Sage DeRosier, M.A., LMFT

07/18/2025

https://chng.it/pfb6kcjWnY

Urge Stanford to reinstate gender-affirming care for trans youth

07/17/2025

Significant, deep stuff… Kindness, steadiness, forgiveness, effort, babies… Grow, my lovelies! 🌻

https://www.facebook.com/OptimisticOrPessimistic/posts/1212000567638031

07/06/2025

The opposite of desirous love (Eros) is not anger, fear, hate, or sadness. It’s indifference, neutrality, peace.

Anger, fear, hate, and sadness indicate that we desire, we want… and our blind, rigid attachment to getting what we want… to controlling people, places, and things… is GREATER than our self love or care about others, GREATER than our courage to authentically connect, create win-win solutions, feel compassion, forgive, let go of what isn’t ours, soften, allow, and engage with sincere curiosity about the magic, miracles, and unconditional quality of love beyond our narrow, rigid, life-sucking attachment…

06/24/2025

There is a thing coming up. If you attend, prepare well and stay safe while peacefully and lovingly advocating for EVERYONE’s rights to healthcare. 🫶🏽

06/22/2025

Now that we in the northern hemisphere are officially in summer, 2025, let us consider using these long days of illumination to warmly reflect on personal growth… 🫶🏽

06/18/2025

It’s summer, 2025. Days are longer and we enjoy the longer stretches of light and warmth in our seasonal exposure to the sun. As for me, I choose to share with you some warming, bright bits of wisdom… Allow yourself to be nourished today. Grow… 🌻🫶🏽⭐️

05/29/2025

Life isn’t a child’s concrete and overly simplistic “either or” paradigm… Life is spectrum, nuance, baby steps, more of an “all of the above” situation. Make like the Tardis and get bigger on the inside. Let us make room for discomfort AND pleasure, pain AND bliss, difficulty AND ease, the whole range of BEing. 🌻

05/11/2025

Things to meditate upon today…
1) Empathy is the ability to stop clutching one’s own rigidly held and fear-filled beliefs to extend SINCERE CURIOSITY about the experience and reality of another person. It is a significant skill to develop, hone, and balance holding paradox of staying sincerely curious about one’s own reality AS WELL AS the realities of others.

2) Healing from complex trauma is a slow, sometimes arduous, painstaking, courageous process. The journey cannot happen in isolation. We need sane, regulated, emotionally mature people to help, support, role model, connect, and consistently demonstrate safety, steadiness, loving kindness, honor, integrity, humility, flexibility, compassion, rigorous and microscopic honesty, and warm-hearted good faith to LEARN how to integrate those things inside our own system… so we can pay it forward and role model for others…

3) Proactive change requires us to think incrementally and in moderation. Start with loving kindness, patience, and persistence (especially in the face of setbacks and little inconsistencies). We must give ourselves the gifts of letting baby steps be enough, reframing disappointment with positive reinforcement, and letting any tiny drop of progress count as significant.

We are capable of so much more awesomeness than what our limited minds allow us to believe… 🌻

04/09/2025

Truth: stranger and more emotionally immature than fiction… From historian, Heather Cox Richardson in her Letters From An American:

“Asked about the public fight between two of Trump’s advisors—two of the most powerful men in the world—White House press secretary Karoline Leavitt told reporters: “Boys will be boys.””

In 12-step parlance: “Retrogression can spell death for us.”

Here’s the definition for those unfamiliar with the term because they don’t like big words…

03/25/2025

How very retrogressive, offensively aggressive N**i of him…

03/25/2025

Yikes. 😳😬🤮 That’s gonna be hard given Costco is fabulous and the homophobic chicken chain is so heinous… the horror of profits above people... 😩😭

03/12/2025

Faaaaabulous!