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11/20/2025

🥋 Donate Your Old Gi = Support a Soldier Overseas 🇺🇸
We’re sending a big Christmas shipment of used BJJ gis to soldiers deployed in the Middle East. Any condition is welcome—if they can train in it, they’ll love it.

Drop off at:
5th Dimension BJJ Academy
3600 Co Rd 2508 Bldg B,
Caddo Mills, TX 75135

SSGT John Sayre says thank you. 🙏

11/17/2025

“You’re a Disappointment”: When the Abuse Comes from a Mother

I’ve had too many clients — mostly young women — sit in front of me, crying after being called worthless, dramatic, a disappointment, or ungrateful…
Not by a stranger.
Not by a partner.
But by their mother.

In just the past week, I’ve heard stories of mothers:

Calling their daughters “spoiled babies” for crying

Berating them before school or performances

Blocking relationships out of jealousy or control

Saying things that make their daughters feel small, ashamed, or broken

👉 This is emotional abuse. And it’s more common than we want to admit.

💬 Why does this happen—especially to daughters?

As a family systems therapist, I’ve seen these patterns again and again:

🔹 Daughters who are attractive, independent, or emotionally expressive often become targets.
🔹 Some mothers project their own pain, jealousy, or regret onto their children.
🔹 Others use guilt, control, or shame to maintain emotional power.
🔹 The abuse is often dismissed as “discipline” or “tough love.”

But let’s be clear: criticizing your child’s emotions, worth, or identity isn’t tough love. It’s trauma.

🚫 Let’s stop asking why daughters walk away—

Start asking what happened that made leaving the only safe option.

If you are a mother and your daughter distances herself, that is not betrayal—it’s protection.
No one wants to walk away from a mother who makes them feel loved, seen, and supported.
But they will walk away from emotional harm.

🧠 What can you do if this is your reality?

If you grew up with a mother who constantly criticized or shamed you:

You don’t have to take it personally (even if it feels personal).

You can stay emotionally grounded without shutting yourself down.

You can set boundaries—even with family.

You can heal. You deserve to heal.

And if your mother still refuses to take responsibility?
You are allowed to protect your peace—even if it means going no-contact.

⚖️ The system needs to do better, too.

Family courts and CPS often ignore emotional abuse — especially when it’s from mothers.
But emotional abuse is real. It’s damaging. And it should never be minimized just because “she’s your mom.”

✨ Final words: To every daughter who’s been broken down by her mother—

You are not too much.
You are not ungrateful.
You are not a disappointment.

You are already becoming the woman she couldn’t allow herself to be.
And that is exactly why she feared your light.

💬 Therapists, survivors, advocates—let’s break the silence. Have you seen this in your work or your life? Let’s talk about it. 👇

For a full copy of this article, please send me a DM.

11/13/2025

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11/10/2025

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11/04/2025

I currently have availability in-person (or virtual) in Caddo Mills on Mondays at 11:00 AM.
Reclaim Your Life – Professional Counseling in Rockwall & Caddo Mills
At Lake Ray Hubbard Counseling, we understand how difficult it can feel to face conflict, trauma, or everyday stress — especially when you worry you’ll do it “wrong.”
Led by Dr. Dawn Rachel Floran (PhD, MBA, LPC-S) — a Combat Army Veteran Behavioral Health Specialist during Operation Iraqi Freedom (OIF) — our practice offers compassionate, personalized care for individuals, couples, families, and veterans.
Specialties include:
• Emotional abuse (gaslighting) & relationship healing
• PTSD, trauma, military & veteran issues
• Couples / marriage / family conflict
• Personality disorders, assessments & EMDR therapy
Whether you’re seeking support after deployment, navigating a major life change, or simply trying to feel more like yourself again — you are welcome here.
📍 Two convenient locations: Rockwall & Caddo Mills
💻 Online sessions available
💳 We accept self-pay, most flex cards, many EAPs, and Wounded Warrior Project referrals
📞 Contact us today:
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10/30/2025

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10/30/2025

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10/27/2025

The Silent Relationship Killer: Our Phones
By Dr. Rachel Floran, PhD, LPC-S

(Before you read my article, know I am, and have also been guilty of this. I am also work in progress). Enjoy:

As a combat and relationship therapist, I see daily how phones are quietly damaging our connections. Couples tell me they feel distant, parents feel frustrated, and families sit together while living in separate digital worlds.

We get onto our kids for being distracted by screens—but if we’re honest, we’re doing the same thing. Phones create the illusion of connection while stealing the moments that truly build it.

Bedtime used to be for winding down together—now it’s scrolling side by side. The dinner table used to be for laughter and stories—now it’s notifications and half-listening. Over time, that disconnection turns into loneliness.

You don’t have to give up your phone—you just have to reclaim your presence. Try small steps:
❤️ Make dinner a no-phone zone
🕯 Put phones away 30 minutes before bed
👀 When someone talks, look up and listen

Real connection doesn’t happen through a screen. It happens when we show up fully—with our eyes, our hearts, and our attention.

Let’s model the kind of presence we want our kids—and our partners—to feel.

If you or someone you know is struggling with this, or anything else, please feel free to contact my clinic at lakerayhubbardcounseling@gmail.com
or 972-693-4293.

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10/24/2025

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10/23/2025

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