04/19/2026
Like many of you, I recently learned about what’s being called a “rape academy” — spaces where men are literally being taught how to manipulate, pressure, and override women’s boundaries.
Let’s not sugarcoat this: this isn’t seduction. This isn’t confidence. This isn’t connection.
This is violence being trained.
And it should outrage all of us.
But here’s the harder truth — this mindset doesn’t only live in extreme spaces. It shows up in everyday, normalized behavior that people brush off or excuse.
Like coming home drunk and trying to initiate s*x without presence, without consent, without even checking in.
Like ignoring a “no.”
Like pretending not to notice when someone goes still, quiet, disconnected — just lying there.
That is not consent.
That is not intimacy.
That is not love.
Men — it’s time to wake the f**k up.
Being in a relationship does NOT give you access to someone’s body. Marriage does NOT erase the need for consent. And if you have to convince, pressure, or override someone — you already have your answer.
If you’ve ever felt pressured, frozen, or like it was easier to go along than fight — your experience matters.
I wrote a blog about what to do if you’ve experienced s*xual harm, and how to begin reconnecting with your body in a way that feels safe and supported.
Here’s the link: https://www.paws4wellness.com/blog/what-to-do-if-youve-been-s*xually-assaulted-a-gentle-guide-to-safety-and-support
There are moments in life where everything goes quiet and loud at the same time. Where your body is here… but also not. Where your thoughts don’t line up. Where you’re trying to figure out what just happened, and what you’re supposed to do next. If you are here because something happened to ...
