Dr. William Ryan

12/16/2025

The plain truth: sometimes you’re difficult for your partner, and sometimes your partner is difficult for you.

12/15/2025

We can help each other break habits that have a bad impact on the relationship. To do this, though, we must invite our partner to help us. To remind us.

12/14/2025

Any Union, from a nation, to a union of workers, to a union of two romantically attached partners, work best when they agree on principles, values, how we will operate together. Principles of fairness and justice are a good place to start.

12/10/2025

Understanding your own and your partners attachment strategy (not “style“) can help us stay friendly in our close relationships. Stan gives one example here.

12/04/2025

Hi

We can learn to be skillful with our partner. We can move them with friendliness like a good party host. That will be just one of many win-wins for the couple.

Secure-functioning partners strive for “good for me AND you.” They don't use strategies that involve fear, threat, or guilt to get what they want. Instead, they use attraction. This means they may flirt, seduce, bargain, persuade, or positively influence each other as they strive for a win-win solution to their disagreement.

12/03/2025

Tough reality. Stop trying to create a partner to your specs if it’s a big stretch for your partner.

If you're counting on being able to change your partner to have a happy relationship with them, you're in trouble. I know that's not an easy pill to swallow, but trust me, you're better off reckoning with this now than you are waiting.

No one signs up for a relationship because they want to be changed. And no one is perfect.

Can you help each other grow and improve over time? Of course. However, the best way to foster growth is to create an environment in which you both feel fully accepted as you are.

That means you must embrace the flaws along with everything you love about each other.

11/27/2025

This Thanksgiving, we want to express our deepest gratitude for the courage it takes to heal—especially to heal a relationship. The journey of reconnection and rebuilding trust is profound work. We are thankful for every couple and individual who chooses to do that work, vulnerability and all.

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10/30/2025

Gain practical skills and learn new approaches that help you and your clients grow and thrive — even if you have not taken PACT training.

10/27/2025

With Dr. Stan Tatkin – I'm on a streak! I've been a top fan for 16 months in a row. 🎉

10/27/2025

With The PACT Institute – I'm on a streak! I've been a top fan for 4 months in a row. 🎉

09/19/2025

Attention all parents, you will definitely walk away from this presentation with wonderful emotional know how for parenting. Hilary and I have been friends and colleagues for many years,

09/19/2025

 knowing how to give a good apology is essential to a long relationship. Check this out!

“I’m sorry” is the beginning of an apology, not a full apology.

True repair requires more. If a partner is going to apologize effectively, they need to:

💞 Eliminate distractions

💞 Go face-to-face with their partner

💞 Get specific about what they are sorry for

💞 Completely take ownership of the mistake without explaining intentions