Mindfully Fierce

07/04/2022

10/16/2021

Don’t miss this amazing opportunity to spend a replenishing fall weekend in the mountains of NC with a group of caring, resilient women! Register now! https://www.thecompassionguide.com/retreat

09/24/2021

Can you imagine how it would feel if we were all less reactive and more compassionate? Do you want to be part of that world? It starts at home, in our own hearts. Join me on this adventure of spreading compassion from the inside out. Register for my 8-week Mindful Self-Compassion Class series NOW! It starts Wednesday and spots are limited! www.thecompassionguide.com/msc

"One generation full of deeply loving parents would change the brain of the next generation, and with that, the world." - Charles Raison

09/23/2021

Compassion + Insight = Empowerment! Get empowered with a Mindful Self-Compassion 8-week Series for the exceptionally LOW rate of $117. Register at www.thecompassionguide.com/msc!

You already have ALL you need within to make your light shine brightly for yourself and the world. Stress, hardship, polarization, an empathy deficit...we are plagued by these in our society today, yet we CAN and we MUST rise up TOGETHER. Self-compassion is the well from which compassion is drawn. Please join me on this life changing journey!

Self-compassion is the well from which compassion is drawn. Mindful Self-Compassion empowers you to keep your well full.

09/18/2021

This is WHY I do the work I do, and it starts at home, in my own heart. Unconditional love for our children (and I mean our COLLECTIVE children) goes only as deep as our unconditional love for ourselves. We are all parents to our world's children regardless of blood, skin color, or nationality. It is incumbent upon ALL of us to do the work. Please join me. Rubes Quiz and I are teaching a Mindful Self-Compassion class beginning September 29th. We would love your presence. Register now - spaces are limited! https://www.thecompassionguide.com/msc

09/07/2021

"She is less fiery." This is how my husband explained to my mom the impact Mindful Self-Compassion has had on me. She knew exactly what he meant. When I am hurting, I get "fiery", in others words, irritable and short-tempered. Sometimes I verbalize it, which results in hurting others too. More often...

09/07/2021

06/22/2021

Before mindfulness and self-compassion became part of who I am and how I live, my "negativity bias" and stress response was rather active and sometimes chronic. It still gets activated often, but I have much more awareness and control in how I respond. Let me share an example:

This morning, I noticed a big, nasty smear of bbq sauce on the oven handle, and I thought, "Why would you (i.e., husband) just leave that there and not clean it up?"

Pre-mindfulness and self-compassion reaction: Irritation rises and extends to more than the bbq sauce..."Of course he left the dirty pan too for me to clean up. That is so inconsiderate." I miss all the things he DID do. My outward response to him becomes cold and distant with clipped, short words, and I feel tense and miserable.

This morning's response: "I will go ahead and clean that up." As I clean it up, I think, "I am glad he made dinner for the boys. I appreciate it. And he washed the dishes. There are a lot of wonderful things he does." After I clean it up, I feel balanced and at ease.

We humans have a tendency toward negativity. It is called the "negativity bias", and it can be hard to unwire in our brains because it is part of our evolution and how our ancestors survived - by being on the lookout, always, for danger and threats. When the negativity bias is activated, so is the stress response. Frequent, chronic, or extended activation of the stress response can lead to or worsen mental and physical health ailments, like anxiety, high blood pressure, and insomnia.

I know mindfulness and self-compassion can sound like a bunch of woo woo to people, and I am a living example of someone who thought exactly that. Now, I believe in this woo woo, and I want to share it with the world. Get a taste for yourself next Monday, June 28th from 5-6 PM ET. Register for a spot in the Taking Care for Caregiving workshop: https://www.thecompassionguide.com/book-online

I am delighted to be offering this with my friend and co-teacher in New Zealand, Dr. Robyn Charlton - the Mind Fitness Doctor.