10/28/2024
I once blogged about how our parents are our first gods.
What a bad deal for god, and parents, for no parent, no matter how amazing, can be unconditionally loving towards their kids all the time. As kids, we’re going to live as we are genetically coded and try to do our best to be good for our parents (after all, we rely on them 100% for our survival). And, for some reason or another, our parents are going to get mad at us, and we’re going to try harder to be good. And harder. To no avail. And this, in part, is how we get it in our little beings that we have to earn our survival, and that we’re being punished for not being good enough.
Colonized and imperialized versions of god as punisher meld just perfectly in with that. So, yeah, god gets a bad deal, and we get a bad deal in turn, thinking that inherent within co-creation (another word I use for god) is a complicated matrix of blame, shame, punishment, earning worth, and so forth. Yes, co-creation may be complicated, at least from where we sit, but I don’t think it’s actually about blame, shame, punishment or earning worth, in any kind of way.
I’m a bit infatuated with the leaves right now, it being Autum where I live. And so, I look to the trees. Where is the blame, shame, punishment or earning worth for them? In the leaves that fall in the Autum, and the buds that form in the Spring. In the hurricanes that pluck some trees right out of the ground, and leave others. In the bitter cold and broiling heat that some trees don’t survive through. Do we ever say some trees were being punished, when they die? Or that some trees were especially good, and so they got to live through the tornado that blew through town, and others were bad, so they had to go? No, we say there are a multiplicity of events co-occurring- a giant web of variables that are largely unseen, but that have a very large role in the co-creation occurring.
Yes, we too are within that co-created web.
I for one feel relief when I step away from the invention of a god who is obsessed with right, wrong, good and bad, who is somewhere “out there” with a tablet keeping track, punishing some and rewarding others. When my kid was young, she proudly told her great aunt that we don’t believe in the Santa Clause who sees through a lens of “naughty or nice.” For me, Santa Clause has always been about a resonance of giving, mystery, and fun. I feel relief when I extend that perspective to the co-creation that we are within. Ok, I don’t always experience life as as fun, but I do experience co-creation as a never-ending exchange of giving (even in death, there is giving, after all- just ask the soil underneath a decomposing leaf) and definitely mystery.
I’m breathing with the release of an imposed characterization of god being some kind of punisher. I’m breathing in the release of a manufactured belief we are being punished and rewarded by co-creation/god. I’m breathing in the exchange of what brings life to my body every moment, every moment, and remembering the agency I have when I slow down to be with the simplest aspect of co-creation that I can directly experience.
Especially right now, with the weight of Sudan in my heart. And all the other big, and small, conflicts co-existing right now. May I remember my agency, and use it intentionally. May I remember the breath I am re-born from, and in, every moment.