07/28/2022
๐๐ก๐ ๐๐ฆ๐จ๐ญ๐ข๐จ๐ง ๐ญ๐ก๐๐ญ ๐๐จ๐ฌ๐ญ ๐๐ง๐ฑ๐ข๐๐ญ๐ฒ ๐๐ฎ๐๐๐๐ซ๐๐ซ๐ฌ ๐๐๐๐ฉ ๐ ๐๐๐๐ซ๐๐ญ
Do you also notice yourself doing everything you can to be nice to other people and not hurt their feelings? Would you prefer to dodge potentially painful confrontations instead of confronting them?
Anxiety sufferers often make a secret deal with themselves in early childhood. They donโt acknowledge to anyone that they made this dealโฆnot even to themselves.
๐๐ก๐ ๐ฌ๐ฎ๐๐๐จ๐ง๐ฌ๐๐ข๐จ๐ฎ๐ฌ ๐๐๐๐ฅ ๐ญ๐ก๐๐ญ ๐๐ง๐ฑ๐ข๐๐ญ๐ฒ ๐ฌ๐ฎ๐๐๐๐ซ๐๐ซ๐ฌ ๐ฆ๐๐ค๐ ๐ข๐ฌ ๐ญ๐ก๐๐ญ ๐ญ๐ก๐๐ฒ ๐ฐ๐จ๐ฎ๐ฅ๐ ๐ฉ๐ซ๐๐๐๐ซ ๐ญ๐จ ๐๐ ๐๐ง๐ฑ๐ข๐จ๐ฎ๐ฌ ๐ญ๐ก๐๐ง ๐ญ๐จ ๐๐ฑ๐ฉ๐ซ๐๐ฌ๐ฌ ๐ญ๐ก๐๐ข๐ซ ๐๐ง๐ ๐๐ซ.
From that point forward you train yourself to become an anxiety harboring pro. You learn who to avoid, when to avoid them and what to say to prevent confrontation.
If you want to truly work on anxiety recovery then you will have to be willing to accept the fact that you are probably stuffing away some hidden anger and resentment.
If your coworker breaks a promise, that means respectfully calling them out on it instead of sweeping it under the rug and worrying if they will stick to their word in the future.
If your wife or girlfriend harshly criticizes you, that means telling them right there how it makes you feel and how you would prefer they communicate with you in the future instead of avoiding them and walking on eggshells when they get home the next day.
The good news is that by willingly exposing yourself to your secret anger and hurt feelings, you will be able to reduce your anxiety as a whole and you will end up being a more assertive communicator.
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