The Merkavah Institute

08/23/2025

You know how we all walk around thinking we have "attachment styles"? Like we're anxious or avoidant or secure in relationships?

What if I told you the whole thing came from studying 44 juvenile thieves in 1930s London, then 26 babies in 1960s Baltimore - and from these two tiny studies, psychology decided it understood how ALL humans bond across every culture and time period?...

Including how you show up in your romantic relationships 100 years later...

The audacity is honestly impressive.

Here's what really gets me: These researchers never studied a single healthy, thriving community. They looked at war orphans, institutionalized kids, and isolated suburban American mothers with their babies, then declared "This is human nature!"
Fetch the boxes...

It's like studying how people swim by throwing them overboard, watching them struggle, then teaching swimming based on drowning techniques.

As someone who comes from a Mediterranean culture where multi-generational belonging is just... Tuesday afternoon, I can see what they missed: They weren't studying human attachment. They were documenting to what levels people adapt when you systematically remove all the support structures that make humans feel secure.

Meanwhile, millions of kids worldwide grow up in cultures where these "attachment styles" don't even develop because separation from community simply doesn't happen the way it does here.

Doesn't it make you wonder?
If what we call "secure attachment" is just the best way to cope with systematic abandonment, what does actual human bonding even look like?

The real kicker? Everybody is trying to fix their "attachment issues" instead of asking why a culture would create conditions where children need such defensive strategies just to feel safe with their caregivers.

It's like being handed a map of the sewer system and being told it shows you how to find clean water.

This matters because so many of us have been told our way of connecting is broken, when maybe we're just responding sanely to insane conditions.

What if there's nothing wrong with how you bond? What if the system that taught you to have an "attachment style", and that you need to fix it, is the actual problem?

Link in comments if you want to dive deeper into how we mistake studying dysfunction for studying human nature.
I call it "Teaching from within the wound"

- Nitsan E. Mesika

08/05/2025

💲The Commodification of Pain💲

I just published something I've been thinking about for years - how the therapy industry can dig people into spirals of "healing" that never seem to end.

https://healingteka.substack.com/p/the-commodification-of-pain

Consider this.
What if trauma isn't what happened to you, but what happens when there's nowhere truly safe to land? Not a therapist's office... A holding society.

Fight, flight, freeze, fawn... That's a lot of F's y'all... We're getting really good at wound-gazing.

What I am observing consistently is that trauma happens when the natural response (FLOCK to your womb-to-tomb people) has nowhere to go.

Instead of rebuilding collective infrastructure, we get sold "Healing Modalities" and told that our normal responses to an abnormal culture are evidence of personal dysfunction.

Ugh.

Your personal trauma isn't caused by your family's problems - your family's problems AND your trauma are BOTH symptoms of the same collective wound.

What have you believed is broken about you that might just be your natural response to living without your people?

-- Nitsan E. Mesika

07/26/2025

💸Group Consciousness for $12.99 - Just Add Water...💸

Workshop-Rinse-Repeat…

The confirmation I didn't want...
After 18 months in the deepest workshops available - ISTA levels, medicine journeys, consciousness work and trainings across the globe - I can see we're all dancing with a system that profits from our hunger for belonging without ever actually fully feeding us.
You know the pattern. The closing circle where you exchange numbers with trembling hands. "We have to stay connected," everyone says. "This is my tribe now."

Three weeks later: another WhatsApp group that nobody checks. Zoom calls where 3 people show up and the magic feels forced.
You sign up for the next level, thinking maybe Level 3 will give you the tools to keep it truly alive. Not just a couple of new friends who travel to visit each other from another state...

After 17 years in America, I finally have words for what I've been witnessing.

We're not buying tribe - we're buying transient tribe *experiences*. Beautiful, powerful methods for creating temporary experiences of what entire cultures live in daily. Simply. Without workshops. Just being human.

Coming from a Mediterranean culture where belonging is infrastructure, not choice, I can see what was lost and what everyone is desperately trying to purchase back through weekend experiences, workshops, trainings and retreats.

A new post in Healing Te-Ka.
https://healingteka.substack.com/p/the-tribe-technology-trap

Tell me how it reads. And if you recognize this pattern, you're not alone. Share with someone else who's tired of consuming belonging instead of creating it.

-- Nitsan E. Mesika

06/28/2025

New post: Why entire cultures can be collectively blind to things others see clearly - and what becomes possible when we learn to see what we cannot see. A framework for understanding cultural blindness and the translation of wisdom across boundaries.

What We Cannot See: A Framework for Understanding Collective Blindness

12/26/2024

2025 is a pretty gigantic year. Many of us have been feeling the depth of transformation that Earth and Humanity are undergoing, or even "just" the tactonic shifts in ourselves. Being called to our souls, our purpose, our bodies, our authenticity, our 6th senses, and OUR COMMUNITIES more than ever.

It doesn't matter if you know everything about Human Design, (or Astrology, or Dao, or Kabbalah...) most modern teachings of most ancient wisdoms, tend to primarily speak to the individual outside the context of RELATIONSHIP.

Human Design incorporates all the above and more - The Chakra System, Genetics, Gene Keys, are all integrated into one wisdom no single person could have studied in a lifetime. It is a system that is astoundingly specific and even more astoundingly accurate.

If you already know it, this workshop will definitely give you something completely new - relating with and through it. The ultimate genius of HD is in sacred UNION. It's how WE are alraedy a divine union of body and soul, and how we come together as couples and as communities to create new creations.

Uncovering the true power of projectors - in relationship;; unlocking manifestation - in teams; collaboration and unions - in couples; and also internally - inside our own being.

But if this is your first time? You are in for a truly revelatory experience of your own essence, your power and your purpose. Your best decision-making strategy, your core genius and how to utilise it optimally - with others.

Turn a new page by experiencing your soul's purpose, the magic of your unique being, in the context of relationships, and community.

This workshop promises to explore your own UNIQUE attributes and characteristics - be it your emotions, your empathy, your intellect, your ego, you will, your instincts, your soul's calling and much much more - and honoring the depth wisdom of who you are, AS you are.

Many questions will be answered, like "How can I manifest things?" or "What do I do with this frustration?" or "What type of connections should I cultivate, in service of my purpose and my service to others?" or "Am I really introverted, or do I simply need XYZ to thrive in community?" or "Why am I not seen?" or "How come others have so much energy and I seem to not?" or "Why can't others see what I can see?" And MANY MANY more.

This is a very hands-on experience. Previous participants reported that it was nothing less than life changing.

Feel welcome to ask questions and explore this opportunity!!

Jan 12. 12-5 CT. Casa De Luz. ATX.