Zahavah Fishfeld, LMHC

05/03/2026

How many hours have gone by?

Hours that you tried to make sense of something that may never make sense to you? Even if it did make sense, did that process of identifying "it" help you?

Specifically in relationships, it's helpful to have some sort of way to try to work through a bump.

When you don't feel good you know it.

The question is how much of the "not feeling good" will you tolerate if there is no improvement in the relationship and the feelings become more deeply rooted?

04/30/2026

Breathe.

Let everything fall to the side.

You don't always need to have everything figured out.

It will come with time.

Today,

just be.

04/27/2026

It's not a one size fits all.

By trial and error you can see what works for you.

Comment with what has worked for you 🔽

04/26/2026

You've made so much progress.

You set boundaries.

You don't second guess yourself.

You don't need to prove anything to anyone.

But then, you suddenly freeze when it comes to a specific family member or old acquaintance.

It may be a situation where memories are triggered.

That's okay.

See what comes up for you when you lose touch of what's been helpful to you with others.

Is it about them?

Is it about you?

Maybe both?

04/23/2026

Logic will work... until your emotions catch up to you.

At some point you won't be able to use logic anymore.

If you are a logical person, so well planned and organized and seem so put together on the outside, while falling apart inside, you are not alone.

You can't logicalize emotions forever.

04/15/2026

If you jump in all the way, you may need to back away completely

This is true if you are supporting someone who is struggling or if you are seeking support.

Balance is so important. Remember boundaries as you think about what your long term goal is.

People get burnt out.

If you want to support someone, would you rather give less of yourself for a longer period of time or give more until you can't?

Same goes for those seeking support. Would you prefer less support over more time or intense support for a short amount of time?

04/12/2026

04/10/2026

Forward... backwards and the cycle continues like this.

A trail on a mountain doesn't go straight up and neither does your path in life. There are bumps along the way. Areas you need to find your way around.

You may not feel as strong when you are in many more situations where you are tested than you are used to.

You may feel triggered.

You may feel overwhelmed.

You may have experienced being invalidated or disrespected.

What's important is you coming out of the situation knowing you did your best.

Looking back to see where you can grow from this situation will help you feel better moving forward.

This empowers you and gives you a sense of control where you may have not felt it enough.

04/01/2026

It feels hard.... because it is.

On paper if you can't change the situation, why change the mindset?

Here's a thought. If you can notice your thoughts and feelings and not try to fight them, you may feel just a little bit better.

That little bit may give you more motivation and hope as to why staying on the positive side will help.

You are here anyway. You are experiencing it anyway.

03/29/2026

If you are not "feeling it," that's okay.

03/24/2026

The last thing you may want to do is address what you've been avoiding.

Here's a question to challenge yourself.

How has your traumatic experience shown up while trying to avoid it?

If you feel reaching that point of no longer avoiding is inevitable, try to do it when you still have some control.

Trauma will catch up to you.