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06/10/2021

So SO true

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05/26/2021

Many people seek for happiness in external things.
“I’ll be happy once I get that car.”
“I’ll be happy once I get that house.”
“I’ll be happy once I get that job.”
“I’ll be happy once I find my soulmate.”
Always seeking for happiness in the next moment, and the next moment, completely overlooking the happiness that is available in this moment.
True happiness is not dependent on circumstances, but on your state of being. True happiness is within.
Say you get that house you’ve always wanted—then what? You’ll have to keep it clean, you’ll likely worry about it, strive to protect it, fear anything may happen to it, and your attitude toward it will likely change eventually, as all things do.
Say you find your soulmate—then what? You’ll still have challenges in the relationship, personal issues that interfere with the harmony between you and provide opportunities for growth, you will fear losing them, and may suffer if they eventually pass, as all things do.
The point is that there is no final destination to reach. Things keep moving, life keeps changing. The thing we desire and see as the cause of our happiness will eventually change, as will our attitude towards it, and this is only natural.
The issue is in thinking we can get lasting happiness from something impermanent. Lasting happiness comes from being able to accept and appreciate life through all its changes, however it shows up. Lasting happiness comes from settling into your own natural being, here and now in the present moment.
If you are at peace in your being, you can enjoy whatever experience you have, without clinging to it and thinking it is the source of your joy.
We can only connect with our natural being when we stop racing and chasing things outside of ourselves—when we slow down, pause, and simply be.
Then we can be at peace right here and now, content with whatever happens. We can be destination-less, realizing the joy is in the journey, not in the destination.
An old Zen saying states “having no destination, I am never lost.” I believe it is in this spirit of being that one finds true freedom and happiness.

05/26/2021

So SO true.

“We're all going to die, all of us, what a circus! That alone should make us love each other but it doesn't. We are terrorized and flattened by trivialities, we are eaten up by nothing.”

~ Charles Bukowski (Art print by ARTito: https://society6.com/product/charles-bukowski-black-quote_print?curator=quotesyes)

03/17/2021

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03/10/2021

03/10/2021

Can we have a real convo?

Lord knows and so do y’all - I’m no counselor. I unashamedly see one, tho.
And throughout most of my life, I have given people the straw. I have given people along the way the authority to control, manipulate and hurt me. I let them do it, and then I whined and complained and cried because they dd. I didn’t realize I had a choice in the matter.

I always thought that in order to love I had to allow - ANYTHING and EVERYTHING. Boundaries were not ok and laying my life down for a friend meant laying my own mental health on the altar and sacrificing the crap out of it.

“Here I am. Wear me out. Drain me. Beat me down. Take it all and never give back. I’ll show you what being a Christian and selfless love looks like.”

I believed this with all my heart, until I started hating who it was turning me into - a bitter human. An exhausted woman. This could surely not be the way to do it.

Where is the balance? 🤷🏻‍♀️ Let me know when you find it. I have found, though, that I am only able to give of myself if I actually have myself to give. And letting the takers drain you leaves nothing else for the ones who really need and appreciate your love and attention. I am learning that sometimes boundaries are necessary and right and that the ones who are challenged by your boundaries are usually a) the ones you’re setting the boundary with, or b) the ones who have their own trouble setting boundaries themselves.

It has been a continual challenge for me, but I’m learning how to protect my heart without forming a wall. I’m learning how to walk away from toxicity and to value myself by being aware enough to make the necessary changes.
Thank you, next. ✌🏻

It is such hard work, but I have more peace, cry a lot less, and am more present to give my real self to my husband and kids and people who truly value what I have to give.

I sure hope you’re doing the same. - loving yourself enough to take care of you, and to make hard moves even if others don’t understand. 💗

02/20/2021

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