11/24/2025
Healing from childhood trauma as an adult is powerful work — and it often brings complicated relationships to the surface.
When you begin speaking your truth, you may disrupt the story others created to protect themselves. This can feel threatening to people who have never examined their own actions or the impact they had on your life.
Some will deny.
Some will minimize.
Some will insist your memories are “wrong.”
None of that means your experience isn’t valid.
It simply means your healing invites them to look inward, and not everyone is ready for that.
As a Reiki Master and Certified Coach, I’ve learned through my own journey and through supporting clients that the most important step in healing is choosing boundaries that uphold your peace.
And there are many ways to do that — all gentle, all valid, and all customizable to fit what you need.
Here are some expanded boundary options that support emotional well-being:
✨ Soft Boundaries
Giving yourself permission to pause before responding, reflect before reacting, and choose interactions intentionally.
✨ Limited Contact
Reducing conversations to what feels safe, comfortable, and manageable. This may look like less frequent calls, shorter visits, or planned check-ins instead of spontaneous ones.
✨ Low Contact
Keeping communication minimal and neutral. You share only what feels appropriate and avoid emotionally charged topics that lead to harm.
✨ Structured Contact
Creating guidelines for how communication happens. This might include:
• sticking to text instead of phone calls
• setting time limits for conversations
• choosing not to discuss certain topics
• using calm, direct language to redirect old patterns
✨ Emotional Boundaries
Protecting your inner world by refusing to carry guilt, shame, or responsibility for someone else’s behavior. This includes:
• not engaging with blame-shifting
• declining to justify your feelings
• stepping away from manipulative or chaotic conversations
• honoring your own truth without forcing anyone to accept it
✨ Temporary Distance
Taking intentional breaks in the relationship to regain clarity, regulate emotions, or simply breathe. You can resume connection when you feel grounded and ready.
✨ Physical Space
Choosing to meet in neutral places, avoid overnight stays, or shorten holiday visits when needed. Your body and nervous system get to feel safe.
✨ Boundary-Based Engagement
Staying connected while maintaining clear expectations. For example: “I am willing to talk, but I won’t participate in conversations that criticize or invalidate me.”
✨ No Contact (If Needed)
A rare but valid option when all other boundaries are consistently violated or when the relationship continues to deeply harm your well-being. It is not a failure — it is protection.
When we begin unpacking the emotional backpacks we’ve carried since childhood, we find items that never belonged to us:
heavy expectations, silent rules, unspoken roles, and inherited wounds.
Understanding what is truly yours allows you to release the rest — gently, slowly, and at your own pace.
The journey back to yourself may feel lonely at times, but you do not have to walk it alone.
At La Dimora, we walk this path side by side — with compassion, clarity, and a deep commitment to your healing. 🤍
