01/12/2026
I taught at a new senior living location, and I made an older lady cry. But in a good way.
She introduced herself as "Mary Ann Broken Leg" as she broke her leg a while go and it still gives her trouble. I teach an exercise where we rub our hands together so the friction creates some heat, and then we cup our hands over our eyes. The heat feels really soothing, "as if warm, healing energy is coming into your eyes, your head, and all through your body."
Then we create that heat twice more with the option to place it on our knees, hips, shoulders, neck..."whatever part of your body needs extra TLC." We don't label it as pain, just a part of us that could use more love. That hit a nerve with Mary Ann because she was feeling down about her leg, and this made her "feel grateful she even has a leg."
Pain, especially chronic pain, has the tendency to create a feedback loop. Something hurts, we fret about it, it hurts more often because we're constantly noticing it, we stress over it. The more we worry about when or if it's going to get better the worse it feels. Does this sound familiar? I've done this many times myself.
I'm not saying pain isn't real, but I admit there are times my pain probably isn't as bad as what my mind is making it out to be. And like Mary Ann, I start to identify with my pain and say things like, "I have a bad knee," when I should say instead, "I rode my bike too long, so now my knee is sore." If we are able to reframe our attitude around our pain or discomfort, even if chronic, we may lighten the load in our mental capacity regarding the sensation and be more rational. And adding the pain to part of our name is certainly not helpful, just as Mary Ann showed us with her emotional breakthrough.
Physical issues come, go, or stay; viewing them as problems make us feel worse. Instead, send love to those spots: strengthening with a physical therapist, massage, stretching, flowy yoga movement, getting surgery and doing the rehab. Help that part of ourselves rather than view it as a part of us that's hurting us.
Maybe it will get better, maybe worse. Worrying helps nothing. Reframing may require mindfulness and patience, but we can practice. π₯°