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10/11/2025

The huddle will take you and others so much further.

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10/10/2025

Happy World Mental Health Day!

World Mental Health Day is a reminder: you’re not alone in the work of being human. Small steps toward mental health create big shifts in your life.
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09/26/2025

I'm taking on new clients. Feel free to reach out.
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09/11/2025

We're starting a 10 week group on Emotional Agility by Susan David.
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09/06/2025

Do you judge others too harshly because that's the way you also judge yourself?
Acknowledging where we struggle and giving ourself support isn't selfishness.
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09/03/2025

A new group is starting!
Join others across PA and NY to learn effective tools to engage with your thoughts and emotions, and with others in more healthier, beneficial ways.
Group is a 10-week series starting on September 15h. Click on the link to learn more and reach out for more information. https://resoulingtherapy.com/therapy-groups-ny-pa-fl-adults/

06/18/2025

It's okay to not be okay.



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Some of the most resilient people I meet in trauma therapy don’t look like they’re struggling at all.

They’re highly capable. Driven. Empathetic. They hold it together in public, take care of everyone else, and have mastered the art of “pushing through.”

But here’s the thing:
Functioning isn’t the same as healing.
Adapting to pain isn’t the same as moving beyond it.

Our minds and bodies are incredibly smart when it comes to survival. We learn to cope in ways that help us keep our pain at bay - like staying overly independent, avoiding conflict, overachieving, or putting everyone else’s needs first.

These patterns often start as protection. And they work - until they start getting in the way of what we actually need.

While you might look fine on the outside, your body might still be bracing. Your relationships might still feel distant. Your joy might still feel like something you have to earn.

Healing is what happens when we stop just performing wellness and start tending to the parts of us that never got the chance to feel safe, held, or whole.

It’s slower. It’s messier. It’s deeper.

And it doesn’t mean erasing the ways you adapted. It means understanding them, honoring them - and slowly giving your system permission to live beyond them.

Not perfectly. Not all at once. But in ways that let you feel more present, more connected, and more at home in your own life.

06/18/2025

I believe there is a God, and he's not you.

Embracing limitations is a challenging, spiritual discipline.



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A while back, I had the opportunity to visit the command center aboard an extremely large ship. Toward the end of the tour, the captain asked if I would like to sit in his seat. As I sat down, I couldn’t help but be amazed at all the skill and expertise necessary to safely run this vessel.

My friends who were with me took several pictures of me looking like I was in control. But it was an illusion. I didn’t have the knowledge or the experience to do anything helpful unless the captain instructed me.

Can you imagine what a foolish request it would have been if I’d asked the captain, who was fully capable and fully equipped, to entrust his ship into my fully incapable hands?

I can verify, without hesitation, that me being in control of that ship would have been a risk no one wanted to take. It may have felt good to feel in control for a few minutes, but if I wanted to return home safely, I had to turn the control over to the captain.

Just as in life, there are dangers in the sea that only the captain knows how to handle.

Trying to carry the weight of holding everything and everybody together is a role God never called us to carry. And it’s taking a great toll on our peace.

But we can trust our Captain to steer the ship and carry the weight of the control. He is so good at being in control.

06/13/2025

Experts in the field say that people would rather feel guilty that grieve. It takes courage and strength to grieve.
Know you're strong enough to release yourself from guilt that's not yours.
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4. Fear of losing other family relationships.

06/13/2025

Live out your values and be fulfilled and free.

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Your values, goals, and dreams are as unique to you as your fingerprint.

Don’t make the mistake of chasing a life that isn’t right for you just because it’s been promoted by society, people you follow on social media, or those in your community. Take the time to look inward—rather than outward—when it comes to identifying the path that’s right for you.

06/12/2025

Today I found out a friend's 20-year-old child took their own life.

The fight for mental health is life or death. If you're doing well, reach out to others. If you're not doing well, reach out to others.

Call 988 if you're in a mental health crisis.
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06/10/2025

we're here to support you
https://resoulingtherapy.com/growth-mindset-and-success-how-men-can-thrive-personally-and-professionally/

It’s okay to:
✅ Feel insecure
✅ Ask for help
✅ Cry
✅ Be vulnerable

Men deserve the full range of human emotions — and the support to navigate them.

Find help and support here: nami.org/menshealthmonth