09/23/2024
✨The Hand In Hand Tool of "Staylistening" not only builds trust, safety and connection, it also builds emotional intelligence.✨
👉 Staylistening is where we meet our child's offloading by coming in close and conveying our warmth and empathy physically through body language and facial expression (eye contact if safe and comfortable for you and your child) and you Listen without interruption/rationalizing/trying to fix/problem-solving. You simply allow them to follow the very natural process of spilling out their feelings while you Listen and connect. It may feel helpful to say the occasional thing (less is more) such as "I'm sorry" or "That's hard..." but often it's better just to make empathetic noises that show your caring and attention.👈
💕It is freeing to know that you don't need to know what hurt your child is working on, just trust that they are releasing the tension around whatever issues need it.💕
👏This process builds their ability to emotionally regulate when necessary and aids the development of their emotional intelligence. The result is a more clear-thinking, comfortable and relaxed child, and a stronger bond and connection for you both.👏
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