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Hi, again 👋 It’s been a bit since I’ve posted anything here but I really wanted to share this with you all!One of my fav...
09/16/2024

Hi, again 👋 It’s been a bit since I’ve posted anything here but I really wanted to share this with you all!

One of my favorite attributes of God is His sovereignty. This is something I have just come to learn about in the last few years and it has brought me so much peace and comfort—in ALL areas of my life.

I wanted to share this in a season when I’ve especially been reminding myself of this biblical truth when it comes to my role as a mother and navigating difficult choices for my children. Maybe you can relate? Whether you’re pregnant and it’s in your preparation for birth, whether you’re having to make hard choices for your kids, or maybe it’s related to a move or career choice. Whatever it is, we don’t have to carry the weight of the world on our shoulders, mamas. Jesus offers a better way and His plans cannot be thwarted đŸ€

I hope this brings you peace today, no matter what you’re walking through! And if you don’t have this peace that comes from God, I’d love to chat with you in my messages! Please comment below or send me a message if you have any questions 😊

Big Foot/Sasquatch, QAnon, Aliens, Predictive Programming, Cabal/The Deep State, Chemtrails, All disease is caused by tr...
03/28/2024

Big Foot/Sasquatch, QAnon, Aliens, Predictive Programming, Cabal/The Deep State, Chemtrails, All disease is caused by trauma, etc. đŸ„”

If you’ve been on social media for any amount of time, you are sure to have been inundated with conspiracy theories at some point. Many times, these might seem like thoughtless pieces of entertainment. Other times, they might become things that deeply matter to someone. Regardless of the conspiracy theory, Christians must be extremely careful in the information they engage with. Why? Because our testimony matters.

Mary Jo Sharp says it this way: “Anything a follower of Christ chooses to pass along in person or on social media should first be processed through the question, ‘How will this affect my ability to share the good news of Jesus Christ?’”

If you engage with and share conspiracy theories with others, whether in person or online, do you think about the impact of what you are sharing will have on the person listening? That it could stir up fear and anxiety for them? That it could potentially hurt your witness and credibility?

You may be wondering why I care so deeply about this. Well, I’ve been sucked into my fair share of conspiracy theories over the years.

2020 was a year that made people extremely suspicious and willing to question anything. And in some instances, that was completely warranted! I understand that this is a nuanced conversation. There is a difference between believing and sharing something not based on any evidence whatsoever or out of fear versus learning new information about something and making a different decision based on that information. But in the fall of 2020, I got swept into the world of QAnon because of people who claimed to be Christians on Instagram sharing about it. My flesh loved the idea of a world in which Joe Biden wouldn’t be President. My sinful nature wanted to put my hope in the idea that there were things happening behind the scenes to take out the “bad guys” and that the “good guys” would be reinstated. When Inauguration Day came and went and Joe Biden actually became President of the United States, I was legitimately SHOCKED because I was so saturated in this garbage. I had believed the people spewing these lies simply because they bared the name of “Christian” and because what they shared sounded good to my itching ears. They were “prophesying” things to encourage Christians to put their hope in their lies and in a man instead of in Christ. THIS IS WHY WHAT WE SHARE AS CHRISTIANS MATTERS! I praise God that there were real, Biblical Christians on the internet exposing these horrible lies and that God used them to open my eyes to the truth.

As time passed, I was still exposed to conspiracy theories frequently, through social media and people in real life, to the point where anytime there was a tragedy like a school shooting, the immediate thought wasn’t about the victims and their families, but was rather about the government being behind it to push gun restriction agendas. People speculated if there were actually any victims or if it was all just staged. People said because the shooter was this particular age and there was this particular amount of victims, it was a “sign” of something nefarious. I soon developed a similar spirit and said such things in the immediate aftermath of such tragedies. It still disgusts me to think about. If I ever shared something like this in your presence or through something I shared online, I am so very sorry and have since repented of this--please forgive me!

All of this to say, none of us is immune to being swept into this mess. I previously viewed myself as someone who was very discerning, but I too easily trusted friends swept up in this themselves that shared things like this with me and “Christians” online over the Truth (I am not blaming these people for my actions, just sharing how prevalent this has become amongst Christians and why believers need to be so careful)! The only way to continue to stand firm in God’s Truth is to be reading His Word. Discernment comes from knowing His Word and testing everything against it--NOT the other way around! We never try to fit the Bible into things, but rather see if the thing holds up to our source of Truth as a whole. NO cherry-picking allowed! If we are not regularly reading our Bibles and calling out lies when we see them, we can be deceived by such worldly things that are not of God.

In conclusion, human beings were not made to know every single thing that happens in this world. Could some of the popular conspiracy theories that exist have some validity to them? Sure, but I would argue that most have little to no validity and that by going down all of the rabbit trails and constantly discussing these theories, we are taking our attention off of Christ and hurting our witness to unbelievers (and potentially even leading believers astray)! We can trust that if God wants us to know things, He will expose them. He holds all things together in His hands and nothing happens in this world that is outside of His plans, that is without His knowledge, or that is beyond His sovereignty. Dear Christian, I urge you to put your hope in Christ alone, and not in any man or any theory. We can trust in God ALWAYS and for EVERYTHING!

“The king’s heart is a stream of water in the hand of the LORD; He turns it wherever He will.” -Proverbs 21:1

“The Holy Spirit isn’t about invitation (from us), He’s about revelation, as in revealing the truth from scripture that ...
02/29/2024

“The Holy Spirit isn’t about invitation (from us), He’s about revelation, as in revealing the truth from scripture that transforms the way you worship.” -Costi Hinn

I believed for many years that if I left church without being moved to tears or feeling goosebumps from the worship music, either the worship wasn’t good or I wasn’t right with God 😔

Many times in hyper-charismatic traditions we hear people say things like, “The worship was SO spirit-filled today!” Or, “God really showed up this morning!” This understanding of God and the Holy Spirit is unfortunately overly focused on feelings and experiences. The truth is God is always present in His Church and worship can be spirit-filled, regardless of what you do or don’t feel, because all believers are spirit-filled. Thankfully, our feelings and experiences don’t dictate God’s Truth or His promises. If your heart is only chasing after experiences and your feelings are the barometer of what is a “spirit-filled” moment, you are seeking after your own flesh and making these things an idol. I speak from firsthand experience đŸ„”

This concept absolutely applies to birth. There is much talk today in Christian circles about having a “spirit-filled” birth. The context is usually something like this: “She had a really peaceful labor and there were no complications! It was so spirit-filled!” But here’s the reality: That birth experience was certainly a blessing! But having a spirit-filled birth is something that happens for ALL christian women, because ALL christian women are permanently filled with the Holy Spirit upon their repentance and belief in Jesus. Claiming that only the easier or more peaceful experiences are related to the Holy Spirit is perpetuating a false, prosperity gospel narrative that is incredibly damaging to all believers and is unbiblical. So, whether you have a homebirth with twinkle lights in a tub or a cesarean with bright lights on a hard table in the OR or anything in between—if you are a christian woman, it will be a spirit-filled birth 🙏 continued in comments


“Understanding marriage through a gospel lens is essential for us as Christian women. When a man and a woman live out th...
02/07/2024

“Understanding marriage through a gospel lens is essential for us as Christian women. When a man and a woman live out their unique gender roles within the marriage covenant, they put the glory of the gospel on display as God intended.” -Kristen Clark

God’s unique roles for men and women in marriage rely on the same underlying principle, and that is loving service of the other. And while this post only covers a wife’s role in a Biblical marriage, I encourage you to read Ephesians 5:25-33 to read more about a man’s role in a Biblical marriage (because honestly, it’s a much longer section and a much bigger responsibility, in my opinion)!

I hope this post was helpful & encouraging as you walk out your faith in ALL areas of your life, but especially in your marriage! 💕

What if, instead of stressing ourselves out by trying to do all of the “right” things to prepare for birth, we actually ...
01/31/2024

What if, instead of stressing ourselves out by trying to do all of the “right” things to prepare for birth, we actually started doing LESS things? đŸ€”

Hear me out: Women have been giving birth since the beginning of time. I know our everyday lives look different from women hundreds or thousands of years before us, but women successfully gave birth before Spinning Babies and chiropractic care came to exist 😉

Now I am NOT discrediting the helpfulness of these things. Like I mentioned in the post, all of these things can be great tools, but I would encourage moms to view them as just that: tools that can be used, not tools that MUST be used in order to give birth or to achieve an ideal outcome. I didn’t use a single one of these tools for any of my births and I birthed my babies without any issues. This is NOT to say my way is the right way—it’s just to simply share that sometimes, less is more 💕

I would encourage moms who find themselves worried about doing all of these things to take a step back and pray about it. We should absolutely pray for the outcome we hope for and if there are things that can help, that’s great. But we should hold these things loosely, knowing that God is sovereign over every single aspect of our baby’s birth story. No amount of work we do physically or mentally can guarantee outcomes. Thus, trusting in the Lord above all else is my number one tip for preparing for birth 🙏

đŸ€ Trust in the Lord with all your heart, and do not lean on your own understanding. In all your ways acknowledge him, and he will make straight your paths. -Proverbs 3:5-6

Happy New Year! 🎉2023 was such a blessing to me in my work as a doula! đŸ€ I got to work with eight different amazing fami...
01/01/2024

Happy New Year! 🎉

2023 was such a blessing to me in my work as a doula! đŸ€ I got to work with eight different amazing families this year and I just want to take a moment to thank all of you mamas who allowed me to be part of your birth journey in 2023! It is an honor I never take for granted to be invited into such a sacred experience 🙏

I started my business almost two years ago, not really knowing the extent of the work I’d get to do. As a homeschooling mom to four young children and with a chronic illness, I’ve had to play around with what works best for my family in our own crazy season of life and I now feel like I know what works great so we all can thrive and I can fully support my clients. And that is the beauty of owning your own business—getting to choose to work with families you genuinely are excited to work with and when it fits into your schedule, too! I am so thankful to get to do something I love, for the growth I’ve experienced in my profession in the last year, and for the incredible people I have met through it all đŸ„č

All of that being said, I have just a few spots left for in-person doula support in the first half of 2024 and if you are local to me near Bozeman and are looking for a doula, I’d love to do a free consult with you to see if we’d be a good fit! Head to my website to schedule and secure your due date now: www.byyoursidedoulamt.com

Are you wondering what’s “normal” or not for postpartum? đŸ€”There are many expectations moms may have going into postpartu...
12/15/2023

Are you wondering what’s “normal” or not for postpartum? đŸ€”

There are many expectations moms may have going into postpartum. And while some of these expectations may apply to some moms, they definitely won’t apply to ALL moms! These slides are the most common expectations I have heard from expecting mamas, along with the reality of each đŸ€±

Postpartum can be a time filled with joy and exhaustion, and everything else in between. Please be so patient and compassionate with yourself and seek out help in any way if you need it! đŸ€

If you’ve already had a baby, let us know in the comments what the biggest surprise about any of your postpartum experiences was! 👇

Are you a Christian looking for a birth playlist filled with truth about God and His promises to listen to during labor?...
12/06/2023

Are you a Christian looking for a birth playlist filled with truth about God and His promises to listen to during labor? đŸ™đŸŽ¶ I’ve got your back! â˜ș

I’ve compiled my favorite worship songs from theologically solid places into one intentional birth playlist! 🙌

There are 16+ HOURS worth of songs here that I hope will bless you like they have blessed me! đŸ€

Click here to get the link to my Christian birth playlist on Spotify: https://dashboard.mailerlite.com/forms/78199/106792162131182631/share ✹

Hey mamas, here’s your reminder that it is NEVER too late to switch providers if you don’t feel respected during your pr...
12/05/2023

Hey mamas, here’s your reminder that it is NEVER too late to switch providers if you don’t feel respected during your pregnancy OR even during your labor!

I personally switched providers going into my third trimester one of my pregnancies because I felt so disrespected. I’ve known people who switched providers in their last few weeks of pregnancy because they were feeling pressured into things they were uncomfortable with. Your provider works for YOU, so don’t feel like you’re stuck if you are not loving your provider. Find someone who aligns with your birth philosophy đŸ€

Furthermore, if you have anyone attending your birth who is disrespectful, unkind, or unsupportive, whether it’s a Labor & Delivery nurse at a hospital or a birth assistant at a birth center, you can respectfully ask them to leave or ask for someone else instead.

You may never need to switch providers or ask for another nurse or birth assistant, but knowing you can do so if necessary is another great tool to have ready! 👍

Have you ever switched providers or models of care during a pregnancy or labor? Share below! 👇

As a first-time mom, I was shocked to finally see my newborn baby đŸ˜± Thoughts that initially ran through my head included...
11/21/2023

As a first-time mom, I was shocked to finally see my newborn baby đŸ˜± Thoughts that initially ran through my head included:

👉“HOW WAS THIS BABY IN ME THE WHOLE TIME?”
👉“HE’S FINALLY HERE!”
👉“I CAN’T BELIEVE I JUST DID THAT!”

Followed by:
😳“WHY IS HE PURPLE?!”‹😳“WHAT IS THAT GROSS LOOKING WHITE STUFF?”
😳“WHY IS HE SO HAIRY?!”

The hospital childbirth education class I took before my first birth certainly didn’t prepare me for the many different possibilities for what my newborn baby might look like after his arrival (and how shocking that might appear to a first-time parent 😂)!

So if you’re a first-time mama, I hope you read through these slides and see all the different kinds of normal. You will love your baby, regardless of what is on them and what they look like, but it can be of great comfort to know what is in the range of normal 😊

If you’ve already had a baby, what surprised you the most about your newborn’s appearance?! Share below! 👇

I have now spent more than 60 hours within the last two weeks writing this blog post on why German New Medicine is incom...
10/27/2023

I have now spent more than 60 hours within the last two weeks writing this blog post on why German New Medicine is incompatible with biblical Christianity.

In case you haven't heard of it, German New Medicine is a pseudoscience that is dangerous in its false scientific claims and is unbiblical for many reasons--and it is unfortunately taking off in natural health communities, even amongst Christians. I truly believe all of the time I have spent researching, compiling, and writing these 26,000 words has been led by the Holy Spirit. I would not have chosen to undertake this task myself with all of the chaos in our everyday lives (including attending a 16 hour birth as a doula in the midst of it haha), and I don't prefer to share things like this publicly, but I'm doing it out of obedience and in the hope that this will help even one person.

Read it here: https://www.byyoursidedoulamt.com/blog/german-new-medicine

“See to it that no one takes you captive by philosophy and empty deceit, according to human tradition, according to the elemental spirits of the world, and not according to Christ." -Colossians 2:8

Every mom is different! It’s important that you pick the place and the provider who make you feel safest and most confid...
10/19/2023

Every mom is different! It’s important that you pick the place and the provider who make you feel safest and most confident when it comes to your own birth experience.

Whether it’s home, a birth center, or the hospital—you choose what is best for you and your family! đŸ€

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