03/29/2025
Be gentle with yourself around your resistance.
Resistance is a part of growth - it’s that tension we feel, the tug trying to keep you in your comfort zone; of trying to keep you in safe territory where things feel familiar.
It makes sense, especially when trying to break patterns around the use of old coping mechanisms. Our coping mechanisms helped us *cope*! They kept us going at the expense of our deeper needs; they were the trade-off that kept us connected, loved, safe, alive, etc.
So when we go to give them up, when we go to stop being perfect or to stop pleasing everyone else at the expense of ourselves, our bodies naturally freak out a bit. They shut down, they rebel, they sound the alarm that where we’re going isn’t known and it is NOT safe.
Because in the past, our bodies learned that it wasn’t.
But the way forward is to learn how to be present to that resistance; to recognize it & get curious about what belief lives beneath it, & what deeper needs & feelings learned that they needed to be hidden away.
To bring ourselves into the present moment, where we're capable of so much more.
When we learn to meet these parts of ourselves instead of judging them, we can recognize that not only are we capable adults who can show up for ourselves, but we are much more adept at finding support and help to move us through (and it’s more widely available these days). Resistance always shows up fiercely whenever you’re about to step into a new level - even if it’s something you’ve dreamt about and wanted your entire life.
Be gentle with your resistance. It’s trying to protect you.
These days, I start by sitting with and breathing into it, and I thank it. My body is simply trying to keep me safe. Increasing self awareness and emotional self management skills greatly help you to be present to these moments so you can be with & move through them, instead of getting stuck in or constantly derailed by them.
The Self Awareness Workshop begins April 22 - if you’re looking for help better understanding your patterns and would love some support as you walk toward meeting yourself with greater compassion (and learn to connect to the resources you carry within), I highly recommend joining us.
https://theeqschool.co/self-awareness-sign-up
