White Rabbit Counseling and Trauma Recovery, LLC

08/19/2025

08/18/2025

What if your child woke up in a home where no one yelled?

Where respect and calm conversations were the norm.

Where the tension doesn’t live in the air, and the bedtime kisses come after real connection—not silent discomfort.

It might just be you and your child in that quiet space. That’s okay. What matters most is that home feels safe.

This kind of home shapes a child’s future. They’ll learn how to love and be loved the way they experienced it at home. When we fill our space with peace, kindness, and firm boundaries, we begin shaping their inner world.

Surround yourself with people who treat you with respect, who don’t drag in drama or demand perfection. Choose relationships that let you breathe easier and support the person you’re becoming. When your inner life rests in peace, it becomes easier to hold the calm you want in the chaos kids bring.

Remember: the way we live, who we allow into our lives, the boundaries we set, the self-respect we model—all of it becomes the blueprint our children follow.

If you're ready to build that kind of home—the kind your child feels safe to grow in, come join me on Tuesday, August 12, for a free, live parent coaching session.

You’ll get:

✅ Live coaching (real parents, real struggles, real solutions)
✅ Practical answers to your parenting questions
✅ Step-by-step tools to lead your child with calm confidence

Let’s shift things together. Save your seat now. It’s totally free—but spots are limited.

https://go.thepeacefulparentacademy.com/coaching-session

08/17/2025

Don’t ask me how I did it I just did it it was hard 🤞🏻🌱

08/17/2025

It should end with us🙏🏻✨

08/16/2025

When a child is upset, logic can feel like a foreign language. The louder the emotion, the quieter the lesson becomes.

In our well-meaning desperation to solve the problem, to explain, to reason, we often rush in with fixes when what they really need
is to feel safe in the mess.

Because in that flooded moment, they can’t hear our wisdom until they feel our warmth.

It’s not reason they need — it’s reassurance.
Not explanations — but presence.

Their nervous system is doing exactly what it was wired to do: sound the alarm.
And our job is not to shut it down, but to meet it with enough calm to show them it’s safe to come back.

First, love.

Then, when the storm passes — the lesson will land.

Connection opens the door.
Only then can guidance walk through. ❤️

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08/16/2025

A beautiful reminder that children who act out are simply having a hard time.

They’re not “bad” kids.

They’re kids.

Mini-humans who are not fully developed yet.

If they could do better in that moment, they would.

Don’t pull away or push them away when they feel hard.

Lean into the hard.

Gather all of the strength and patience you can find inside you and be there for them.

Show them the love and compassion you needed as a child when you were having a hard time.

You’ve got this mama ❤️

08/16/2025

Your well-being is priceless!

08/15/2025

You are not the arbiter of shame. And neither am I.

It’s not our job to make people feel like s**t for their behavior.

What IS our job, is to communicate our boundary/preference/limit/need to the other side in way that takes responsibility for our feelings and what we’re willing to tolerate. To be vulnerable about how we’ve been impacted, and about how we’d like things to go in the future.

That’s a heck of a lot harder than just making someone else bad & wrong.

The impulse to shame is old, and it’s everywhere.
But it’s counter-intuitive;
it does not do what you want it to do.

You want it to make the other person fully understand the impact of their behavior so that they won’t do it again. You want them to feel what you feel so that they understand.

Instead, shaming brings up the other person’s walls, usually makes you unsafe and more of an ‘other,’ and creates a disconnect between you and that person. And if they already have trauma in this area, good luck adding shame to it (it’s going to make you very unsafe).

Sure, sometimes it’s effective in that the behavior stops. But it also begins to weaken the bond and the trust between the two of you.

The reason the world is so seemingly full of narcissists is because of how much we try to use shame to change other people. We project our pain onto them, hoping they’ll understand, and instead they absorb it.

But when you take it all apart, you realize that if we want to stay connected to someone and have them better understand the impact of their behavior, and want to grow together in the future, we have to do the hard, emotional self management work of vulnerability communicating this to the person we care about.

If you want some help learning how to communicate more effectively, especially in conflict, that’s just one aspect of what we'll work on in the 12 month Cycle Breakers program beginning September 2nd. Come learn new tools and ways of operating within human systems that might get you different results.
https://theeqschool.co/cycle-breakers

12/03/2024

We can now take Anthem EAP Bank of America!! So exciting to be able to be even more accessible 🩷

11/24/2024

Great news! We can now take UHC Medicare Advantage in MO!

11/06/2024

We are now able to take Oxford and Oscar health insurance! More exciting things to come :)

11/05/2024

We can now take United healthcare!!!!