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05/15/2025

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05/07/2025

For nearly five decades, Kelsey Grammer carried a wound the world never fully saw. Behind the fame, the laughter, and the Emmy-winning roles, lived a brother haunted by a single, brutal night in 1975—one that tore his world apart. Now, at 70, he's finally ready to let us in.

Grammer’s new book, *Karen: A Brother Remembers*, isn’t just about grief—it’s a raw, aching tribute to the sister he lost and the pain he’s lived with since. Karen was just 18 when she was abducted, r***d, and murdered in Colorado Springs. The tragedy wasn’t just horrific—it was life-shattering. And for years, that pain stayed buried beneath a polished exterior. But not anymore.

He told his wife Kayte first. Then he poured everything else into the pages. What emerged wasn’t just a retelling of violence—it was a resurrection. Grammer brings Karen to life again: a wild-hearted, loving spirit whose story deserved more than a headline. He doesn’t just mourn her death—he revives her memory.

And yet, this book is as much about Kelsey as it is about Karen. Through the trauma of losing their father to gun violence, the collapse of their family, and the loneliness that followed, the bond between brother and sister was the thread that held him together. Losing Karen didn’t just take his sibling—it stole the sense of joy he once had.

But something happened as he wrote. The weight shifted. The grief, once unbearable, became a doorway. Not an escape from pain, but a reckoning with it.

Freddie Glenn, Karen’s killer, remains in prison. And while Grammer speaks of rhetorical forgiveness, make no mistake—he is unflinching in holding Glenn responsible. “It was deliberate,” he says. “You’re not going to get out of paying for it.”

The book ends in Colorado Springs, where Grammer retraces Karen’s final steps—a pilgrimage not for answers, but for peace. And when it was done, when the last word was written, he finally looked up.

His wife said, “I’ve missed you.”

And maybe, in some way, he missed himself too.

*Karen: A Brother Remembers* releases May 6. It’s not just a memoir. It’s a confrontation with darkness—and a fight to find the light again.

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01/09/2025

Why am I always disappointed in others?
Disappointment in others usually comes from one simple mistake: assuming they think like you do. You expect people to follow through, prioritize commitments, and value the same things you do. But they don’t, and that’s where the frustration starts. You’ve created this invisible rulebook for how people should act, but it’s a rulebook they didn’t even know existed. Their “letdowns” aren’t personal. They’re just being themselves, and you’re holding them accountable to a standard they never signed up for.
If you’re someone who prides yourself on being reliable, dependable, or ambitious, it’s easy to get angry when others don’t measure up. You’re projecting your values onto them and expecting them to match your level. Their actions challenge your belief system because you’re holding them to a standard that works for you, not for them. If you want peace of mind, stop expecting others to live by your rules.
Be clear with the people who matter. If you need something from someone, say it. Don’t assume they’ll just know.
Let people be who they are. Not everyone has your priorities, and that’s fine. Their differences aren’t flaws, they’re just not your vibe.
Save your standards for the ones who deserve them. High expectations are great, but only if they’re directed at people who’ve earned that level of trust.
Drop the resentment. Stop expecting people to play roles in your life they didn’t audition for. Watch how they show up naturally and take it for what it is.
Cut yourself some slack. If you’re hard on others, chances are you’re even harder on yourself. Can you give YOURSELF a bit more grace?



You should be proud of yourself.
If you chose the ache of walking away over the emptiness of staying, you should be insanely proud of yourself.
If you ended the cycle of giving second chances that only left you in second place, you should be insanely proud of yourself.
If you unlearned the lies someone told you about your worth, you should be insanely proud of yourself.
If you picked yourself up off the floor when no one else noticed you were falling, you should be insanely proud of yourself.
If you chose to start over instead of settling for less, you should be insanely proud of yourself.

12/12/2024

Re-evaluate, Re-define and Re-set for 2025.

The days between Christmas and New Years is time spent evaluating our life. We do a review of the past year.

Its important to figure out what went right and what went wrong in 2024.

What baggage we should leave in 2024.

What lessons we want to take into 2025.

What relationships should stay with us into the new year.

What we want the new year to look like.

What goals do we want to set.

What beliefs no longer serve us.

What personality traits are we holding on to that add stress to our lives.

During this time,I want you to re-evaluate not set goals. This is the time to think about the past year, ask the tough questions and be honest with yourself. This is the time to make a commitment to yourself and your dreams.

Below are 14 questions to help you:

Re-evaluate where you are

Re-define who you want to be

Re-set to start the next chapter of your life

*Where will I be in 1 year if nothing changes?

*Is my job a means to an end or a career?

* Am I who I want to be? Are you living an authentic life?

* Am I in the right relationship? Are you happy or settling? Does your partner make you want to be the best person you can be?

* Is your social circle lifting you up or bringing you down? You are the sum of the people you spend your time with. Do they support you? love you unconditionally?

*Do I take care of myself? Are my basic needs met? Do I get enough sleep? exercise? water? eat healthy? meditate/mindfulness?

* Am I continually growing or am I feeling stuck? Are you always trying to learn and grow?

* What/who do I take for granted?

* What are you most fearful of? What would life look like if you pushed the fear aside and took action?

* If you could change 1 thing about yourself what would it be? Why? What's stopping you from making the change?

* What do you keep running from? Are you trying to avoid certain issues? people?

* Are you stepping outside your comfort zone? Are you exploring the unknown? The uncomfortable?

* How do you define success? happiness? Does your life match your definitions?

* How are you feeling? Are you healthy? happy? energized? If not, isnt it time to make a change.

* Remember, we can always do better & be better!

Happy holidays and have a healthy New Year!

11/19/2024

No matter how disappointed you may feel, look at something positive, a silver lining, a path to something better, gratitude.
Sometimes, getting out and looking for a sunrise, sunset or the ocean can be exactly what you need to be reminded that we get another chance to be better and do better, tomorrow.

09/09/2024

THREE mindsets to help you reflect, rebel, and reinvent…


1. Don’t try to fix people who don’t want to be fixed.
Are they a project or your peace?
Do they want to change?
Are you a catalyst in their life? Or their comfort?





2. Healing is transformation
When something happens in life that drains you... what do you do? Do you power through and hope it’ll all make sense one day... or do you take time to heal?
Breakups. Personal loss. Rejection. Betrayal. Failure. Embarrassment. What do you do following those experiences? You need to heal. You need to transform.
Needing to heal doesn’t mean you’re soft, overly sensitive, or too emotional. Experiences don’t just appear and disappear in life. They extend into our essence, values, and way of seeing life unless we address them.
Healing is transformation. Healing is the process of transforming one not so ideal thing into something that is much more redeeming. Healing isn’t fixing something completely. Healing isn’t closure. That will come. Healing is transformation.
Ask yourself… what can I transform it into?
Rejection can become pride.
Heartbreak can become a higher standard.
Disappointment can become resolve.
Take a minute and ask yourself that question… what do I need to heal from? And then transform it. A becomes B. Negative energy becomes positive energy. That is healing.
One day, you’ll look back and realize how that new transformative energy serves you and you’ll be amazed by the closure you created for yourself.




3. A reminder…
Have you ever been called “too much?” Too ambitious? Too independent?Too sensitive? Too difficult? Too bold?

Maybe you are and maybe that’s exactly who you’re supposed to be?
Being “too much” is making music or art simply because you feel compelled to. It’s pursuing what makes you curious. It’s replacing “maybe” with “definitely.” It’s feeding your soul. It’s listening to other people’s stories. It’s learning new cultures and tasting new foods. It’s introducing yourself.
It’s realizing that your dreams aren’t as big or unrealistic as you once thought. It’s letting new love in. It’s opening your heart and mind to new kinds of love.

Life can be messy but being “too much” is what makes it a beautiful mess.

09/03/2024

If you’ve ever had your heart broken, you’ll get it when I say it’s one of the most profound and challenging forms of grief. It’s not something you simply “get over” like flipping a switch. As a therapist who’s experienced heartache myself, I look back on those times as some of the hardest I’ve ever been through in my life. 💔


As the character Raymond Reddington from The Blacklist so poignantly described, with grief, "There is nothing that can take the pain away. But eventually, you will find a way to live with it. There will be nightmares. And every day when you wake up, it will be the first thing you think about. Until one day it will be the second thing." ☝️

There’s a reason why the end of a relationship can feel so overwhelming. Research has shown that the brain’s response to heartbreak is similar to withdrawal from addiction. The same areas of the brain that are activated when a person experiences physical pain or has an addiction craving are also triggered during the emotional pain of a breakup. This is why it can feel all-consuming and SO PAINFUL at first. 🙈

Just like in recovery from addiction, the initial stages are often the hardest. Your brain is trying to make sense of a new reality without the person who was once a significant part of your life. If you or someone you care about is facing heartache, here are some ideas that may help.
Here Are 6 Tips for Healing After a Breakup: ⬇️
If you’re navigating heartache, here are some strategies that can help you move through the pain and start to heal:


1. Allow Yourself to Grieve 😓

Give yourself permission to feel all the emotions that come with the end of a relationship. It’s normal to feel sad, angry, confused, or even relieved. Grieving is a necessary part of the healing process. Don’t rush it.

2. Seek Support 🤗

Surround yourself with people who care about you. Whether it’s friends, family, or a therapist, having a support system can make a world of difference. Talking about your feelings can help you process them more effectively.

3. Practice Self-Compassion 💜

It’s easy to fall into the trap of self-blame after a breakup. Remember to be kind to yourself. Treat yourself with the same compassion you would offer a close friend who’s going through a hard time.

08/28/2024

There’s no denying it—summer is winding down. 🍹 For many, this transition can bring a sense of sadness. Summer, after all, is the season of beach days, barbecues, and holidays. But as the season changes our mood can too, and it’s important to acknowledge that the shift from summer to fall can be challenging for some. 🤗

It’s a season that invites spontaneity—whether it’s a last-minute weekend getaway or an impromptu picnic in the park. It’s no surprise that as we move into September, there can be a sense of loss. 😓 The end of summer can feel like the end of that carefree season.

For some, this change can trigger feelings of sadness or even anxiety. The shift from summer to fall is a reminder that time is moving forward, and with that comes the return of responsibilities, routines, and perhaps a bit more time spent indoors. It’s completely normal to feel a bit down as we say goodbye to summer, but it’s also important to remember that with each ending comes a new beginning. ☝️

While summer is undoubtedly special, fall has its own unique charm. 🍂 It’s a season of transition, where nature itself seems to be winding down and preparing for a period of rest. But within that transition, there’s a beauty and a rhythm that can be incredibly nourishing for our mental health. 🧠

First, let’s talk about the coziness that fall brings. Fall invites us to slow down a bit, to turn inward and appreciate the simple pleasures of life—whether it’s a walk through the colorful leaves, a good book by the fire, or yes, even enjoy a PSL (pumpkin spice latte -if you’re into them!). 😉 ☕️

Fall also marks the beginning of a new routine. With kids going back to school and the return of more structured days, it can be a time to set new goals and establish healthy habits. While summer is about freedom, fall is about finding balance. ⚖️ It’s a great time to get back into a routine that supports your well-being, whether that’s cooking more meals at home, getting back to regular exercise, or carving out time for self-care. 🧖‍♀️

Here Are 5 Tips for Embracing Fall: ⬇️
If you’re feeling a bit of the end-of-summer blues, here are a few tips to help ease the transition and embrace the new season:

1. Reflect on Summer Gratitude ☀️

Take some time to reflect on the highlights of your summer.

What were the moments that brought you the most joy? Write them down or create a photo album to celebrate those memories. Remembering the good times can help you carry that positive energy into the fall. 📝

2. Create a Fall Bucket List 📋

Just as you might have had a summer bucket list, create one for fall!

Whether it’s visiting a pumpkin patch, going apple picking, or trying out new soup recipes, having things to look forward to can make the season feel exciting and full of possibilities. 🎃

3. Get Outside 🥾

Just because the weather is cooling down doesn’t mean you have to stay indoors.

Fall is a beautiful time to be outside, with the changing leaves and crisp air. Make it a point to spend time in nature, whether it’s going for a hike, taking a walk in the park, or simply enjoying your morning coffee on the porch. With daylight savings and shorter days approaching, it is well worth the effort to try and get up earlier to see some morning sunshine. 🌞

07/11/2024

We talk about red flags a lot. How about focusing on the green… 🟢

07/08/2024

If you have a child with ADHD or is on the autistic spectrum, this is an excellent resource for support and options for your loved one.
Ms. Tiffany Grisham is available nationwide and has 30 years of experience working with this population. She knows her stuff!

Helping navigate the complexities of finding autism support to help your child soar!

07/08/2024

Read until the end. Sooo goood. Now, enjoy your day. 🤪

05/24/2024

Be careful what you tolerate. You are teaching people how to treat you. 💥🕊️