11/21/2025
๐๐ผ๐ ๐๐ฒ๐ถ๐ป๐ด โ๐๐ผ๐ป๐๐ฟ๐ผ๐น๐น๐ถ๐ป๐ดโ ๐๐ฎ๐ป ๐๐ฐ๐๐๐ฎ๐น๐น๐ ๐๐ฒ ๐ฎ ๐ฆ๐๐ฟ๐ฒ๐ป๐ด๐๐ต
For most of us, the word controlling carries a heavy, negative charge. We associate it with rigidity, fear, or trying to dominate situations. But like every trait, control has both a shadow and a light. When itโs healed, conscious, and expressed with intention, being controlling is not a flaw... itโs a power.
If youโve ever been told youโre โtoo controlling,โ this is the reframe your soul has been waiting for.
๐ฌ๐ผ๐ ๐๐ฟ๐ถ๐ป๐ด ๐ข๐ฟ๐ฑ๐ฒ๐ฟ ๐๐ผ ๐๐ต๐ฎ๐ผ๐
At its core, control is an instinct to create stability. Some people crumble in chaotic situations. Others freeze. You? You step forward. You organize, assess, and direct.
This is not dysfunction... itโs leadership.
Your ability to bring order where others feel overwhelmed is a sign that your energy naturally knows how to anchor a space.
๐ฌ๐ผ๐ ๐ฃ๐ฟ๐ผ๐๐ฒ๐ฐ๐ ๐ช๐ต๐ฎ๐ ๐ ๐ฎ๐๐๐ฒ๐ฟ๐
Many people who carry controlling energy are protectors by nature. It comes from lived experience... childhood, past lives, intuition, or simply being the one who others lean on.
When conscious, this becomes a strength because you know how to:
guard your peace
maintain boundaries
shield loved ones
prevent harm before it happens
This isnโt controlling. Itโs awareness with purpose.
๐ฌ๐ผ๐ ๐ฆ๐ฒ๐ฒ ๐๐ต๐ฒ ๐๐ฒ๐๐ฎ๐ถ๐น๐ ๐ข๐๐ต๐ฒ๐ฟ๐ ๐ ๐ถ๐๐
Control-oriented people tend to notice the subtleties... the energy shifts, the small clues, the unspoken things. This heightened perception becomes a powerful tool in:
intuition
planning
manifestation
reading people
facilitating healing
Itโs not about micromanaging. Itโs about seeing what others overlook.
๐ฌ๐ผ๐ ๐ง๐ฎ๐ธ๐ฒ ๐๐ป๐ถ๐๐ถ๐ฎ๐๐ถ๐๐ฒ ๐๐ป๐๐๐ฒ๐ฎ๐ฑ ๐ผ๐ณ ๐ช๐ฎ๐ถ๐๐ถ๐ป๐ด
While others hesitate, you move. You direct the energy. You create momentum. You make decisions when no one else wants to.
This action-forward approach is incredibly valuable when:
leading teams
navigating uncertainty
managing business
guiding spiritual or emotional processes
Initiation is not control... itโs courage.
๐ฆ๐ต๐ฎ๐ฑ๐ผ๐ ๐๐. ๐๐ถ๐ด๐ต๐: ๐ง๐ต๐ฒ ๐๐น๐ฐ๐ต๐ฒ๐บ๐ ๐ผ๐ณ ๐๐ผ๐ป๐๐ฟ๐ผ๐น
Every trait has two expressions.
Shadow control sasay
โI donโt feel safe unless Iโm managing everything.โ
Light control says:
โI guide the energy with clarity and intention.โ
The shadow is fear. The light is mastery.
When control transforms into its healed form, it becomes:
discernment
structure
emotional maturity
direction
intuitive leadership
This is the moment control turns into self-mastery.
๐ฌ๐ผ๐ ๐๐ฟ๐ฒ ๐๐ต๐ฒ ๐๐ผ๐ป๐๐ฎ๐ถ๐ป๐ฒ๐ฟ
Some people are meant to flow like water.
Others are meant to be the cup.
If youโre someone who naturally takes charge, directs the room, organizes the energy, or creates the structure for growth... you are the container. You create the environment where everything else can flourish.
That is not being controlling.
That is being the guide.
๐ง๐ต๐ฒ ๐ฅ๐ฒ๐ณ๐ฟ๐ฎ๐บ๐ฒ
Being controlling is only a weakness when itโs rooted in fear.
Being controlling becomes a strength when itโs rooted in intention.
It means you are someone who:
leads with clarity
creates stability
notices the subtleties
holds the space
protects the energy
shapes outcomes consciously
Youโre not here to shrink that part of yourself. Youโre here to refine it and use it as the spiritual technology it truly is.
If youโre feeling the shift and want deeper guidance, support, or personalized intuitive insight, you can book a private session, reading, or healing with me.
Letโs uncover your strengths, dissolve the fear, and align you with the life youโre meant to lead. Your next level is waiting.
May all your dreams come true. I'm so looking forward to reading you,
Ellie Lieberman | Be Guided by The Light
Intuitive Services: Spiritual Guidance | Tarot Readings | Mediumship Intuition can take on many forms. Throughout my years of practice, I discovered my style to be compassionate, patient, and straightforward. It's noteworthy that as I guide my clients through their journey, I continue to transform a...
