05/15/2026
Perimenopause stole my spark before I knew what was happening.
I was flat. 😐
Foggy. 🫨
Disconnected from my own body. 🫥
I didn’t recognize the woman in the mirror. And what I didn’t realize back then? It took my libido with it.
Because spark and libido aren’t separate things. They live in the same place.
Libido isn’t just about s*x. It’s how you feel in your skin.
The way you move through the world.
Whether you feel connected to your own body or like you’re watching it from the outside.
When a woman tells me her libido is gone, what she usually means is, “I don’t feel like myself anymore.”
And there are 3️⃣ reasons that happens.
1️⃣Testosterone. It runs your drive, your confidence, your motivation. By 45, most women have half what they did at 25. And your doctor probably didn’t test it. Or they tested total T and not free T, which is the only number that actually matters.
2️⃣Tissue. When estrogen drops, the v***a and va**na thin out and lose blood flow. Sometimes you don’t even notice, you just stop wanting it. Your body avoids what hurts. Vaginal estrogen is one of the safest, most underused tools we have.
3️⃣Nervous system. If you’re running on cortisol, broken sleep, and a mile-long mental load, your body shuts desire off on purpose. Survival before reproduction. Every time. You can have perfect hormones on paper and still feel like a stranger in your body. This is why I start with the nervous system before we touch hormones.
You don’t have a libido problem. You have a body going through layers.
DM me DESIRE and I’ll send you the full framework, plus how we work through each one in my program.
