03/24/2023
I get SO many questions about sibling doulas. What do I do? Am I basically just babysitting? Why hire a sibling doula when I could hire a babysitter?
Well here is the short answer. Yes, you could totally hire a babysitter. BUT as a sibling doula, I do so much more than just watching your sweet little one (or ones!).
I am beyond lucky to have a huge family. Like really big. And I also married into a large family. So when it came time for me to welcome my babies, I had multiple backups. But the more I worked as a doula, the more it became obvious that there was a gap that I could help with. How are you supposed to relax and focus on welcoming your new baby into this world when you still have to worry about childcare for your other babies? Sometimes it would come down to losing their support person because there was nobody else to care for their child(ren). So along with my doula buddy (Shelby Springer Birth Doula & Photography Services) we started our journey into the world of a sibling doula.
As a sibling doula, I work my hardest to maintain your normal routine (or I don't if that is your desire! I've done both!!). School, daycare, breakfast, lunch, dinner, laundry, housekeeping, dog walking. I've got it! Although I do NOT drive with your children! I am not a CPST, and your child's safety is my priority.
So what is different? Well, along with all of the things above, I also help with the transition when you come home. Welcoming a new baby can be exciting, overwhelming and exhausting. You just got home, you are tired, hurting and have basically been through a marathon. Your significant other is exhausted as well. Let me be your helping hands. I help make your introductions a little easier. For you, your little ones, and even your fur babies. I'll make sure you are fed (even cut up that cantaloupe you've been dreaming about in your fridge), get you showered, help with getting baby to latch, and offer you water constantly (if you know, you know). And I'll never leave a dirty dish in your sink. I'll make sure you are able to nap, make sure your other littles have all of their needs taken care of. And when you are all settled, cozy and ready, I'll quietly take my leave.
What happens when I come in the middle of the night and your little ones are asleep? I can walk with you around your neighborhood while your significant other gets the rest they need. I can help you through your contractions and calm your fears. When you are ready to head to your birthing location (if you are leaving your home) I can help you gather your things and get all loaded up.
The role of a sibling doula is as diverse as you need it to be. I am there to get to know your little(or big!) family, and learn all of the things that help make it run. We will discuss all of this at your prenatal appointments. Where I get to meet you and your little one, to make sure that they are comfortable around me. I want to make sure that I know all the little things that make them have a GREAT day! From their favorite songs and their favorite games to strawberry ice cream!
Have more questions about the role of a sibling doula? Let's chat!