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12/09/2025

Dec 9 – Let go of relationships that drain your light or peace
A Quiet Awakening
There comes a moment — soft, undeniable — when every woman realizes her heart was never meant to survive on crumbs.
A moment when you see clearly that you deserves relationships, friendships, and partnerships that do accept, your candle should flicker.
The awakening isn’t loud.
It’s a gentle truth rising inside you:

“I am worthy of connection that protects my light.”
Today is about honoring that truth.
Not by revisiting the relationships that dimmed you…
but by celebrating the ones that help yours shine.

A Realization About the Relationships You Deserve
Aligned, nurturing relationships have a quiet steadiness to them.
They don’t rush you, drain you, or make you question your worth.
They guard your peace with the same tenderness you offer others.
A relationship that keeps your candle bright feels like:
Peace
Your body eases. You don’t brace or perform.
Reciprocity
There is balance — giving, receiving, supporting.
Respect
You boundaries are understood, not negotiated.
Uplift
You walk away feeling nourished, not emptied.
Kindness
Gentle words, thoughtful actions, soft places to land.
Steadiness
Not perfection… but consistent warmth.
When we choose relationships like these, our inner flame grows steadier.
Our light becomes an anchor rather than a burden.
And our heart remembers what safety feels like.
Letting go is not abandonment.
It’s choosing the company that protects your glow.

Affirmation
I welcome relationships that honor my peace, protect my light, and support the woman I am becoming.

Journal Prompt
Where in my life do I feel uplifted, supported, and safe to shine?
What qualities do I want to nurture in the relationships I bring into 2026?

12/08/2025

Dec 8 – Release the habit of saying yes when my heart means no
Have you ever felt that tiny twist in your chest when you say yes even though every part of you is whispering no? I know I have. More times than I can count. There were gatherings I attended exhausted, favors I agreed to even while depleted, and moments when I traded my own peace for someone else’s comfort.

When I look back, I can feel the weight of those decisions. Each unintentional yes pulled me a little further from myself, like a slow unwinding of my own inner rhythm. Saying yes from guilt, pressure, or fear of disappointing someone is like handing away pieces of serenity one teaspoon at a time.

What happens inside us when we say yes but mean no
When I push past my heart’s truth:
My energy drains faster than it can refill.
Resentment quietly settles in the corners of my spirit.
Stress lingers longer, showing up in my shoulders, my breath, my sleep.
I lose trust with myself, because I override my own knowing.
It’s not dramatic. It’s subtle. But over time, those subtle choices shape how rooted I feel in my life.
How do I honor my heart?
Honoring my heart doesn’t require a megaphone. It asks for presence.

It looks like:
Pausing before answering.
Checking in with my breath, my body, my intuition.
Allowing myself to choose what supports my wellbeing rather than what protects someone else’s comfort.
Trusting that the people meant for my life will respect my truth.
And when I say yes from a full heart? It feels aligned. There’s no exhaustion, no inner tug. Just flow.

But what if I hurt someone’s feelings?
This is where so many of us get tangled.
Here’s the gentle truth: someone else’s temporary disappointment is easier to navigate than my long-term self-abandonment.
Most of the time, people understand. And when they don’t, it simply reveals where clearer boundaries are needed.

I remind myself:
My no doesn’t make me unkind. It makes me honest.
My peace matters, too.
My heart is allowed to lead.

Affirmation
I honor my heart’s truth. My yes is sacred, and my no is a complete sentence.

Journal Prompt
Where have I been saying yes out of habit, guilt, or fear?
What would shift in my life if I trusted my no as much as my yes?

12/07/2025

Dec 7 – Let Go of the Guilt Around Resting, Healing, or Slowing Down

As this first week of our Advent of Release comes to a close, I feel how deeply each day has invited us to shed what weighs on the heart — the need to hustle, the pressure to perform, the urge to control what isn’t ours, the expectation to shrink ourselves, the heaviness of others’ opinions.

And today… we soften even more.

Today is about releasing the guilt that tries to creep in whenever we slow down, choose rest, or honor healing — whether that healing is physical, emotional, or the quiet mending of a tired spirit.

Rest isn’t avoidance.
Rest isn’t laziness.
Rest is wisdom.
Rest is restoration.
Rest is choosing self-trust.

When I slow myself down, I’m learning to meet my own needs without apology. I’m learning to honor the rhythm my body and heart whisper to me — the rhythm that has nothing to do with productivity and everything to do with being rooted, present, and whole.

As we gather all the releases from this week, we see the shape of something powerful:

When I let go of hustle, I make space for rhythm.

When I release the urge to control, I reclaim peace.

When I stop apologizing for taking up space, I honor my worth.

When I stop comparing, I return to my own path.

When I loosen the grip of others’ expectations, I hear my own voice again.

And when I let go of the guilt around resting… I finally step into the truth that rest is allowed. Rest is sacred. Rest is mine.

This week has been a gentle unraveling — a soft loosening of everything that keeps me from stepping into the next year with clarity and calm. Today, I plant myself firmly in the belief that I don’t need to earn rest. I simply need to receive it.

Affirmation

I honor my need for rest without guilt. My healing matters. My rhythm is enough.

Journal Prompt

Where do I still feel guilt around slowing down, healing, or resting — and what would it feel like to release that guilt and choose what my body and spirit truly need?

12/06/2025

December 6 – Release the weight of other people’s expectations
There’s a quiet heaviness that settles in when you try to meet standards that were never yours to hold. Other people’s expectations can sit on your shoulders like invisible bricks—shaping your choices, dimming your joy, and pulling you away from your own natural rhythm.
When you carry the pressure to be what others want, it tightens your breath, distracts your mind, and steals the peace you’re longing for. Serenity comes from within, but outside expectations can muffle your inner voice until it feels faint.
Today is your invitation to gently set those bricks down.
What these expectations do to your serenity
They create tension in your body, especially when you feel torn between what you need and what others want.
They keep you in a cycle of overthinking—“Will this disappoint someone?”
They pull you out of the present moment, making you feel responsible for emotions that aren’t yours.
They chip away at your self-trust, whispering that someone else’s opinion should matter more than your own intuition.
Ways you can release and overcome this weight
Check in with your body first. Before saying yes, pause and notice—do you tighten or soften?
Remember whose life you are living. Your path, your pace, your rhythm.
Practice gentle boundaries. “That doesn’t work for me right now” is enough.
Return to your breath. Each inhale strengthens you. Each exhale releases the pressure you’ve been carrying.
Affirm your worthiness. You were never meant to shrink or mold yourself into someone else’s vision.

Affirmation for Today
“I release the weight of other people’s expectations and return to my own peaceful rhythm.”

Journal Prompt
Where in my life am I carrying expectations that do not belong to me — and what would it feel like to set them down?

12/06/2025

December 6 – Release the weight of other people’s expectations
There’s a quiet heaviness that settles in when you try to meet standards that were never yours to hold. Other people’s expectations can sit on your shoulders like invisible bricks—shaping your choices, dimming your joy, and pulling you away from your own natural rhythm.
When you carry the pressure to be what others want, it tightens your breath, distracts your mind, and steals the peace you’re longing for. Serenity comes from within, but outside expectations can muffle your inner voice until it feels faint.
Today is your invitation to gently set those bricks down.
What these expectations do to your serenity
They create tension in your body, especially when you feel torn between what you need and what others want.
They keep you in a cycle of overthinking—“Will this disappoint someone?”
They pull you out of the present moment, making you feel responsible for emotions that aren’t yours.
They chip away at your self-trust, whispering that someone else’s opinion should matter more than your own intuition.
Ways you can release and overcome this weight
Check in with your body first. Before saying yes, pause and notice—do you tighten or soften?
Remember whose life you are living. Your path, your pace, your rhythm.
Practice gentle boundaries. “That doesn’t work for me right now” is enough.
Return to your breath. Each inhale strengthens you. Each exhale releases the pressure you’ve been carrying.
Affirm your worthiness. You were never meant to shrink or mold yourself into someone else’s vision.

Affirmation for Today
“I release the weight of other people’s expectations and return to my own peaceful rhythm.”

Prompt
Where in my life am I carrying expectations that do not belong to me — and what would it feel like to set them down?

12/05/2025

Affirmation
“I release what isn’t mine to carry. I am rooted in trust, open-hand living, and gentle surrender.”
There’s such a tender freedom in realizing what isn’t ours to hold. Today, I’m taking a deep breath, loosening my grip, and letting go of the things I was never meant to manage in the first place.
Control can feel comforting… but it can also become a heavy burden. So today, I’m choosing trust. I’m choosing spaciousness. I’m choosing to let life meet me with a softer rhythm.
May this be your invitation, too.
Journal Prompt
Where am I holding tension that doesn’t belong to me?
Write about the places you’re trying to manage outcomes, protect everyone, or carry things that aren’t your responsibility.
Then ask yourself:
What would shift if I released just one piece of that today?

12/04/2025

Dec 4 – Release the Need to Apologize for Taking Up Space or Asking for Help
Today’s reflection comes straight from my heart, because this lesson has been one of my biggest teachers. For so long, I felt I had to stay small to be accepted… that shrinking myself somehow made me more lovable, more approachable, more “good.”
But that simply isn’t true.
And today, I want to share the poem that helped shape my entire business — and helped shape me.
Advice From a Tree
Stand tall and proud
Sink your roots into the Earth
Be content with your natural beauty
Go out on a limb
Drink plenty of water
Remember your roots
Enjoy the view
I first saw this poem printed on a poster in a little craft store in Bonney Lake, WA — and something in me knew instantly:
This is the heart of my work.
This is what I want every client to feel.
I want her to walk out of my room feeling taller, more rooted, more worthy.
I want her to remember where she comes from, to trust where she’s going, and to know she can go out on a limb because she is enough.
Every session ends with water for that exact reason — body, mind, and soul deserve to be nourished.
My Own Understanding of “Enough”
Many years ago, a dear woman in my life said to me,
“One day you will understand… you are enough.”
I promised myself that when that truth finally landed in my bones, I’d tattoo it on my wrist.
It’s not there yet — but I already know whose hands will place it there when I’m ready.
Because I do know now:
I am enough.
Not because I’m perfect.
Not because I never fall or never fear.
But because I have spent years doing the work — healing, growing, hurting, rising, rediscovering joy, and honoring what I need.
I’ve created boundaries that protect my peace, my heart, and my energy.
I know what hurts.
I know what heals.
I know what brings me joy.
And I no longer apologize for taking up space.
I Want This for You Too
I want you to feel your own worthiness.
I want you to know you are allowed to be here — fully, loudly, beautifully.
I want you to stand tall, stretch wide, and take up the space your soul was designed to fill.
You are allowed to know your roots
and celebrate them.
You are allowed to show your natural beauty
and trust it.
You are allowed to go out on a limb
into the places that help you grow.
And please — always drink water.
Affirmation for Today
“I do not apologize for taking up space. I am enough, just as I am.”
Journal Prompt
Where have I been shrinking myself, and how can I gently allow myself to stand taller?

12/03/2025

Dec 3 – Let go of comparing your journey to someone else’s timeline. I’ve caught myself looking at another woman’s success and thinking, “Why am I not there yet?” She’s doing incredible things… and instead of letting that inspire me, I sometimes turn it inward as pressure or self-doubt.
But here’s the truth I’m learning:
My timeline is sacred. Her path is not my path.
My pace is not her pace.
And my growth — though quieter sometimes — is still growth, still real, still worthy of celebration.
Self-talk matters. The way we speak to ourselves shapes how we show up in the world. Today, we honor our effort, our resilience, our unfolding.
Affirmation
“My journey is mine alone, and I celebrate my progress with love and respect.”
Journal Prompt
Where have I minimized my own accomplishments, and how can I begin honoring them without comparison?

12/02/2025