08/05/2025
Mystic Musings: The Myth of Free- Boundaries and Value in Spirit-led Work
I used to give freely. Not just once in a while, but all the time. Sessions, services, healing, house cleansing & blessing, support-I poured it out because I thought that’s what being generous looked like. That’s what spirit-led leadership meant.
But over time, I started to see the pattern. People came looking for a fix. A high. A moment of clarity they could tuck into their pocket and forget as soon as the old habits kicked back in. They’d show up and receive the work. Then go right back home to pop the pills, snort the line—and yes, summon literal entities into their space.
And there I was, showing up again and again to clear it, to bless it, to hold energetic integrity in spaces they refused to honor.
Then they’d return, asking for more free work.
No shift. No integration. No personal responsibility.
It wasn’t healing-it was extraction.
That loop nearly took me out.
Not because they were broken. But, because I forgot to honor my own boundaries, my own worth, my own energy. It took years. Literally. Until I was depleted. Burnt out. Used up. And rarely a thank you. These clients became dependent on my energy, and I was doing them and myself a disservice for allowing it to continue.
So now? I’ve learned.
Yes, I charge for my work. I’ve invested tens of thousands of dollars over the years into my education, training, and experience. I’ve spent decades studying, refining, healing, channeling, learning, anchoring.
I could pull out a pile of certificates from the box in my closet if you really want to see them. But I’m not in the business of hanging my self-worth on the wall. I think it ruins the aesthetic. The paper proves completion. My presence proves integration. If it’s that important to someone, sure-I’ll fetch the certificates and press one to their third eye until the point sinks in.
Maybe one day, I'll get around to putting them in an album. But honestly, the cardboard box is fine with me.
My deepest learnings were never taught-they were revealed. Years of experience and communion with the Divine unlocked what no syllabus ever could. The classes helped me find the doorway, but the essence walked in on its own- through devotion. Devotion to myself and Infinite Intelligence-which is one and the same in my experience.
What I offer isn’t casual. It’s earned. It’s alive. It’s valuable.
If someone can’t afford it, I understand. There are other teachers out there. I’m not everyone’s teacher-I don’t need nor want to be.
I do offer free and discounted sessions and classes at times-but not randomly. There’s a scholarship process. There’s discernment. There’s energetic alignment. People have to show me how they show up for themselves. Barter happens. Reciprocity matters. The Reiki tradition teaches that there must be exchange-and I understand why. I had to learn this lesson through contrast.
And here's the thing: I know poverty. I lived it for half my life. But I also learned I’m the creator of my reality-and when I really claimed that -miracles happened.
So, I don’t apologize for my boundaries. I don’t apologize for valuing my work...And I sure as hell don’t apologize for choosing clients and students who are ready, willing, and able to walk the spiral-not demand the summit.
