Creating Change Los Angeles Sex Therapy & Psychotherapy

02/28/2025

Loved joining my colleague Monifa Ellis-Addie, LMFT to talk about Erectile Dysfunction!

Welcome to this must-watch episode of "Hope & Healing Chats," where host Monifa Ellis-Addie sits down with Natalie Finegood Goldberg and dives into the myths...

10/16/2024

Friendly reminder to get your pap! *xtherapy

07/13/2024

To my hero. My original mentor. You were such a remarkable person and woman. You overcame so much loss and tragedy to become everyone’s outspoken mom and grandmother. I remember when I got my first copy of S*x For Dummies. I was inspired and it led me to where I am now. To see a woman speak honestly, openly, and directly about s*x the way you did blew my mind as a teenager. Dr Ruth, your legend will certainly live on! Thank you for all of your gifts! *xtherapy *xtherapylosangeles *xualhealth

04/29/2024

If you lose an er****on during s*x this is does not constitute an ED diagnosis! As challenging as this sounds, try to step out of your head and into the moment, as harping on it may worsen the issue. The criteria for an official diagnosis requires loss or an inability to get an er****on almost all the time or all the time!

02/27/2024

How is it that losing the Super Bowl implies a loss of virility???? This is one of the many ways men get backwards messaging about the (over) importance of er****ons (and the implication that “losers” get ED). On the bright side? MangoRx is offering a 3% off coupon to the public (the point spread between the winning/losing team). Their 3 point loss is your 3% gain!

02/16/2024

Relaxation is the key to pleasure. Being “in your head” can lead to anxiety, fear, and worst of all, bad s*x! In order to get out of your head and into your body, here are 5 of my favorite tools for relaxation:

1- Communicate with your partner.

2- Breathe!

3- Stay in the moment.

4- Touch something!

5- Don’t be afraid to laugh.

Always keep in mind that s*x is supposed to be fun! Save this for the next time you and your partner might need a gentle reminder 🤍

02/15/2024

Many individuals think that if they can not maintain an er****on that they are useless to their partner during s*x but this could not be further from the truth! Although your ge****ls may be taking a break, your hands, mouth and rest of your body are good to go! Remember that your p*nis is not the only road to pleasure!

01/29/2024

Let’s talk about low libido! Here are 3 factors that may be contributing to your low s*x drive - and that’s okay!
1- Transitions
2- Routines
3- Lack of time & bandwidth
Scroll through the post above to find out how!

01/21/2024

Who doesn’t love a little post-masturbation glow?

01/19/2024

just published an article interviewing the QUEEN OF S*X NERDS and I’m loving it. Swipe to see my favorite statement as a *xtherapist who works with couples struggling with desire on the daily.

01/18/2024

Let’s talk aphrodisiacs! Aphrodisiacs are any food, drink, or drug that stimulates s*xual desire. Oysters, Red wine and chocolate are all said to be great aphrodisiacs!

Oysters, now thought to be more of a myth, may not act as an actual aphrodisiac but rather a placebo affect with the oyster resembling a woman’s anatomy- getting you and your partners’ minds in the mood 😉 Regular intake of other aphrodisiacs like red wine and chocolates have been scientifically proven to be associated with higher s*xual desire.

01/12/2024

Lets bust some myths! Its a common misconception that your ED is correlated to your attraction to your partner. This however is not a widespread cause for Erectile Dysfunction. ED can be caused by a wide variety of reasons, such as stress, lack of sleep, distractions, etc. and could even mean you like your partner so much that your anxiety to please them causes you to lose your er****on!