02/08/2026
The Trauma–Oxytocin–Feeding Feedback Loop
A traumatic birth doesn’t just “live in the mind.”
It lives in the nervous system—and that matters deeply for feeding.
Here’s what happens:
Birth trauma (emergency C-section, NICU stay, loss of control, fear, separation, pain) can shift the body into survival mode. When the nervous system is stuck in fight-or-flight, oxytocin—the hormone of bonding, calm, and milk ejection—can be harder to release.
The feedback loop:
• Trauma → increased stress hormones (cortisol, adrenaline)
• Stress hormones → suppress oxytocin release
• Low oxytocin → challenges with letdown, bonding, and feeding
• Feeding struggles → reinforce feelings of failure, grief, or fear
• Mental health takes a hit → which further suppresses oxytocin
This is not a personal failure.
It’s a biological response to trauma.
Why oxytocin matters:
Oxytocin supports:
• Milk letdown
• Bonding and attachment
• Emotional regulation
• Feelings of safety and connection
When oxytocin is disrupted, parents may experience:
• Anxiety or panic around feeding
• Numbness or detachment
• Intrusive thoughts or hypervigilance
• Grief over “the birth they didn’t get”
• Feeding feeling mechanical, stressful, or overwhelming
And yes—this impacts feeding.
Breastfeeding, pumping, bottle feeding, and combo feeding can all feel harder when the body doesn’t feel safe.
The good news: this loop can be gently interrupted.
Trauma-informed solutions:
• Safety first: slowing down, choice, consent, predictability
• Feeding plans that prioritize regulation over perfection
• Skin-to-skin, warmth, low-pressure feeding environments
• Nervous system support (breathwork, grounding, somatic care)
• Mental health screening + support (especially after NICU or birth trauma)
• Lactation care that understands trauma—not just milk supply
💛 Feeding support should never re-traumatize.
💛 Healing and feeding can happen together.
💛 You are not broken—your body adapted to survive.
If this resonates, you’re not alone—and support exists. Book a session with us at www.madeofgoldlactation.com