01/18/2024
CW - pregnancy disclosure and discussion.
As a dietitian and person whoâs now been pregnant a few times, I truly believe your body will gain the weight it needs to gain to support a growing baby. This differs vastly from what I was taught, and is another reminder that lived experience matters so much more than what the textbooks say. Itâs my belief that the âguidelinesâ are fatphobic nonsense that do nothing to help support a healthy relationship with food and body. There is so much anti-fat bias within the pregnancy world, itâs astounding. The idea that we are able to, and should, control the way our bodies change - in general! - but especially during pregnancy is a testament to how little we understand about well-being.
Thereâs lots of nuance to apply here, but please know you can trust your body. If youâre hungry, eat. And eat what you can tolerate. To be pregnant and concerned about weight changes is to be disconnected from the experience of your body - I know how hard this can be when your team is pressuring you to consider these things. As we know, âtrust your cuesâ is an oversimplified recommendation, and many times we need mechanical, structured eating too. My main point is that if you feel hungry, you can trust that itâs appropriate to respond with food. Do not second guess your hunger because of anti-fat medical care.
Itâs worth mentioning the ways in which thin privilege changes this dynamic, too. The prenatal experience is wrought with anti-fat bias, and the weight stigma people in larger bodies experience does significant harm. And, itâs continued to be fascinating that in this instance, my own thin privilege and educational privilege, as well as explicit requests, hasnât stopped commentary about ways to control my weight changes. The rage I feel knowing that Iâve experienced a fraction of what others do makes me seethe.
Iâll be taking a leave in a few months. My clients will be in good hands, and it means I wonât be on here as much. But until then, Iâm here and Iâve probably got reflux.
And of course, I know how painful and complicated pregnancy news and announcements can be for many people, so I donât share this lightly. This is my rainbow baby, and for me there was lots of grief in learning of other pregnancies with similar âwould beâ due dates. If you are grieving, hoping, waiting, I am thinking of you, truly.