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11/24/2015

WHAT TO DO WHEN YOUR TEMPER FLARES
By: Dawn Huebner, Ph. D.
A KID’S GUIDE TO OVERCOMING PROBLEMS WITH ANGER

CHAPTER TWO: A SECRET ABOUT ANGER

Everyone gets angry sometimes. In fact, it’s such a common feeling that we have lots of words to describe it. Think about what it feels like to be angry. Make an angry face to help yourself get in the mood. Try to bring the actual feeling into your body. It doesn’t feel very good, does it?

Now think about all the times when someone has been mad at you. That doesn’t feel very good either. In fact, when you think about it, it probably seems like anger is something to be avoided.

But actually, anger is a good thing. It’s our body’s way of telling us that we don’t like what’s going on.

The problem is, it can get big so fast.

It can cause us to say things we don’t really mean and do things we would never do if we were calm and in control. Anger that has gotten too big can make bad situations even worse, and get us into lots and lots of trouble.

Think of some things that have made you mad recently. Think carefully. Think about school and home. Think about your little brother and your big sister. Think about the things you want that you can’t have. Think about the things people sometimes say and do that drive you nuts. Think about the last time you yelled at your mom or dad. There are so many things that lead to angry feelings.

But there’s a secret about anger, something that will save you from exploding when something goes wrong. Once you know this secret, your anger won’t get so big, so scary, or so likely to get you into trouble anymore. (By the way, lots of adults don’t know this secret either, which is why they get so mad so often, too.)

If you’re like most kids, learning this little secret might make you kind of mad. You might be thinking, “This book is stupid. I don’t make myself mad! It’s my pesky brother or my mean teacher or my sister hogging the computer ….or whatever.”

Hang in there though. Take a deep breath. You are about to learn something really, really interesting, something that might even change your life. It isn’t what happened that made you mad, instead it was your thoughts about what happened that made you mad, or that helped you feel fine.

Now you already know that you can’t control what happens to you. People say things and do things without asking your permission. It rains on the day of your pool party, or you lose at Go Fish, or someone teases you at school. You can’t control any of those things.

But you can control what you think, and what you think determines how you feel. So if you change your thoughts, you can change your feelings. And if you’re tired of being a kid who blows up whenever something doesn’t go your way, all you have to do is learn how to move away from the angry thoughts that are causing these explosions.

It’s something lots of kids have learned to do, and you can too. Keep reading and you will learn how.