Find Clarity with Ellen Burn

10/27/2025

When you always pick up the slack instead of speaking up, it might feel easier in the moment… but it comes at the cost of resentment and disconnection.

Part of healing relationship trauma is breaking the habit of over-functioning and learning to voice your needs—even when it feels uncomfortable.

Your feelings matter. Your needs matter. And healthy relationships make space for both. 💛

10/06/2025

Most people say they want deeper connection… until it means putting their rawest fear on the table. 👀

What gets in the way? It’s often shame, past wounds, and the belief that being vulnerable will only backfire.

And let’s be honest—not every relationship is emotionally safe enough for that level of openness.

This is the moment therapy gets real—and where the deeper healing happens.

Are you brave enough to go there?

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05/12/2025

Relationship trauma doesn’t always come with a clear label. It can leave you feeling confused, isolated, or filled with a kind of grief that’s hard to explain. When the pain comes from someone you trusted, it can shape how you see yourself and how safe it feels to connect with others. If this speaks to you, it makes sense that this is hard. Save this post if it resonates—you might want to come back to it.

02/14/2024

Happy Valentine's Day!!!!!! 🌹🌹 I'll never get tired of this song.

Happy Valentine's Day! Here’s a musical look at your brain on love.↓↓ Links & Info ↓↓SUBMIT A QUESTION HERE: http://www.npr.org/skunkbearSUBSCRIBE: http://bi...

09/14/2023

First blog post: How to Regulate Yourself During Difficult Conversations | https://findclaritywithellen.com/couples-how-to-regulate-yourself-during-difficult-conversations

08/09/2023

The things that make life more meaningful are probably on the other side of uncomfortable emotions and risk. Can you think of a time when you did something meaningful and difficult? How did you stay focused on what was important to you?