05/07/2025
Did you know you can be trauma bonded… to a part of yourself?
I know—mind blown, right? But let’s walk through this.
We’re not just one solid “self.” You’re a mom, a leader, a partner, a doer. And under that? You’re made of parts—inner roles that formed to keep you functioning under pressure.
You might recognize some of yours:
• The perfectionist who makes sure you don’t drop a ball
• The people-pleaser who says yes even when you’re drowning
• The punisher who whispers you’re not doing enough
• The avoider who hides from the overwhelm
• The controller who tries to hold it all together
None of these parts are bad. In fact, they’ve probably helped you survive. They often come from childhood patterns, old wounds, or nervous system responses like fight, flight, freeze, or fawn.
But here’s the twist…
Sometimes we become trauma bonded to our own parts.
A trauma bond is when we stay attached to something painful because it also offers safety, validation, or comfort—just enough to keep us hooked.
Now apply that inward.
Ever feel like you can’t stop hustling for worth? Or like you need your inner critic to stay “on track,” even if it leaves you empty?
That’s what an internal trauma bond might look like.
• You resent the pressure, but can’t stop performing.
• You crave rest, but sabotage downtime.
• You long for support, but push it away.
These parts feel stubborn because they are trying to help. Letting go feels like losing control, or even losing who you are.
“Who would I be without this drive?”
“What if I slow down and everything falls apart?”
But here’s the truth: You don’t have to get rid of these parts.
You just have to understand them.
Healing starts with compassion. With saying, “I see you. Thank you for protecting me. Let’s do this a different way now.”
So I’ll ask you:
Which part feels dialed up for you right now?
The good girl? The rebel? The hyper-independent one?
Drop it in the comments—I’d love to hear.
And if you’re ready to stop battling yourself and start feeling who you are without the issue—we’ve got space for you.
You don’t have to do it all. You just have to start coming home to you.
