The Kesslak Family

The Kesslak Family Sharing my joirney and my voice with zero regret, hesitation, or apologies. Doing the work WILL heal you. Please contact me for a free 10 minute consultation!

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The feeling I’ve had my entire life was that I simply did not belong in my family. I didn’t fabricate that feeling and...
09/20/2025

The feeling I’ve had my entire life was that I simply did not belong in my family.

I didn’t fabricate that feeling and that feeling didnt come up in me and remain inside me my entire life for no reason.

I felt out of place because they were mean to me.

I felt out of place because they criticized me.

I was dismissed for my feelings.

I was never heard or seen with accuracy.

I was never good enough.

I wasn’t smart enough.

I wasn’t quiet enough.

I wasn’t still enough.

I didn’t just go along with everything everyone told me to do so I was labeled difficult.

I embarrassed them just being me and telling the truth.

From the time I could open my mouth and speak- I felt this way.

And into adulthood, it didn’t change.
And I finally BROKE.

And people wonder how I walked away from family members. 🙄

It’s not that hard to see it.

I never deserved what happened to me. No child does.

“But it’s your father, it’s your brother, it’s your best friend, it’s your childhood friend, it’s your family friend”.

🛑

Buh bye now. I always deserved better than you. I only attracted/kept you around because I was so fundamentally flawed from abuse and trauma. I hated myself.

You mirrored back to me the most comfortable of fu€|kery. It didn’t matter that it was toxic and dismissive- I learned that THAT was love.

Then I stopped drinking ethanol and I healed myself. And now you’re gone. Some of you think you walked away from me- but trust me my life was being divinely guided to forcibly push you out.

Healing isn’t pretty but it sure is worth it.

Remembering the true victims of 9/11 today. And to all the fools running around blaming right wing civilians OR governm...
09/11/2025

Remembering the true victims of 9/11 today.

And to all the fools running around blaming right wing civilians OR governmental strategies/stances in the last year, acting like the 8 years before this was golden with child molesters in the oval office...

I hope you remember that MOST of the tragic scenarios like Charlie Kirk are this right here, and it's time to wake up and stop being a stupid fool.

Happy 9/11 remembrance. Those buildings had explosives detonated in them. The planes were just the decoy for stupid people to believe something different.

🖕

I have spent my entire life listening to people making excuses for s**tty behavior. So guess what I did - I found a bu...
09/09/2025

I have spent my entire life listening to people making excuses for s**tty behavior.

So guess what I did - I found a bunch of relationships with people who couldn’t be accountable for their bu****it. 🖕

They made excuses for their own s**tty behavior, and they even made excuses for all the s**tty peoples’ behavior around them.

Some people would say things like:

“they’re old, they can’t help it” or
“they just don’t know any better” or “you should just ignore them” or
“turn the other cheek” or
“they’ll never change”.

Bu****it- ALL of that was passed down by good little indoctrinated victims. They were all told this same garbage.

I saw through this s**t when I was old enough to speak.

But then- they even excused MY s**tty behavior eventually. Guess what? It’s what kept me in my s**tty behavior energy. I knew it was NOT good for me either.

I don’t care how old you are, I don’t care what you’ve been through, I don’t care how much better you think you are than me, I’ll call you out on your s**t.

It makes relationships with me more complicated. I’m perfectly OK with that. In fact- I prefer it. My standards are high.

Anyone who is in a relationship with me has the right to call me out on my bu****it, but they better be goddamn well prepared to hear it from me on the flip side.

The folks I kicked out of my life and even the ones who walked away from me …

They didn’t meet my standards. I knew that the entire time but I just had to figure out how to get MY s**t straight so I’d stop attracting and maintaining relationships with my unhealed mirrors.

**t ****it ****it ****itfreezone

I promise if you spend all your time regretting… or longing to repeat or stay in the past, you will NEVER be capable of ...
09/01/2025

I promise if you spend all your time regretting… or longing to repeat or stay in the past, you will NEVER be capable of being content or joyful in the present. It’s impossible.

It took 5 long years of really hard work to get here;

To a space whereby I do not regret the past, or long to go back and repeat It.

To a space whereby I love and accept myself for ALL the parts of me- even the ones that were broken.

To a space whereby I forgive myself for making poor decisions as a result of what I endured as a child.

To a space whereby I know 1. who I am, 2. what my intentions are and 3. EXACTLY what I mean when I speak.

The darkness has left for now and I’m enjoying my life and I know that’s exactly what I deserve.

I’m Heather Kesslak- I share my journey healing from the childhood mental, physical, and sexual abuse that led me STRAIGHT on a path of addiction, depression, and anxiety for half my life. There IS light on the other side of this and I am living proof.

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Thanks for here.

We need to do better at teaching our daughters to not talk about other girls behind their backs. It is so blatantly cl...
08/28/2025

We need to do better at teaching our daughters to not talk about other girls behind their backs.

It is so blatantly clear what it’s all about.

It’s cowardly. It’s jealousy. It’s “hey-I don’t get enough attention, look at
me”-ly.

I’ve dealt with my fair share of this since childhood and well into adulthood-until I woke up. I don’t dabble amidst that cespool any longer-quite frankly I’m above it, and I am too smart to NOT avoid dem bi***es like the plague. 🤮

My daughter is taught the truth about this kind of behavior. My experiences allowed me to prepare her well.

To know that there are sad 12 year old little girls mirroring the gossiping hens before them-it truly makes me feel bad for them. Because they have NO idea how disconnected they already are from the true essence of themselves. It’s quite sad.

I teach my daughter exactly what these sad pr***en girls must be going through at home, in sports, or at school…all from lessons LEARNED by watching the “adult women” before them.

This behavior starts at the top. Time for women to do better.

🛑

Guess what I did?I kept people in my life- some for my entire life, who would dismiss me EVERY TIME they hurt my feeling...
08/03/2025

Guess what I did?

I kept people in my life- some for my entire life, who would dismiss me EVERY TIME they hurt my feelings.

Do you know why I did that?

Because I had adult caregivers, teachers, coaches, and relatives who did it to me from the time I was old enough to express my hurt. I didnt know there existed any other response to my pain.

Now?

I’m done there.

If I tell you that you hurt me… and you come back with your defensive garbage and bu****it narrative? I will absolutely walk away from you. 🖕

YOU hold responsibility for how you treat others and if you can’t hold it because your own unresolved shame is too great- then you aren’t for me.

Lifelong friend or not - I’m OUT.

With zero regrets, confusion, or hesitation.

I deserve to have my feelings actually mean something to people who call me their friend-wife-family. And if I can’t have that- why on earth would I remain there ?????

I remained there in the past for 2 reasons only:

1. Self Hatred
2. Ethanol Poisoning

Enough said.

07/15/2025

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If you like my posts, go follow me at Heather Kesslak. I don’t post as much here.“Oh my god, look at her…”(She actually ...
07/15/2025

If you like my posts, go follow me at Heather Kesslak. I don’t post as much here.

“Oh my god, look at her…”

(She actually looks amazing. And I hate how much I notice her. I feel small next to her confidence.)

“Did you see her post yesterday?”

(I couldn’t stop looking at it. I kept trying to pick it apart, but the truth is, I wish I had the guts to show up like that.)

“Ugh, she’s so full of herself.”

(I’ve spent so much of my life dimming my own light. Watching her shine makes me uncomfortable because I don’t know how to do it myself.)

Your whispers are not gossip.

It is your fear. It’s your insecurity…all wrapped up in a pretty dress and botoxed smile.

When you tell the truth, even in a whisper, something shifts.

What are you really whispering… I’ll give you a hint, it certainly isn’t about me.

😂

I didn’t realize for a long time that what I thought were close relationships were actually just trauma bonds.It wasn’t ...
07/07/2025

I didn’t realize for a long time that what I thought were close relationships were actually just trauma bonds.

It wasn’t really love or loyalty. It wasn’t safety. It wasn't reciprocity.

It was chaos linking with the like. It was survival, clinging to those gasping for their own breath. It was my wounded inner girl trying to find "home" in people who simply mirrored my pain.

When you experience childhood abuse or trauma, you get really good at finding broken people and calling them great friends. You get really good at calling dysfunction...family. You start thinking your role is to fix, save, fabricate, or endure instead of...

being truly open to receiving love, rest comfortably in ease, find peace in the present moment, be honest with yourself, and ultimately thrive in self love.

I have walked away from a LOT of people.

People I once called friends for a lifetime. People I once believed I couldn’t live without. People I remained in relationships with far longer than I should have.

Friends.
Lifelong friends.
Alcoholic friends.
Even blood family.

I don’t owe a single human the continued sacrifice of my peace because "we go way back" or share a lifetime of memories, or red blood cells. I’m not keeping trauma alive just to keep comfort around. Comfort had me stuck for half my life. I am no longer a prisoner to comfort.

I finally see now. I see the trauma glue I used to apply to all the broken relationships I entertained. The ones I tried SO hard to stick to, because I was so lost trying to find MYSELF.

Yung Pueblo is right. We can't get inside people's heads and change the convenient narrative they tell themselves/other...
06/21/2025

Yung Pueblo is right.

We can't get inside people's heads and change the convenient narrative they tell themselves/others about us.

We want people to believe a certain thing about us;

✅We aren't unkind even if we react in rightful anger.
✅We aren't unfair even if we gave you consequences for your behavior.
✅We aren't running from relationships just because we left the one with you.
✅We mean EXACTLY what we say, you didn't misread us.

Once you know who you are and what you stand for- it won't matter for ONE second what anyone thinks of you about any of that s**t, because you will hold the untimate truth.

You will know exactly who you are through all of it; through every disagreement, every conflict, every uninhabitable and undesirable space from which you were forced to walk away.

Find you. The goal is finding YOU.

Not changing them.

Remember that feeling when you would walk away from an argument or a situation and you would just think about all the th...
06/20/2025

Remember that feeling when you would walk away from an argument or a situation and you would just think about all the things you wish you had said?

I don't do that anymore. The reason being, I don't doubt myself any longer therefore, I don't doubt what's coming out of my mouth.

People who cannot handle the truth will twist a story around however it best benefits them. If someone gets angry at them rightfully, they will twist it and say that that person was unkind to them.

I know myself. And I lead with absolute intention.

I had a recent occurrence that absolutely warranted anger. I expressed that anger rightfully so in the kindest possible way- after all, does anger EVER land on a troubled soul in a "kind" way? Nope. It doesn't.

I say what I mean and I mean what I say. I have no doubts after the fact now when I express rightful anger towards its rightful recipient.

Happy Friday, June 20, 2025.

I'm not the "new me". I don't believe in that garbage. I never needed to become "new". What I needed was to recon...
06/07/2025

I'm not the "new me". I don't believe in that garbage. I never needed to become "new".

What I needed was to reconnect to the perfectly imperfect, and beautiful soul I was born with... the one that was incessantly extinguished by unhealed humans.

It's why I was so unhappy for so long. It's why I drank, and smoked, and ate, and sabotaged, and attracted every effed up relationship in my life, and lived in denial, and self loathing; I had no choice but to disconnect from myself.

NO ONE stays connected to their true soul living in all that garbage up there.

I did all that NOT because I was born with some fake ass gene they all wanted to sell me on. Pfft 🖕

I did all that s**t because I was left alone to suffer through countless abusive and traumatic scenarios. No one helped me process any of it

Period.

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