep doing the good work.

08/18/2025

It’s complicated.
I get it.
I don’t blame us for growing up in a culture that didn’t know what they didn’t know.

And that’s why we can talk about it, rather than get upset at someone not doing something that we want them to; or upset that they don’t even know why they can’t do what we/they want.

We are learning.
And learning is a vulnerable thing.

My podcast is a beautiful place to start those conversations. Thoughtful insights to the places we get stuck in and how to initiate the process.
Check it out in my bio. 🥰

07/18/2025

It’s vulnerable to be the first one to say “I care about you and I want to be with you.”

For so many of us scarred from the pain of past relationships, we may just want to stay behind the protective casing of nonchalance.

“If I care less, then it won’t hurt as badly when they leave.”

The issue here is we are immediately cutting the legs off of potentiality for love.
For love asks of us to lay down each layer of protection so that we may show up Bare
Exposed
Human—
The only way we can truly connect.

If this is going to have a chance at being magnificent, transformative, and healing , we might try being the first one to reveal ourselves.
To demonstrate that it’s safe.

I don’t mean to dump all of your problems and fears and needs at the foot of a new idol we call lover,
But to say “I care about you, even if you might not share the same sentiments” is a brave and necessary place to begin.

And if the response remains behind the thinly veiled protective stance of “I don’t care”
—the question falls upon you to reflect on:
“For what belief in me, do I stay?”

Side note: this song by my dear friend hits me so good. 🥰

07/17/2025

A heart that can finally rest is a beautiful thing.

I want that for you.

06/15/2025

Happy Daddy’s day to all the daddies and zaddies. 😗

04/29/2025

It’s bittersweet.
The feeling of bitterness + pain amid the sweetness of relief
Simultaneously.
We did the right thing.

I know it was challenging.
You loved them
and put so much effort into making it work.
It just wasn’t a fit for you
or them.

Now, we grieve.
We cry, we get angry, we miss, we love, we feel
but feelings are not a sign that we should get back together again.

We have let it go
and now we move forward.
Trusting we will all find our own way in this lifetime.

03/11/2025

Leave her wild.
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Comment BIGCATENERGY and I’ll send you more info on how to be a big cat. 🐆

Photo Janice Dickinson by Peter Beard 1983

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