12/02/2025
LET’S TALK 🗣️
Here’s the part no one talks about:
1. Your attachment style was shaped before you knew what attachment even meant.
When a child reaches for emotional closeness and the parent doesn’t meet them there, the child doesn’t stop needing love…they stop expecting it.
2. Your nervous system learned to live in “freeze” or “fawn.”
Because in your childhood home:
• expressing feelings got you ignored
• needing comfort got you rejected
• showing pain made you “dramatic”
• seeking attention got you shamed
So you adapted, beautifully, painfully, silently.
3. You became self-reliant too early.
Not because you were “strong,”
but because no one was emotionally available to lean on. You learned to swallow tears, hide fears, and handle everything alone.
4. You internalized the idea that your feelings were inconvenient.
Your parent’s blank face became your blueprint for adulthood:
• you don’t know how to ask for help
• you apologize for having needs
• you choose people who are distant
• you confuse anxiety with love
• you stay where you are unseen
And here’s the most heartbreaking part:
Children don’t stop loving emotionally unavailable parents. They stop loving themselves.
That was the wound.
That was the beginning.
WHY YOU STRUGGLE TODAY (Psychology & Attachment)
This is why you:
• overthink every relationship
• feel emotionally disconnected but don’t know why
• shut down when things get too intimate
• attract partners who make you feel how your parents made you feel
• crave closeness but fear it at the same time
• look “strong” to everyone else but feel empty inside
You’re not broken.
You’re responding exactly how a child responds when emotional needs go unmet.
Everything goes back to the home that raised you. Everything.
If this feels painfully true…
📘 I Didn’t Choose to Be Born
will help you understand and heal the wounds caused by emotionally distant, neglectful, unsupportive, or narcissistic parents, so you can finally break the patterns they created.
📕 Chasing Love That Hurts
will help you unlearn the adult patterns that came from those wounds. like limerence, emotional fixation, trauma bonds, and choosing emotionally unavailable partners.
Choose the book your heart needs.
(Link here: https://linktr.ee/traumatorecovery)
