Mary Lane's

11/19/2025

Somewhere along the way, we all learned the same lesson: People only care about themselves. So protect your energy. Don’t trust too quickly. Assume there’s a hidden motive.

And honestly? It’s understandable. You live long enough, get burned enough, watch enough people twist their goodness into currency, and you start scanning for hidden motives in every smile.

But here’s the quieter, less viral truth: most people aren’t out to get you. They’re not masterminding anything. They’re not plotting. They’re not manipulating.

Most people aren’t villains in disguise — they’re tired humans with decent hearts and terrible coping skills. If you pay close attention, you’ll notice people are doing the small, unsexy, under-the-radar good: sharing umbrellas, returning wallets, telling the cashier “take your time”.

Humanity isn’t perfect. But it’s still good. Not everything is an agenda. Not every kindness is performance. Today is a reminder that the world is still full of genuinely good people, even if they don’t trend.

The moment someone does something kind—or even just neutral—your brain might instantly jump to: “What’s their angle?” It’s normal. We’re wired to scan for threat, betrayal, or hidden motives. But if your first instinct is always suspicion, you start missing the quiet, ordinary goodness that’s happening all around you.

Here’s a tiny practice: the next time someone does something nice—or even just neutral—notice that first thought. Before your brain dives into suspicion or calculation, pause. Take a breath. And gently reframe it: “Maybe they’re just trying to be good.” That’s it. No judgment, no overthinking, just a simple mental adjustment.

This isn’t about blind optimism. It’s about noticing the moments of goodness that exist even when the world seems full of agendas. Over time, this small shift helps your nervous system soften, your perspective broaden, and your trust in humanity—or at least in small acts of human decency—return, quietly but powerfully.

Where do you notice people going out of their way to be kind, even when you weren’t expecting it?

In daily life / public spaces 🚶‍♀️

At home or among family 🏡

At work or school 📚

Online or virtually 🌐


MINDFUL MOVEMENT
Side Stretch

This simple stretch helps release tension and open your body—both within yourself and to the world around you. Take a moment to breathe, notice your body, and honor the small goodness in your day.

Stand tall: Feet hip-width apart, knees soft, spine long. Ground yourself through your feet.

Inhale and reach: Lift your right arm overhead, fingertips reaching toward the sky.

Exhale and stretch: Lean gently to the left, feeling a soft stretch along your right side. Keep your chest open and your shoulders relaxed.

Pause and notice: Take a slow breath here. Reflect on someone whose quiet kindness you’ve witnessed recently, or a small act of goodness you’ve performed today.

Return to center: Inhale back to upright, arms by your sides.

Switch sides: Lift your left arm overhead, exhale, and lean gently to the right. Pause, breathe, and notice your body and your thoughts.

Repeat if you’d like: Flow through 2–3 rounds on each side, moving with intention and presence.

Use this stretch as a mini-meditation. Focus on the sensation in your side body and the act of noticing—both your own presence and the subtle goodness around you. Even a few breaths can create a sense of grounded connection and calm.

11/19/2025

My wish for you today.

11/18/2025

Come by and see Santa!

11/18/2025

They say clutter blocks abundance.

If that’s true, my phones camera roll has been blocking miracles for years.

Our phones should serve us, not siphon us. Digital mess creeps up quietly — 47 unread messages, 200 open tabs, “screenshot this for later” (later never came). All of these quietly eat away at our attention, creativity, and sense of groundedness.

Today’s not about throwing your phone into the ocean (tempting, though). It’s about reclaiming a little peace in the spaces you can control – your digital altar, your energetic home online.
Close three tabs that have been haunting your browser for weeks. Say a quick thank-you-for-your-service to each one.

Goodbye, digital ghosts.

It’s not just about decluttering your browser — it’s about clearing energetic residue. Every open tab is a micro-tether to unfinished thought, unmade decision, or unresolved curiosity. Tiny, invisible threads that tug at your focus all day.

That single click ripples outward — your screen feels lighter, your mind follows, your body exhales. One small closure in the digital world becomes practice for closure everywhere else.

“I keep all these unread messages because…what if I miss something important?”

That fear of missing out on something is real, and it’s exhausting. Every unread email or notification can feel like a tiny alarm bell, a whisper that something urgent is slipping through the cracks. It keeps your attention scattered and your mind subtly tense, even when most of those messages aren’t life-or-death. The problem isn’t laziness or disorganization — it’s the anxiety that drives you to hold on, just in case.

Here’s the truth: you won’t miss what truly matters. Most important messages will find their way to you again, or you’ll notice in time. The unread count isn’t a reflection of your competence or your worth; it’s a signal that your digital life has become a little too full.

Let yourself release the pressure. Start small — delete, archive, or batch-process a few emails. Each one is a tiny act of reclaiming attention and energy. By doing so, you give yourself permission to focus on what actually requires your presence and care, rather than constantly reacting to what might happen.

Your inbox can’t demand your emotional bandwidth without your consent. Choosing to engage intentionally, rather than out of fear, is not only freeing — it’s a radical act of self-trust.



This Week: Permission to Delete the Digital Dead Weight

That app you never use, that folder you haven’t opened since 2022, that 2018 meme collection you keep “just in case” — you can annihilate it. No nostalgia, no guilt, no backpedaling. These digital relics are taking up space in your brain and energy in your body.

Deleting isn’t wasteful — it’s deliberate. It’s a statement: I choose what matters. I choose what serves me. Each click to delete, each swipe to remove, is a small act of rebellion, a tiny revolution reclaiming your attention, focus, and mental clarity.

Your devices are tools, not prisons. The sooner you let go of the dead weight, the sooner they start working for you again. And yes, it’s completely okay if it feels slightly terrifying — growth usually does.

So go ahead. Hit delete. Clear the clutter. Feel the invisible weight lift off your shoulders. You’ve got this.


SACRED CIRCLE REFLECTION
What’s hardest to let go of?
Which digital clutter do you usually struggle to delete first?

Old photos 🖼️

Emails 📧

Apps 📱

Saved links / bookmarks 🔖

Screenshots 📸

Notes or documents 📝

Unfinished tasks / reminders ⏳

Group chats or threads 💬

11/16/2025

Santa's here!!!

11/13/2025

Don't forget we'll be open Sunday for the Holiday Open House! 1pm to 5pm. Santa will be here also!! You can also drop off your toys for Howard County Toys for Tots !

11/12/2025

Long before group chats and grocery delivery, our ancestors gathered in circles. They cooked together, sang together, tended fire, sat with grief, and raised their children side by side. Life wasn’t something to manage—it was something to share.

Our bodies still remember this truth: warmth, safety, and healing come from presence, not isolation. Safety lives in proximity. It’s in the hand that steadies yours, the voice that listens without judgment, the quiet company of someone who simply is.

The modern world may have scattered us, but our longing for belonging is the map home. This week, notice where you can show up, receive care, and rebuild your own circles of attention and support.
You don’t need grand gestures to remind yourself—and others—that connection matters. Today, try a micro-offering.

It could be holding the door for a stranger, offering a warm smile to a coworker, or handing someone a small note or token of appreciation. The act itself takes barely a second, but its ripple is bigger than you might think.

Notice what happens inside you as you give. Your shoulders may soften. Your chest may open. Even a tiny act of care signals your nervous system: I am part of a whole. I can reach out. I can belong.

And watch the other person, too—their face may light up, their day may shift. Connection is contagious, and this is how we practice it in microdoses.

Try it: for the next person you encounter, offer a small act of kindness without expectation. Then pause for a heartbeat and notice how both of you feel.


CONNECTION CATALYST
Expand the Circle

Sometimes the most profound connections happen when you become the bridge. This week, try introducing two friends who might support, inspire, or simply see each other. Think of it as expanding your circle of care—creating a small ripple of belonging that could grow in ways you can’t yet imagine.

It doesn’t need to be complicated. A simple text, email, or in-person introduction can be enough:

“Hey, I think you two would really click. I’d love to connect you.”

Notice the subtle magic in the act: you’re not just linking people, you’re cultivating community, generosity, and the flow of support. When you intentionally create space for connections, you reinforce the truth that life is meant to be shared—not shouldered alone.

Try this today:

Identify two people in your life who haven’t met but might resonate.

Send a brief note introducing them, highlighting what you see in each that could benefit the other.

Step back and watch the circle grow—without expecting anything in return.

This is your micro-village in action: small, intentional gestures that remind you and others that connection is sacred, contagious, and nourishing.


SACRED CIRCLE REFLECTION
How do you usually maintain connection with your circle?
When life gets busy, how do you stay connected?

Sharing meals (brunch, dinner, coffee)

Phone calls or video chats

Texts / group chats / messaging apps

Attending events or gatherings together

Outdoor or active meetups (walks, hikes, yoga)

Collaborative projects or hobbies

Quiet presence / just being together without plans

I rarely connect with my circle


MINDFUL MOVEMENT
Roll & Release

This practice is about noticing tension in your body, letting it soften, and imagining that release as a way to open yourself to connection—with others, with your environment, and with yourself. Take 5–10 minutes. Move slowly, breathe deeply, and stay present.

Head & Neck: Tilt, side-to-side, small circles. Release stiffness.

Shoulders: Lift, drop, roll forward/back. Let tension melt.

Spine/Torso: Twist gently, bend side-to-side. Open space inside.

Hips: Circle, rock side-to-side. Let energy flow outward.

Finish: Hands on heart, 3 deep breaths. Send warmth to someone you care about.

Close your practice by placing a hand on your heart and taking 3 deep breaths. Imagine the soft, open energy you’ve created radiating outward to the people in your life.

11/12/2025

MARK YOUR CALENDARS ‼️‼️
Holiday Open House
Sunday, November 16 ~ 1:00 - 5:00 PM
16 Participating Businesses!!
See what they have to offer this holiday season, right here LOCAL‼️
Join in on the FUN!!!

11/12/2025

11/06/2025

I will be closed today. Baby steps. 🙌😘I will be open tomorrow morning after my rehab🫀🚴‍♂️ session and open Saturday.🤩

11/05/2025

Soulmates aren’t just romantic partners. They are the people who enter our lives and leave an imprint on our soul — the ones who see us in ways others don’t, challenge us to grow, mirror our deepest truths, and bring out parts of us we didn’t know existed.

Some are friends who feel like home, teachers who push us to expand, or even strangers who arrive at exactly the right moment. And sometimes, the most profound soulmate is the one staring back at you in the mirror.

Today, we’re celebrating the soulmates who shape our lives — the friends, mentors, pets, and fleeting encounters alike that leave us richer, wiser, and more ourselves.
Sometimes the smallest gestures carry the heaviest weight. Today’s micro-practice is simple, but it can ripple through your heart and theirs.

Send a short message to someone who feels like a mirror — a friend, a teacher, a mentor, or even a fleeting connection who once reflected a piece of your soul. You don’t need to overthink it. No long paragraphs. No life updates. Just:

“I was just thinking of you.”

Ten seconds to type. Ten seconds to send. And yet, in that instant, you honor the bond, remind them they matter, and reconnect with a part of yourself that only they see.

Notice how it feels to reach out. Does your chest warm? Does a memory surface? That’s the energy of recognition — the invisible thread between soulmates.

You don’t have to wait for a reply. The act itself is the miracle. You’re acknowledging a connection, showing gratitude, and sending a pulse of love across space and time.

Try it today. Ten seconds. Infinite impact.


CONNECTION CATALYST
Write a One-Page Manifesto for How You Want to Love

This isn’t a grand vow or a self-help homework assignment. It’s a short, honest map for how you want to participate in connection — so you can recognize the people who meet you there.

One page. Plain language. Big heart.

Sit somewhere quiet with a pen and one sheet of paper (or a blank word document). No overthinking. Let it be messy. Let it be yours.

Just let yourself speak plainly:

How do you want love to feel in your body?

How do you want to be spoken to?

What do you refuse to tolerate again?

What kind of softness are you no longer embarrassed to want?

Focus on how you give and how you receive. This is about building relationships that feel mutual — not performative, not one-sided, not draining.

Write in short lines. Fragments are fine. You’re not trying to be poetic — you’re just being honest.

You might end up with something like:

I want love that checks in.
Love that asks, “How are you feeling?” not “What did you get done today?”
I want warmth without performance.
I want truth spoken gently, not withheld.
I want to be held without being fixed.
And in return, I will show up. I will listen. I will repair when I mess up. I will choose connection over ego. I will try again.

It’s not a rule book, but a remembering.

Once you’ve filled the whole page, read it back slowly. Notice what stings. Notice what softens you. Notice where you feel: Yes. This is how I want to love and be loved.

Those lines are your compass — the ones that point you toward the people who are already capable of meeting you there (or gently away from the ones who aren’t).

Fold it. Put it in your wallet. Read it whenever you feel any doubts about what you deserve.


SACRED CIRCLE REFLECTION
Which kind of soul-connection hits closest to home for you?
Which kind of “soul person” impacts you the most?

🫶 The friend who feels like home

🎨 The person I create / dream with

😌 The one my body relaxes around

🔥 The one who pushes me to grow

💭 The one I can talk to about anything

🧩 The one who mirrors me back to myself (even when it’s uncomfortable)

MINDFUL MOVEMENT
Palms Open

When we want something badly — closeness, clarity, reassurance — we tend to grip. The body reflects this: fists, tight shoulders, jaw locked, chest pulled in. This tiny practice helps you loosen that hold and come back to receiving instead of striving.

Try this (takes under 1 minute):

Sit or stand comfortably.

Let your arms rest naturally.

Turn your palms face-up — on your lap or at your sides.

Relax your fingers. No stretching, no forcing.

Take 5 slow breaths, in and out through the nose.

Let the hands stay soft. Let the chest stay soft.

Notice what shifts — even if it’s subtle.

Palms open is the posture of receiving. It invites trust, allowing connection to come toward you instead of being chased.