08/15/2022
Going off to college is exciting but also super intimidating. You're leaving all you've ever known. While most of you are anxious to be independent, you're understandably nervous about finding your people, getting in a groove with classes, and of course, who you'll sit with in the dining hall ;)
You often hear that the friends you make in college are the friends you have for life. It’s true for many of us. But you have to find them! Up to this point, most of you have made friends by proximity (who you go to school with, who lives in your neighborhood, or who you do extracurriculars with), but for the first time in your life you have to really work at connecting with people and sorting out who is right for you. There’s a learning curve to it and it takes time. Don’t get discouraged. Remember that the skills you’ll build seeking out, creating, and nurturing new friendships are skills you’ll need for life. They will help you in job interviews, in the workplace, and in your own relationships down the road. Check out the slide on social tips for more.
As for roommate stuff, remember that having discussions and anticipating issues beforehand can help avoid unnecessary tension and conflict down the road. Check out my slide on common roommate issues.
As for the academics, some kids take off and some kids struggle for a bit. Both are normal. There’s so much change and so much going on that it takes a bit more effort for some kids to get in a groove. Parents please be patient. I struggled my first semester, my last 2 years I had a 4.0. I’ve included a slide with some study and time management tips as well.
Lastly I just want you all to keep in mind that while being a very exciting time, this is a very hard time as well. There is SO much to adjust to and so much to manage all at once. Some kids are well prepared, others are not. You can all do it, just take one day at a time and remember to take care of yourself! Connect with your people, have down time, exercise, and prioritize sleep.
I can’t wait to hear how it’s going!