08/03/2025
What to do when your baby is pulling off the breast?
Breast refusal—or pulling away from the breast during feeds—is something I see often in my practice. It can be stressful and confusing, especially when it feels like your baby was feeding well… and now suddenly isn’t.
Unfortunately, there’s not always a quick fix. The cause can vary from baby to baby, and resolving it often requires a thorough, individualized look at what’s going on.
But while you’re waiting to get help, here are a few gentle steps you can try right away to support feeding:
1. Skin-to-skin
This isn’t just for newborns! Skin-to-skin can help older babies reconnect with feeding too. Try holding baby on your chest while you relax—or even take a bath together (I recommend having an extra adult around for safety).
2. Offer when there’s no pressure
Try offering the breast when baby is drowsy, at the end of a bottle feed, or during calm moments between feeds. If either of you feels stressed, take a break and try again later.
3. Use breast compressions
If baby latches, even briefly, gently massage or compress your breast to help keep milk flowing. A dip in milk flow is a common reason babies start to pull away.
4. Protect your supply
If feeds have changed or baby is refusing more often, keep up regular pumping or hand expression to maintain your milk supply—especially overnight.
5. Get support
This is something you don’t have to figure out alone. An experienced lactation consultant can help uncover the cause and guide you through next steps.
✨ You and your baby deserve personalized, compassionate care. If you’re navigating breast refusal, I’m here to help.