Misfit Mama Therapist

Misfit Mama Therapist I am a feral AF trauma therapist who helps hyper-independent women heal their sh*t through EMDR, Intensives, inner child, & parts work. Let's get untamed AF!

Sarcastic, compassionate AF, zero-fluff therapy—healing sucks less when you keep it real.

04/23/2026

Many of us were raised by people who loved us the best way they knew how. And that way was often: push through, stop crying, figure it out.

So your brain took notes.

Now you’re a grown woman who is incredible at surviving, terrible at receiving, and completely convinced that love is something you have to earn.

That’s not a character flaw. That’s a brain that learned the rules early and never got the update.

The good news is that programming isn’t permanent.

If you’re ready to stop performing for love and actually feel it, my EMDR Intensives are open, link in bio. This is where we start the reprogramming.

04/22/2026

There’s a way to do deep trauma work in days, not years.
Most people have never heard of it because nobody talks about it.

EMDR Intensives are concentrated, immersive therapy sessions designed to get you further in a few days than traditional weekly therapy might in years. Same evidence-based treatment. Completely different timeline.

Drop your questions below. I read every one and will answer what I can.

04/21/2026

Stop blaming yourself for not saying it clearly enough.

You said it clearly. Multiple times. In multiple fu***ng ways. With patience and kindness and “I” statements and every damn tool your therapist gave you.

They just decided being right was more important than understanding you. And no amount of “better communication” fixes a comprehension problem that was never really about communication in the first fu***ng place.

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04/15/2026

The situationship was never really about him.

It was about the part of you that learned love comes with uncertainty and decided “almost” was better than nothing.

That part of you deserves so much more than almost.

Follow along. We don’t do “almost” here.

04/14/2026

I am a licensed professional, and I said what I said.

My clients are out here doing the hardest work of their lives.

Rewiring old patterns, breaking generational cycles, and learning to take up space for the first time ever.

And some of y’all really chose now to try them.
Bold. Truly bold.

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04/08/2026

This is the moment everything shifts.

Not when she leaves. Not even when she stops loving him.

When she finally understands WHY she kept going back. And it had nothing to do with him being the one. It had everything to do with her body mistaking familiarity for love.

That’s the work. And EMDR is what finally gets her there.

If you’re ready to stop replaying the same story with different people, my EMDR intensives are open. Link in bio.

04/07/2026

When I became a trauma therapist and opened my own private practice, “learn to explain attachment theory in 10 seconds or less” was not on the checklist. And yet here we are. LOL

We’re all figuring this s**t out in real time. One goldfish to another.

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04/02/2026

Forgiveness is not the goal.

Some things are unforgivable AF. And forcing yourself to perform forgiveness you don’t actually feel is not healing. It is just another way of gaslighting yourself into believing your pain wasn’t that bad.

I said what I the f**k said!

When forgiveness for someone becomes the goal of your healing, that person becomes the center of your healing. And that means they’re still taking up way too much space in your head.

You can’t will yourself into forgiveness.

So here’s what I actually tell my clients.
The goal is indifference.

Indifference means whether that person wins a million dollars or gets hit by a fu***ng bus, you genuinely couldn’t give two s**ts. No bitterness. No resentment. No emotional charge when their name comes up. They just become a person who exists or doesn’t. And it doesn’t emotionally move you.

Like a song you played on repeat until one day it comes on and you feel absolutely nothing. Just. Nothing.

That is healing too.

EMDR can get you there. Not because it forces forgiveness. But because it reprocesses the memory so your brain finally understands it was back then, not now. It just becomes background noise. And I am not just saying this as a therapist, I am saying this has lived experience. I’ve been in that client seat.

You don’t have to forgive to heal.

Heal until they are nobody to you. That’s the whole damn goal.

04/01/2026

Let me be very clear about something.

I have a master’s degree. I am trained in trauma-informed care, conflict resolution, nervous system regulation, and evidence-based therapeutic modalities.

AND I fully believe that some people have earned a very direct, very heartfelt, go f**k yourself.

These two things are not mutually exclusive.

Healthy communication means expressing your needs clearly, listening to understand, and working toward repair when it’s possible and safe.

But here is the part they leave out of the textbooks: not every situation calls for a calm, regulated, “I feel” statement.

Sometimes the most emotionally intelligent thing you can do is recognize that this person has repeatedly, deliberately, and unapologetically chosen to disrespect you. And that no amount of perfectly worded communication is going to fix someone who was never confused about what they were doing that was impacting your negatively.

Impact over intention. EVERY.DAMN.TIME.

You were never required to stay gentle for people who chose to be cruel.

Boundaries are not always a gentle conversation. Sometimes they are a door slamming close, a number blocked, and sometimes, yes, they are a very clear, very final, f**k all the way off.

Share this with someone who needed the permission slip today.

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Hey Mama!

My name is Jessica Rae, but I go by Jess.

I’ve been a single mama since I was 19, life definitely threw us some curve balls.

I’m also a tell it like it is, Mental Wellness, mindset empowered kinda chick with a sailor’s mouth.