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05/06/2026

Just another Wednesday… 🫠

05/05/2026

The partner who pursues, overfunctions, and cannot seem to stop even when they can see it is not working is someone whose earliest experiences of connection taught them that love was inconsistent, that closeness could disappear without warning, and that staying in constant motion was the only reliable way to keep from losing people.

They monitor and manage and fill silences and answer questions that were never asked and carry the emotional weight of the relationship with both hands, because putting it down once felt catastrophic and they have never quite been able to convince their nervous system that the danger has passed.

That learning is old and deeply embodied and it made complete sense in the environment where it was formed, which is exactly why it is so difficult to reach through in adulthood.

In session, we slow the pursuit down far enough to find what is underneath it, which is almost always a terror so familiar that they stopped being able to distinguish it from who they are, and we help them have the experience — sometimes for the very first time — of being still in a room where stillness does not mean losing someone. When that happens, something becomes possible that the pursuit never allowed, which is the experience of being reached for instead of always being the one who reaches

05/04/2026

The couples who never fight are not the ones I worry about least. They are often the ones I worry about most. A relationship without conflict is not evidence of compatibility — it is evidence that something has been deemed too dangerous to surface. Secure functioning does not require the absence of conflict. It requires the capacity to move through it without either person feeling like the relationship itself is at stake. Conflict, when it is safe enough to have, is not a threat to the relationship. It is one of the most powerful opportunities two people have to become more sensitive to each other, more attuned to what the other person actually needs, and more skilled at being someone their partner can genuinely count on. When couples learn that they can fight and repair, fight and repair, fight and repair, and still be standing on the other side of it — still choosing each other on the other side of it — that is when the relationship actually becomes safe.

05/01/2026

The on again off again relationship does not keep coming back because the timing was never right. It keeps coming back because the pattern was never interrupted.

Distance creates psychological separateness, and separateness makes desire possible again. So the cycle resets. Pursuit, closeness, threat, distance, desire, pursuit again. It can go on for years. It can feel like the most alive either person has ever felt in a relationship. And it can be mistaken, very genuinely, for the kind of love that is simply meant to be, when what it actually is, is the most familiar thing either nervous system has ever known.

04/30/2026

Our field has quietly normalized something it should be loudly questioning. Taking 60% or more from the clinicians doing the actual work — carrying the cases, holding the trauma, managing the liability — while calling it opportunity is not a business model. It is the thing we would call exploitation in any other context. We do not get to claim we are in a healing profession and then build practices on the financial depletion of the people doing the healing.

The group practice model that takes the majority of what clinicians earn is not ethically neutral. It produces burnout, resentment, and compromised care, and then we wonder why the mental health field is hemorrhaging good clinicians. You cannot build a sustainable practice on an unsustainable foundation. And you cannot call yourself a healing-centered business while extracting from the very people making the healing possible.

04/28/2026

If you’re new here, I’m Kathy!

I work with couples and individuals who want to understand what’s actually happening in their relationships — not just the patterns, but the biology underneath them. Why we pull away. Why we can’t let things go. Why love can feel so hard even when it’s real.
My work lives at the intersection of neuroscience, attachment, and what it means to feel safe with another person. I also do relationship research and teach — because I think good therapy should be grounded in what the science actually says about how people change.
If you’re here for that kind of content, you’re in the right place.

04/27/2026

There’s no way.

04/23/2026

Avoidant attached folks can come off as unfeeling, indifferent, or checked out.

They are someone whose earliest relational experiences taught them that needing people was unsafe, that emotions were inefficient, and that the best way to survive was to become as self sufficient as possible.

That learning did not disappear when they fell in love. In session it shows up as composure when their partner is desperate for contact, as problem solving when their partner is asking to be felt, as a very articulate and reasonable account of events that contains almost nothing about their own interior experience.

The defense is not the problem. It is the solution that stopped working in an intimate context. In couple therapy, we approach the strategies with an understanding that they developed for a reason. But we also take a look at what they are costing and explore what choices can be made that are more protective and more supportive for what avoidant attached folks actually want — safety, acceptance, and the space to be who they really are without judgment.

🫧Serendipity Psychotherapy is FIVE YEARS OLD today!🫧I’ve been feeling fairly emotional and reflective over the last few ...
10/12/2025

🫧Serendipity Psychotherapy is FIVE YEARS OLD today!🫧

I’ve been feeling fairly emotional and reflective over the last few days leading up to this celebration. I’m mostly astounded at how much support I have received from teachers, supervisors, colleagues, partners, friends, and other professionals over the last five years. It has truly taken a massive team of people to envision, create, and sustain this practice, and I get to watch the day-to-day impact unfold in front of me every day.

I am so grateful for the support and encouragement that I’ve received over the years. I am also incredibly grateful to the folks that I sit with every day. Your bravery and courage is convicting, and your perseverance keeps me doing my own work too. Your healing journeys inspire mine, and guess what? We are healing together, just with a bit of professional separation. What a privilege it is to be humans together in the therapy room. Thank you for your trust — I do not take it lightly, and I strive to do my very best every day to honor your commitment to trauma recovery and secure functioning relationship.

These five years have come with a lot of growth, pain, experience, struggle, and lessons learned. I look back at the kid who was forced into starting her own practice fresh out of grad school due to exploitative practices in this field, and I absolutely affirm that this was the right choice for her. Here’s to the next five years: more growth, connection, healing, community, opportunity, and expansion in n the horizon!

10/10/2025

Been seeing WAY too much of this lately… 👀🫣

When a therapist provides both individual and couple therapy to the same people, something essential starts to unravel.

Couple therapy is built on balance — on the “we.” It’s about two people co-creating a dynamic, both shaping and reshaping the system they share. When that therapist also becomes the individual therapist to one or both partners, the balance begins to tilt. The work becomes unanchored.

No matter how well-intentioned, that overlap makes it nearly impossible to stay neutral. The therapist begins carrying information that can’t belong to both rooms. The “we” of couple therapy turns into “me versus you.” Power shifts. Safety dissolves.

Fair representation disappears, and with it, the emotional tether that keeps couple therapy safe. It doesn’t just risk harm to one partner — it harms the relationship itself.

Couple therapy should always protect the bond. Trying to hold both couple and individual therapy with one therapist fractures both. Protect the “we.” It deserves its own room.

Therapists: can we please not??

09/15/2025

DISCLAIMER:

This is a skit created for psychoeducational purposes. It is not therapy or a substitute for professional support. I don’t provide therapeutic advice over social media, and this content may not reflect what’s right for your specific relationship.

The situation in this video is fictional and based on common themes that may arise in couples therapy. The way it’s resolved here might not apply to every similar situation. Please take what resonates and leave what doesn’t.

This is meant to spark insight—not to serve as clinical guidance.

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