11/29/2023
It’s still November…let’s talk adoption and mental health.
This topic is tender. Likely, in part, due to all 3 experiences (that of the birth parents, the adoptive parents, and the adopted) often being misunderstood and misrepresented. Each adoption story is unique in both situation and personality, rendering the topic more complex and prone to over-generalization.
While adoption can personify the beauty, protection, and empowerment of chosen family, an adoptive family dynamic is born first of grief. This must be acknowledged before the dynamic can grow into healing, restoration, and connection.
Oftentimes family members experiencing any side of an adoption will have unique needs and complex emotions surrounding loss and connection. A place to express and process can help promote emotional and relational resilience as one navigates complex attachment.
If you find yourself in an adoptive family, try to work to see one another well, remember differences do not have to threaten connection, find your voice and communicate your unique needs. If you find yourself grieving adoptive elements in your own story. Allow yourself to grieve. Like re-setting a broken bone, this is how we heal well.