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11/02/2016

Anxiety relief tools poster!

07/27/2016

Some things to consider.

To endure 20,000 days, 100 vacations, and 100,000 leisure hours with another human being and do so happily, there are three key ingredients necessary.

05/12/2016

How you begin is everything.

Approach conflict gently by using these "soft startup" techniques.

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04/20/2016

Gottman repair checklist. Useful stuff here!

Please enjoy this Gottman Repair Checklist for de-escalating conflict.

It provides you and your partner the vocabulary to help explain how you feel and what you need to do to calm down. It also helps you to decide how to come to an agreement, when to take a break, and how to show appreciation.

04/14/2016

When you're not sure what to say or do to help your anxious child, try these!

Must read article >>>

04/12/2016

Helpful responses to your child's negative self-talk.

Does your child say, "I'm dumb, I'm stupid, no one loves me" when they are frustrated? Use these tips to respond to your child's negative self-talk.

04/07/2016

Can you make it to the end? Compassion comes from understanding another person's context and experience. This video gives you a small sense of what the sensory overload of autism feels like.

UK’s National Autistic Society created this powerful video and posed this question to viewers: Can you make it to the end? The video aims to show the sensory overload a child with autism experiences when they do seemingly common activities (like going to a mall).  It really helps you better understa…

03/19/2016

If you have a child with performance anxiety, or you struggle with it yourself, rather than battle to eliminate and negate your body's reaction, try this simple reframe to shift your response to stress.

Take this quick test: You’re about to give the biggest speech of your life. One-thousand pairs of eyes are glaring at you—you’re nervous. In fact, your heart is racing, your palms are clammy, your breath is shallow, and your tummy is in knots....

03/08/2016

Understanding how the cortex and limbic system work can empower children to self-regulate.

When children understand what’s happening in the brain, it can be the first step to having the power to make choices and build their emotional intelligence.

02/24/2016

Empathy is powerful.

My son was near tears when I picked him up from school the other day, barely able to contain his sorrow long enough to walk to the car, where he could break down in relative privacy.

01/18/2016

Research based tips on how to make the most of your date night. :)

Being intentional and playful about date night prevents a "silent drift apart."

12/30/2015

This article offers a useful communication tool that can diffuse tension, while letting the other person know what's going on in your head, so you can clear the air. It seems to be rooted in a therapeutic school of thought called narrative therapy. Approaching problems using this method gives you an opportunity to fact check your assumptions. The power of acknowledging that you have a story you are telling yourself in your head, to try to make sense of your experience, is that you can then revise that often painful story with new information.

This simple phrase can dramatically minimize conflict in your relationships and help prevent arguments and resentment.