Janice R Nardi, M.S., LMFT, LLC

02/19/2022

Avoidance is a behavior that causes anxiety to continue. But avoidance is not the same thing as choosing to focus your attention on the things you can control. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/understanding-the-anxious-mind/202002/avoidance-uncertainty-generalized-anxiety-explained

Learn why your anxiety may be about fear of the unknown and what to do about it.

02/16/2022

Betrayals of trust aren't just the big things that push a couple into crisis. They can also be the everyday patterns that normalize resentment. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/love-matters/202111/small-indiscretions-can-create-big-issues-between-lovers

Trust is a demanding master.

02/11/2022

For a relationship to be emotionally supportive, each partner has to feel that they are capable of giving support as well as receiving it. Knowing that you are able to help the people you care about may even make your life less stressful in general. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-new-resilience/202111/not-enough-emotional-support-your-partner-could-be-why

... and how to be more open to both giving and receiving.

02/09/2022

There are always going to be things that annoy or frustrate us in a relationship, and it's okay to talk about them. But keeping the relationship healthy requires us to get in the habit of asking ourselves why something is bothering us. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/compassion-matters/202112/accepting-good-enough-friends-and-partners

Embrace independence, repair ruptures, and show appreciation.

02/05/2022

A strong relationship not only requires depth of feeling, but awareness of how you are communicating. When communication skills improve, feelings can deepen. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/marriage-equals/202112/your-marriage-work-commit-your-relationship

Creating a relationship is a process.

02/01/2022

Fear of uncertainty often holds people back from making decisions. But avoiding choices doesn't eliminate uncertainty; the only solution is to become more comfortable with it. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/living-sticky-mind/202111/behind-chronic-indecisiveness-desire-certainty

How anxiety makes even trivial decisions torturous.

01/29/2022

For a relationship to be healthy, there needs to be a high ratio of positive comments and actions to negative ones. The fist step toward increasing that ration is to spend more time together. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/fixing-families/202111/how-change-the-emotional-climate-your-relationship

Too much negativity in your relationship? You have the power to change it.

01/25/2022

Talking about your problems out loud can help you get a better handle on them. Even if it's hard at first, you'll get better with practice. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/how-be-burden/202110/you-should-talk-about-your-problems-more

01/22/2022

When people are stuck in the same pattern, there is probably an underlying need that isn't being voiced. Even when addressing it is necessary for the relationship to move forward, the change may feel frightening. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/the-well-lived-life/202111/hidden-relationship-issues

Difficulties in relationships may come from problems the couple is not aware of.

01/19/2022

Don't wait until you crash to start doing good things for yourself. Developing a sense of routine will help you enforce your boundaries. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/view-the-mist/202110/burnout-who-me

Ways to decrease the chance of burnout in your life.

01/15/2022

People are often too afraid of anger to work through a problem. But anger exists to protect you, and it is necessary to understand where it is coming from. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/frazzlebrain/202111/how-fear-anger-can-hurt-you

Anger provides important information that can deepen our relationships.

01/12/2022

The habits we engage in to keep ourselves safe may sometimes be overblown or counterproductive. We have to give ourselves permission to let go of them in order to care for ourselves effectively in the long term. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/managing-health-anxiety/202111/safety-behaviors-the-great-paradox

Learn about how certain behaviors used to reduce health anxiety make it worse.

01/08/2022

There's no way to rush the process of building trust. But consistency and directness will establish it little by little. https://www.gottman.com/blog/4-tips-to-build-everyday-trust-in-relationships/

Start your relationship off right by building trust in simple ways. These simple actions will help you be reliable and accountable.

01/04/2022

Anxiety is often fueled by unexamined assumptions. Part of therapy is training yourself to question leaps in logic. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/anxiety-in-high-achievers/202111/5-questions-calm-your-anxious-mind

2. What are the odds that my fear will become a reality?

12/31/2021

When a person has been hurt in the past, triggers will cause them to re-experience the same hurt. To escape the prison of shutting themselves off from their partners, they have to practice letting down their walls, while their partner must gain a fuller understanding of their triggers. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/rediscovering-love/202108/dealing-defensive-walls

What to do when havens become prisons.

12/24/2021

Anxiety is a complex condition that comes in many forms. You might not even recognize certain anxiety symptoms, like hoarding and perfectionism. https://bit.ly/3aQzLEH

12/21/2021

Everybody is suffering from increased anxiety during the pandemic. Being able to name the specific emotions you're feeling will help you to reduce your fear of them. https://psychcentral.com/blog/practicing-emotional-awareness-during-the-covid-19-pandemic/

The fear and anxiety might have lessened somewhat, making room for additional just as valid emotions.

12/17/2021

The things we do to protect ourselves from things we've experienced in the past may not always be helpful in different situations. It's hard to let go of the things that protected us, but counseling can help identify times it may be necessary. https://www.psychologytoday.com/us/blog/constructive-wallowing/202108/are-you-living-in-the-past