Yvette Erasmus, PsyD

05/28/2025

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🗓 Thursday, May 29th | 🕕 6:00pm–7:30pm Central | 💻 Live on Zoom

04/16/2024

Ever felt that surge of energy, those raw emotions bubbling up inside you? In the world of nonviolent communication, they call it letting your jackal go for a run—a safe space to unleash those intense feelings without causing harm.

It's about reconnecting with your passion, your convictions, your wisdom—grounding yourself in authenticity and integrity. Taking the time to explore these emotions allows you to find clarity, understanding, and the words you need.

Then, armed with this newfound insight, you can navigate conversations with wisdom and compassion. Let's embrace our inner jackal and transform its energy into meaningful connection.

04/15/2024

Just like our bodies process food, our minds digest life experiences and relationship dynamics. But what happens to the emotional waste?

We can learn to release the emotional waste. Instead of burying it deep within, we can allow it to move through us, freeing ourselves from the burden of tension and judgment.

So, let's practice emotional digestion—nourishing our minds with healthy experiences and learning to let go of what no longer serves us.

04/12/2024

For many of us, dissociation serves as an anesthetic—a way to numb out and avoid confronting overwhelming emotions. It can happen in the blink of an eye, whisking us away from the present moment.

But here's the thing: Dissociation isn't something we consciously choose. It's a coping mechanism—a signal that a part of us isn't ready to face certain feelings or needs. And when someone tries to delve into those emotions using Nonviolent Communication (NVC), it can feel downright irritating.

So, what's the alternative? Instead of pushing for feelings that aren't there, let's practice observation. Let's acknowledge what's arising in the moment without judgment or pressure. Sometimes, we might even find comfort in the soothing embrace of dissociation—it shields us from the chaos we're not ready to confront.

By reframing dissociation as a strategy to meet our needs, we can begin to explore healthier ways of coping and find greater compassion for ourselves along the way.

04/11/2024

In my journey through therapy and self-discovery, I've learned a valuable lesson: It's okay to set boundaries with our feelings. Sometimes, simply knowing that we have the right to defend against overwhelming emotions until we're ready to face them can be incredibly liberating. I've found solace in the idea of pendulating into and out of my feelings.

This gentle rhythm allows me to reclaim a sense of control and agency over my emotional landscape. It's about honoring the ebb and flow, giving myself permission to navigate my emotions at my own pace.

So, if you ever find yourself feeling overwhelmed, remember: You have the power to choose when and how you engage with your feelings. Embrace your autonomy and trust in your ability to navigate your inner world with grace and compassion.

04/10/2024

Let's talk about the power of listening to that inner whisper saying "no" when everything else says "yes."

Recently, I had a profound realization while facing a daunting writing task. Every fiber of my being resisted, pulling me away from the keyboard. Instead of pushing through, I paused to tune in.

What I discovered was a wellspring of emotions waiting to be acknowledged. Tears flowed, fears surfaced, and unexpected grief emerged. It was a raw, vulnerable moment, but it was necessary.

In honoring my inner voice, I created space for healing and growth. By allowing those emotions to flow through me, I cleared the path for authentic expression and reclaimed my voice.

So, next time you feel resistance, pause and listen. Your inner wisdom has much to reveal if you're willing to hear it.

04/09/2024

Ever found yourself in a conversation where you're struggling to express your thoughts without sparking defensiveness or resistance? It's all about the approach!

Instead of diving in with hardball questions or demands, consider softening your tone and leading with curiosity.

Next time you're met with confusion or disagreement, try saying, "Help me understand." This gentle invitation opens the door for constructive dialogue, keeping the conversation relational and respectful.

Remember, it's okay to assert your boundaries without overexplaining or justifying. Your needs are valid, and honoring them is key to maintaining healthy communication.

So let's embrace the art of compassionate dialogue, fostering understanding and connection one conversation at a time.

04/08/2024

In the midst of frustration and challenges, it's crucial to remember the power of empathy and recognition.

When someone's actions leave you feeling exasperated, it's easy to overlook the goodness within them. But by amplifying their good intentions, we can foster a deeper understanding and connection.

Acknowledging that everyone is doing the best they can in their own circumstances can shift the dynamics of any interaction. By reflecting people's goodness back to them, we invite more positivity into our relationships and interactions.

04/05/2024

Ever been told, "I want you to say you're sorry"? It's easy to interpret it as a demand for shame and guilt. But here's the real deal: behind those words lies a deeper desire.

When someone asks for an apology, what they're truly seeking is acknowledgment. They want to know that their needs matter to you. It's not about making you feel bad; it's about fostering understanding and connection.

So next time you're faced with a request for an apology, remember to listen beyond the words. Focus on what's really being asked: a commitment to growth and improvement. Let's strive for empathy and mutual respect in our interactions.

04/04/2024

Picture this: You're stuck in a cycle of thinking and perceiving that just isn't working. Sound familiar? So many of us have been there, trained to believe that control, coercion, judgment, shame, and fear are the keys to success. But guess what? They're not!

It's time to break free from those outdated protocols. Humans aren't wired to thrive in environments filled with control and criticism. Instead, we crave connection, understanding, and respect.

Let's flip the script and create relational experiences built on trust, empathy, and support. When we ditch the old habits and embrace a new way of being, magic happens. Are you ready to join the revolution?

04/03/2024

Our course starts on April 15th! Sign up now: https://nvcacademy.com/live-nvc-courses/video-conference/navigating-power-dynamics-2024

04/03/2024

Let's talk about those moments when emotions hit hard. It's real, it's raw, and it's part of being human. We're going to have those feelings, and that's okay.

Recognizing when we need rest is crucial. It's a sign that we need to recharge, to step back, and to take care of ourselves. And having a supportive community makes all the difference.

Building a network of people who can hold space for us during these times is essential. It's about surrounding ourselves with those who understand, who listen, and who support us unconditionally.

Let's cultivate communities where we can lean on each other, where we can share our vulnerabilities, and where we can find solace and strength. Together, we can navigate life's ups and downs with resilience and compassion.