Dr. William Ryan

10/30/2025

Gain practical skills and learn new approaches that help you and your clients grow and thrive — even if you have not taken PACT training.

10/27/2025

With Dr. Stan Tatkin – I'm on a streak! I've been a top fan for 16 months in a row. 🎉

10/27/2025

With The PACT Institute – I'm on a streak! I've been a top fan for 4 months in a row. 🎉

09/19/2025

Attention all parents, you will definitely walk away from this presentation with wonderful emotional know how for parenting. Hilary and I have been friends and colleagues for many years,

09/19/2025

 knowing how to give a good apology is essential to a long relationship. Check this out!

“I’m sorry” is the beginning of an apology, not a full apology.

True repair requires more. If a partner is going to apologize effectively, they need to:

💞 Eliminate distractions

💞 Go face-to-face with their partner

💞 Get specific about what they are sorry for

💞 Completely take ownership of the mistake without explaining intentions

09/17/2025

Definitely! This! When you have your partners “user manual” you know how to soothe them and take care of them. Best if this goes both ways.

08/15/2025

Interdependence: we are equals. We are in each other‘s care. We have each other‘s backs. We can rely on each other.
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Many people confuse interdependence with codependence. It’s important that partners understand the difference.

Codependence is one-directional. It may rely on two people, but it is not functionally a “two-person system.” All of the time, energy, and resources are directed towards one partner. The needs of the other partner are not treated with equal importance.

In contrast, interdependence is a mutually beneficial two-person system. Both partners enjoy the ability to rely on one another, while also taking each other as their burden. No one partner’s needs take precedence over the other.

Rather than one partner being the priority, the relationship itself is the priority.

08/13/2025

Each decision we make as a couple should be good for you, good for me, and good for the couple. No decision should be good for me, bad for you. Hopefully, you see how that won’t work for the long haul.

08/08/2025

Attraction is mediated by hormones of stress and reward including dopamine, norepinephrine cortisol and the serotinergic system and has the nucleus accumbens the ventral tegmental area as key mediators.

It’s not so much that your partner changes after courtship, but that you’re not-so-much under the influence of these natural drugs when you’re with them

08/06/2025

A transparency agreement means we tell our partners everything we know that they would want to know, everything they would find relevant and important.
On the other hand, you could keep this information from your partner, knowing they would want to know it. Typically in a relationship things go both ways. Do you want to be in a relationship where your partner keeps things from you that you would want to know? Or do you want to have a better transparency agreement?

Partners may bristle at the idea of complete transparency in a relationship, but there are strong arguments for adopting this agreement.

07/27/2025

🧠 Common Myths About Therapy

Thinking about therapy but not sure what to expect? Let’s clear up a few common myths.

🔹 Myth 1: Therapy is only for people with serious problems.
Truth: You do not have to be in crisis to benefit from therapy. Many people come to explore relationships, manage stress, or build emotional awareness.

🔹 Myth 2: The therapist tells you what to do.
Truth: Therapy is collaborative. You will explore your thoughts, feelings, and patterns with guidance, not prescriptions.

🔹 Myth 3: Therapy is just venting.
Truth: While talking things through can help, therapy also offers tools, insight, and strategies that support real change.

🔹 Myth 4: If therapy works, it works quickly.
Truth: Change takes time. Therapy supports lasting growth, not quick fixes.

Therapy is a place for reflection, growth, and healing. Whatever you are facing, support is available.

Reach out today: https://drwilliamryan.com/contact-2/

07/24/2025

Mental load vs. emotional labor: What’s the difference?

Mental load is the invisible task of keeping everything organized—remembering appointments, managing to-do lists, planning meals, and making sure things get done.

Emotional labor is the work of managing feelings—your own and others’. It includes staying calm during conflict, offering reassurance, and smoothing over tension.

In many relationships, one person silently carries both. Over time, that imbalance can lead to burnout, resentment, or disconnection.

Therapy can help clients name what they are carrying, create healthier boundaries, and work toward more equitable dynamics—at home and beyond.

Reach out today: https://drwilliamryan.com/contact-2/