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05/23/2026

He didn’t fit the mold in life… why would he in death?

Carson wasn’t a white button-up kind of kid.
So they didn’t pretend he was.

They dressed him in a Star Wars shirt,
shorts, no shoes, just how he loved to be. Comfortable. Free. Fully him.

And when it was time to carry him out…
they didn’t choose silence.
They chose the Imperial March from Star Wars.

Not to make it heavy,
but to make it him.
Joyful. Playful. A little rebellious.
100% Carson.

This is what it looks like to not waste your pain.
To let grief and love sit at the same table.
To tell the truth, even in goodbye (or some say “until next time”).

Carson didn’t just teach people how to die.
He showed them how to live.

And maybe that’s the real legacy.

🔗 in bio for full episode ➡️dwypshow.com

05/22/2026

There’s a moment most people never talk about.

The moment after someone takes their last breath…
the room shifts.

If you’ve ever been there, you know.
Strangers, family, nurses - suddenly there’s no separation.
Just humans… standing in something real. Something honest. Something sacred.

Carrie shares what most of us don’t understand about hospice until we’re in it:

It’s not just about dying.
There’s a quiet beauty there.

Because when you know someone is going to die,
something shifts.

You say the things.
You feel the feelings.
You don’t rush past it… you walk through it.

It doesn’t take the pain away.
But it gives it somewhere to go.

And in that space,
grief isn’t hidden.
It’s shared.

Permission is given… without anyone saying a word.

This isn’t about making loss pretty.
This is about telling the truth:

Every death is different, and

there is a kind of connection in those final moments
that you won’t find anywhere else in life.

And if you’ve felt it,
you’ll never forget it.

🔗in bio - full episode of The Boy Who Stayed Awake to Die

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05/21/2026

So many people living with chronic or terminal illness are carrying pain you cannot see.

That’s the kicker.

Someone can look “fine”
and still be fighting their body every single day.

Be gentle with people.

You never really know what someone is holding,
or how hard they are working just to stay here,
stay awake, stay connected.

Carson’s story, The Boy Who Stayed Awake to Die, is out now. 🔗 in bio

05/21/2026

He chose presence.

Carson knew the cost,
and paid it anyway.

He stayed awake through a body that was shutting down, just to be with the people he loved for as long as he possibly could.

This is not about glorifying pain or shaming anyone who needs medication at the end of life.

It is about honoring a boy whose whole life pointed toward presence.

Awake.

Aware.

Compassionate.

Connected.

Even as his body was shutting down,
Carson chose to stay with the people he loved.

This is what not wasting your pain looks like.

What is something in your own life you want to be more awake for? More present to? More fully here for?

Full Episode of The Boy Who Stayed Awake to Die is in 🔗 in bio.

05/20/2026

For anyone who has ever loved someone through a terminal diagnosis, this episode is for you.

It is amazingly light, deeply wise, and full of heart.

Carrie shares the story of her son Carson with so much honesty and down to earth grace that even the topic of a child dying becomes something we can sit with.

Not easy, but human.

Not simple, but sacred.

Carrie and Carson are our Everyday Heroes. ✨

Link in bio 🔗 to listen to the full episode.

05/20/2026

What Do You Say to a Grieving Mom?

Stop asking “How are you?”
if you don’t want the truth.

She said,
“I went to the cemetery today.”

Her son is 13.
He died.

That’s the part no one prepares you for,
not just the loss…
but the way the world goes quiet around it.

We treat death like a taboo.
Something to avoid.
Something to fix.

But grief doesn’t need fixing.
It needs witnessing.

So instead of pulling away,
move closer.

Ask what his name is.
What lit him up.

Because when you speak their joy,
you remind a grieving heart
that love didn’t die.

🔗 in bio to listen to the whole episode

05/19/2026

Life and death is an absolute continuum. 🔗 in bio to hear the story of The Boy Who Stayed Awake to Die.

05/19/2026

Carrie’s interview happened two months after her 13 year old Carson passed away. Pain is the connector we don’t talk about.

We bond over wins… sure.

But the kind of connection that makes us feel less alone?

It happens when someone says, “I know that place too.”

Not about the highlight reel,

but about the heartbreak, the loss,

the moments that cracked you open.

Because pain has a way of stripping everything else away.
No ego. No pretending. No performance.

Just human… meeting human.

It’s why we reach out when we’re sick.
When we lose something.
When life doesn’t go how we planned.

Not because we’re weak,
but because something in us knows:

we’re not meant to carry it alone.

And here’s the paradox,
the very thing we try to hide…
is the thing that brings us closest to each other.

So if you’re in it right now,
the sadness, the regret, the disappointment,

Know you are not alone.

That might be the doorway.
Not to more pain…
but to connection, to light, to being deeply seen.

Pain connects us.
Only if we let it.

🔥Don’t Waste Your Pain🔥 (Side note - Carrie was our very first interview! It was on a whim, no tech producer, no special lighting, no Studio, just a zoom call. We both knew this story must be told. So we show up raw and real with beautiful content!)

05/18/2026

Tomorrow, my “baby” goes public.

Don’t Waste Your Pain Podcast is launching.

This show has lived in me since I was 12, when I had to face my own mortality. Death became one of my greatest teachers.

Our first episode is with Carrie and Carson.

A mama.
A son.
A deathbed I will never forget.

Carson died at 13, but this child was awake in a way much of the world is not.

And that is what this show is really about.

Waking up.

To real stories.
Raw truth.
Loneliness. Betrayal. Addiction. Disease. R**e. Murder. Terrorist attacks. Death. Grief.

On this show, we talk about all types of pain.

Not to stay in the darkness.

But to find the root.
The wisdom.
The medicine.
The purpose.

I have been sitting soul-to-soul with extraordinary humans from every walk of life. Global impact makers. Everyday heroes. People the world should know.

And every single one of them has shown me the same thing:

The narrative of “hurt people, hurt people” is only half the story.
Hurt people can heal people.
Hurt people can inspire people.
Hurt people can become the ones who bring water to a world on fire.
This is not just a podcast. It is a movement.

And I would love for you to be part of it.

Follow. Subscribe. Pass it on.

These stories are not meant to sit still.

They are meant to move. To wake something up. To remind us we are not alone.

We launch tomorrow.

With butterflies in my stomach - we launch tomorrow.💃🏻🦋

✨Don’t Waste Your Pain✨

05/17/2026

How does the weather affect you? ☁️☀️

Most people seem to come alive in summer.

Me? Not so much.

As a fellow “vampire” who has lived with autoimmune challenges, the sun has not always been my friend.

I have lived in sunny San Diego, cloudy Portland and SF, Switzerland, and now Montana, where we can go from snow to green grass in three business days.

I think I’m an in-betweener. Spring and fall are my sweet spot.

And maybe that is where I am in life right now too.

Feeling the pains of transition, the joy and anxiety of birthing something new, and trying to remember that every season has its own strange medicine.

Whatever season you are in today, I’m wishing you patience, joy, and hope you are gentle with yourself.

Wise One Within, JT Trepanier, M.S.

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