Zahavah Fishfeld, LMHC

01/26/2026

When you have to do the work, you may feel so tired from it.

It may feel easier in the moment to give up, but only in the moment.

Because, the reasons for wanting to do the work won't just go away.

If you choose the I can way, it won't be easy and there will be ups and downs along the way.

If you choose the I can't way, you'll either be effected by what's going on or the effects of trying to dissociate from your feelings.

01/25/2026

Triggers may feel intense but you can get to a place where you can feel loved and supported through the pain.

There is a good chance the triggers will get less intense and less often over time. This does happen for most.

I won't sugarcoat it. It is rough to live with intense triggers. I won't downplay the idea of hope either.

01/21/2026

You can speak up when something doesn't feel right.

You don't have to let others take advantage of you.

You don't need to let others narrate your feelings and thoughts.

You can decide what actions you think are best for you.

You don't have to be part of lectures instead of conversations.

You don't need to feel stuck.

You can live you present life and make decisions about your future life.

01/19/2026

Maybe they are right? How do you know?

Do you find yourself doubting yourself as a human and having a right to exist because of someone else's strong opinions?

Know that if you are open to being wrong, to learning and on a path of growth, that should be enough for you to know it is most likely them and not you.

Another thing to ask yourself is if you are mainly getting "complaints" from one person, do they have difficult relationships with others? Do you hear them "complaining" about almost everyone they know?

You are allowed to have thoughts, opinions and feelings. They can respectfully disagree. They have a choice to discuss it while treating you like a human being.

Don't be so quick to make yourself into the "bad guy" just because someone else decided to do that.

Remember, those negative voices can sound much louder than the positive voices.

01/18/2026

Imagine if you suddenly grew another arm.

You'd be able to accomplish more at a quicker speed.

Now imagine bringing a part of you that already exists, although buried, back to life?

You may not even realize why things are getting better, but they will after you adjust to having all parts exist.

01/15/2026

You think your life is falling apart.

Everything feels so intense at the moment.

Take a step back and try to isolate this specific situation.

This is not any other situation, even if it brings up the same feelings of intensity and feels everything is working against you.

When you can start naming each situation as something that feels anywhere from uncomfortable to unbearable, you will have an easier time having the situational feelings come up. Previous situations are seperate from the current one.

01/14/2026

It's not that they can't get it.

You so badly want to be heard and validated, that you are practically begging.

The thing is, asking or explaining multiple times won't "make" someone respond the right way.

Ask once.

Take their response/change or lack of and use it as information to help yourself.

01/13/2026

Trying to figure out someone's intentions,

Speculating about the unknown,

Will all take time end energy away from you.

Stick to what will be helpful to you, not the things that will have you feeling anxious or upset.

01/11/2026

What if.... you can feel comfortable when talking to others?

What if you truly don't think their negative opinion matters, only constructive criticism in a nice way?

What if you know who you are and you are not here to change yourself for others?

What if you know you are open to growth and the opinions of those who aren't don't matter?

Imagine just being you. No strings attached.

01/06/2026

Is it just social media that can be superficial or overthinking what others will think of the way you dress, show your money, who you associate with and more?

When a relationship is based on external variables, the relationship can be over a quickly as the change.

Remember this. Everyone comes from the same place and ends up in the same place after life is over.

If you value this, you will align yourself with those who feel the same.

If you value external variables, you must ask yourself why it is so important for you to be in relationships which can be over any minute if there is a change?

01/06/2026

You must be gentle to yourself and others in order to heal and grow.

To clarify, that does not mean you should be mistreated by others. It's about not being passive, aggressive or passive aggressive.

When you use energy to fight yourself and others, you will be too tired to do the work.

There are also ripple effects of mistreating yourself and those around you.

Here's to rechanneling your energy 💪 so you don't dissociate or take your feelings out on others.

01/04/2026