04/28/2025
Ever feel like you’re talking to a brick wall?
You try to explain. You share your side. Maybe you even really think it through beforehand. But still… nothing seems to get through.
One of the first things we teach in Mindful Communication is this:
If their wall is up, stop talking to the wall.
I know—when someone isn’t listening, it’s tempting to push harder. To explain more. To make your point just right.
But if they’re emotionally shut down, defensive, or overwhelmed, no amount of explaining is going to land.
In Nonviolent Communication, the first step isn’t to speak—it’s to connect. That might mean turning inward first, offering yourself empathy for the frustration, pain, or longing you’re feeling. It might mean pausing long enough to notice: “I’m needing understanding. I’m needing care.”
From there, you’re more able to offer presence to the other person—not to fix, convince, or wait your turn to talk, but to listen empathically, with genuine curiosity.
This is often what softens the wall—not perfect words, but the energy of connection underneath them.
And yes, it’s tender work—especially when you're hurting too.
That’s why we pair NVC with mindfulness: to help you slow down, meet your own needs with care, and hold space for real connection to emerge.
This is just one of the many powerful practices we’ll explore together in Mindful Communication, starting May 23—tools to help you navigate real-life conversations with more clarity, care, and connection.
