08/31/2018
Esther has some unique views. I like hearing them!
At the heart of sustaining desire in a committed relationship is the reconciliation of two fundamental human needs. On the one hand, our need for security, for predictability, for safety, for dependability, for reliability, for permanence. On the other hand, for adventure, for novelty, for mystery, for risk, for danger, for the unknown, for the unexpected.
Rather than viewing this tension between the erotic and the domestic as a problem to solve, I suggest you view it as a paradox to manage.
Revisit my talk at the TED salon for more on sustaining desire. ⬇️