Roger K Allen

11/24/2025

Thanksgiving Affirmation Guide: A Quiet Practice for a More Meaningful Holiday

Choose Your Moment
At some point during Thanksgiving Day, connect privately with each person in your family.

Offer One Simple Affirmation
An affirmation is a sincere statement that helps someone feel seen, valued, and appreciated.

Be Personal and Brief
No speeches. Just one genuine moment.

Focus on Their Strengths
Character · actions · contributions · positive qualities · growth you've noticed.

Let It Land
Make eye contact. Smile. Keep it simple. Let them feel the warmth of being acknowledged.

Examples:

“You have a gift for making people smile.”

“I love that you clean up without being asked.”

“You've been resilient throughout a hard year.”

“I’m grateful for your sensitivity to family members."

Your Turn: What might you say to a family member or loved one?

08/29/2025

https://www.rogerkallen.com/affirming-others/
We all want to feel seen and valued. At our core, we long to know that we matter—that our actions, presence, and efforts are recognized by others. One of the most powerful ways to meet this need is through the skill of affirming others: recognizing people for their contributions, character, or efforts in a sincere and specific way.

We all long to know that we matter. One of the most powerful ways to meet this need is through the skill of affirming others.

08/27/2025

We all want to feel seen and valued. At our core, we long to know that we matter—that our actions, presence, and efforts are recognized by others. One of the most powerful ways to meet this need is through the skill of affirming others: recognizing people for their contributions, character, or efforts in a sincere and specific way.

We all long to know that we matter. One of the most powerful ways to meet this need is through the skill of affirming others.

06/04/2025

https://www.rogerkallen.com/emotionally-intelligent-communication/
Learn to communicate with family and loved ones in a non-reactive way that opens up communication and growth.

By learning emotionally intelligent communication, you deepen your relationships and help loved ones grow in their ability to handle life.

02/14/2025

https://www.rogerkallen.com/4-communication-styles-how-to-grow-myself-and-my-relationships/

Improve how you communicate in both your personal life and on the job. It's one of the best investments you can ever make.

Understanding four styles of communication will help you become more intentional in growing yourself and your relationships.

11/01/2024

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06/17/2024

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The premise of this course is that much of your happiness and well-being as well as success in all aspects of your life depend upon the quality of your relationships. When your relationships are poor, your effectiveness is greatly diminished. On the other hand, when your relationships are strong and healthy then your well-being and your ability to produce positive outcomes is greatly increased. Sign up now The

04/25/2024

https://www.rogerkallen.com/letting-go-of-shame-by-reframing/ We can literally rewrite our history and as we do so we let go of shame and other negative feelings that are holding us back.

I’d been telling myself the wrong story all these years. My friend helped me understand a story that helped me let go of my shame.

04/04/2024

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The idea is that the biggest factor that causes us to handle conflict poorly are our own emotional reactions. What do you do when you're triggered by something someone says or does? Do you respond in ways that are harmful or helpful? Learn to calm and empower yourself in the middle of conflict and adversity.

02/13/2024

https://www.rogerkallen.com/want-to-feel-better-face-your-negative-feelings/Daily stress and adversity, by their very nature, result in what we consider to be negative emotions. The greater the stressor, the bigger our emotions. Think about it. We wouldn’t call something stressful or traumatic or a hardship if it didn’t impact our feelings. In fact, we know we’re experiencing stress because of what we feel. So, being able to regulate what we feel is such an important part of managing stress and building resilience.

01/16/2024

https://www.rogerkallen.com/small-and-simple-decisions-that-make-a-big-difference/

Seemly small decisions but decisions, nonetheless, lead me down the path I want; a path that fits with my purpose and vision.

01/12/2024

https://www.rogerkallen.com/slower-is-faster-my-new-years-mantra/

Life can be more pleasurable if done slowly and deliberately. So my New Year’s resolution is to find a more natural rhythm and pace.