Tori Palliccia, LMFT

07/19/2025

So many people give their power away in dating in hopes that they will be liked and chosen. The anxiety of being chosen can cause us to ignore our own needs, causing anxiety to intensify. This doesn’t build connection, safety does. You get to decide what you want out of relationships and whether that person is good for you or not. You’ll know you’ve grown when you stop worrying about whether they choose you and decide if you choose them. No more giving your power away. . recovery

07/15/2025

Dating is harder than ever these days. It’s not just competing with other people, it’s about competing with someone’s demons. There are some people who simply aren’t emotionally healthy enough to give you what you need because of the battles they’re still fighting within themselves. This is not an invitation for the caregivers out there to try harder. Loving someone’s wounds won’t make them love you back in the way you need because you can’t love the demons out of someone who hasn’t chosen to face them. All it will do is leave you depleted and questioning your worth.

And for those who feel rejected and wonder why they aren’t enough, please hear this, it’s not about you, it’s about the battles they’re fighting within themselves.

Sometimes love isn’t enough to heal someone who isn’t ready to heal. And that’s not your fault.

07/12/2025

What parts of yourself have you given up because you needed to feel chosen? What have you ignored or compartmentalized in order to feel chosen? So many people are willing to lower their standards or sacrifice their needs just for connection, even if it’s the wrong person. Your growth will come when you recognize this as it’s happening and change the pattern. When you say your needs and wants are important and stop making excuses or rationalizing when they don’t get met. evolve

03/10/2025

Life is hard, and relationships can be complicated. Whether you’re navigating challenges, feeling lost, or just need a space to process it all, I’m here to help. Call me today for therapy that meets you where you are.

12/03/2024

Have you ever been around people that make you feel like you are too much or shame you for who you are? Those aren’t your people. Your people love you just the way you are and will make you feel safe and seen around them. Be careful with the people you allow to access to you, not everyone deserves it.

11/20/2024

What are the holidays like for you?

10/04/2024

Anxiety can be such a debilitating force and it makes perfect sense to want to not have feelings that are uncomfortable and can control you. The problem is, they are part of us and we need to work with them as if they are a part of us. Being able to say, “oh I know what this, it’s my anxiety” (shame, anger, sadness, etc.) and understanding why they its there will help you feel more in control instead of out of control. Let’s explore it and see what triggers it and what it’s trying to protect you from or warn you against and then we can figure out how to deal with it.

09/29/2024

Life is crazy, do you want to talk about it? Whether you need to change, heal, gain understanding or need support, therapy can help.

Tori Palliccia, LMFT, provides trauma therapy, therapy in California, Oregon, Calabasas, West Hills, and Woodland Hills. Tori Palliccia specializes in trauma, anger management, and addiction, and relationships/attachment issues.

09/27/2024

In order to have intimacy, you have to feel safe enough to let go and be free with the other person; you have to know they will take care of your heart. And though most people are able to find physical intimacy, a lot of people aren’t able to get emotional intimacy (either because of their fears of venerability or the people around them are not responsive). It’s really scary to let someone into your mind and let them see all of the parts of you, and sadly not everyone will respond in the way you need. Through childhood and onto life, as we try to share ourselves with people and the more “unsafe or wrong” people you encounter, the more the walls go up and it becomes difficult to let people in. This can cause people to feel very lonely because they never feel understood or that there’s someone that can truly take care of them and that way. and for some, they’ve learned that they aren’t important enough somehow to take up space and this causes different issues but the same loneliness. Being able to connect with somebody on an emotionally intimate level and to know they hear you, see you and have your back, Is one of the best feelings in the world. If you struggle with being able to be vulnerable and share how you’re feeling for whatever reason, let’s work on it. Let’s help you find the right people and let’s help you feel seen and heard.
I don’t wanna trivialized physical intimacy because that can be tricky as well. There are a lot of people that feel used or use s*x in order to find connection/worth without any foundational connection but this also leaves a sense of emptiness. There are some people that aren’t getting any physical connection which can hurt ones sense of self. Real intimacy is a delicate thing and there are some people that want it and some people that don’t. If you are somebody that wants it, let’s help you with choosing other people that want it and not the ones that don’t. *x

09/14/2024

We all have parts of ourselves that we want to keep hidden and parts that we don’t feel good about; that’s where the work is. When you can show up for the those parts of you and try to understand it and yourself, you will not need to fight, to protect, run away/escape from, make yourself smaller, push everyone else away or whatever defense you have in place that doesn’t work for you anymore.

06/17/2024

Pain is at the core of all destructive and self neglecting behaviors. Get to the source so you can heal it and stop bleeding it, repeating it or reinforcing it. What do you need to be ok? What do you need to be at peace with yourself?

06/04/2024

When people are healthy they see the red flags and walk away, but when people aren’t healthy they tolerate or make excuses for the red flags and keep trying. You know you’re doing good when you start dating someone that doesn’t treat you right and you say no thanks. When you are good with you and know your worth, you won’t tolerate that s**t anymore. It’s a journey of self reflection and understanding, learning boundaries, tolerating anxiety and understanding coaching yourself through abandonment and rejection wounds and building your confidence and esteem, but it’s the greatest gift you can give yourself. ft.com